How does one look sexy?

[Eesha]

Just this......I always feel I look comfortable with a big smile. Hair that falls into a neat parting. I want a more sexy, sultry look but can’t figure out how.....

I don't think it's much to do with heels or red lipstick. Sexy is something that some people just are.

Feeling comfortable and confident is the key IME. So heels are out for me and a lot of people who cannot walk in them and just look awkward! In fact, big stompy boots do the job for me 😁

Tired you are absolutely right - it comes from the inside.

Sexiness is a mindset coupled with a certain aura. You’ve either got it or you haven’t.

A woman can be beautiful but not sexy at all.

Thanks for all the tips. I posted originally as my partner always said I was sexy because I didn't know it. Now we have separated, I look at myself in the mirror and just see a nice girl, nothing sexy or sultry. I guess my confidence is quite low at present so I just want to see this sexy woman looking back at me in the mirror!

I think that clothes that shouldn't go together work well. For example, a floaty dress with leather jacket, lacy top with jeans, long skirt with DMs and stockings ...

I think you also need to have a twinkle in your eye and believe you're the sexiest woman alive.

Nothing sexy about stilettos or make up, that is just a bit of a "hard" look. (It can look very cool! But not always sexy)

In fact, looking a bit more "undone" often works more sexy imo

We all know sexy when we see it, but we don't know how to recreate it (well, I don't)

Weirdly, I think thay sometimes a person has it and other times in their life they don't, evrn though nothing about their outward appearance has changed.
Sexy is an elusive thing!

I feel sexier since I grew my hair long. I like how it falls. Not sure if it’s the hair though or how the hair makes me feel?

Surely everyone has different definitions of what “sexy” is? I think there is a stereotypical idea of a woman who is wearing a tight dress, high heels, red lipstick, swishy hair etc, but I know my partner thinks I look “sexy” when I am pottering about on a weekend morning with unwashed hair and bare feet, wearing his t-shirt. I want to look chic, stylish, cool, but it actually never crosses my mind whether I look sexy or not, with maybe the exception of if I am buying underwear.

In fact, looking a bit more "undone" often works more sexy imo

Yy definitely

I think french girl type shaggy hair is sexier than a swishy blowdry, i think bralettes that show the natural shape of breasts and a bit of nip are sexier than padded bras that hail everything up and forward, i think sheerer makeup that shows your freckles/skin tone is secier than full coverage foundation - but then what is sexy to one person isn’t sexy to another, and if all that stuff that i don’t like on me is liked by the woman next to me and she feels confident and happy when she wears it, then that becomes her sexy. Iyswim.

...sideboob’s really fucking sexy tho. You can’t go wrong with sideboob. Get em out

Wear whatever you want. All you need to do is think about good, no, great sex and let that thought show in your eyes.

I look cute not sexy, it's realky annoying.

"sexy" is different to everyone and it depends on the type of person you want to find you sexy. My DH calls me sexy when I wear jeans, a t-shirt, converse shoes and chuck my hair up in a pony tail - my go-to outfit when I'm off to the shops for milk!

Leather jackets and hoop earrings might be sexy to some - but probably not the type of person I would find sexy in return.

..sideboob’s really fucking sexy tho. You can’t go wrong with sideboob. Get em out

I don't think this is sexy at all, I think it looks a bit cheap and try hard. It's true to say that we all have different ideas of what's sexy though.

Hair down and the walk.. confidence natural hip sway type.

Clothes that show your figure and shiny lips

It depends what your body is like as well. If you have a great figure cami top or t shirt and jeans look great if youre plump a dress and heels.

I’m on the large side but my friends tell me I have an inherent sexiness 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’m quick to laugh and joke, always wear red lipstick, that’s all I can think of. When I consciously want to feel sexier I put on a bit of Dove gradual tan, make sure my nails are painted and wear black or add some white/tan/gold/silver to it. I’ve dyed my hair platinum blonde and it’s default look is bed head which lots of people had said looks sexy. Purely accidental and laziness

"I don't think this is sexy at all, I think it looks a bit cheap and try hard"

naaah, sideboob is much classier than front cleavage. obviously not for a job interview or something but in the context of talking about how you like to look when you want to look sexy - isn't it all 'try hard' ? wearing make up is try hard, shaving your legs is try hard, fake tan is try hard, Spanx are try hard - putting a garment on that shows a specific bit of you vs another bit is way less effort than the above. why do some women feel the need to shame others like this? I think there's a lot of hatred directed towards styles of dressing that say 'I like my body, here it is' vs styles of dressing that say 'my body isn't good enough so look, I've changed it as much as I possibly can'.

Personally I think sexy is being happy and confident in your own skin and style.

You don’t have to get your norks out to achieve this in fact I think
that is the opposite of sexy- desperate and try hard.

Side boob is tarty and attention seeking because nipple slippage is easily done there and "look no bra!" Also it shows the bottom curve of the breast so you actually see the whole side boob you see the full shape pretty much. Not much left for the imagination. Just go topless. You can like your body and not have your bits hanging out.

I think sexiness comes from confidence - you can wear all the "right" things but if you're uncomfortable with it or not feeling it, you come off as awkward and uncomfortable. Finding your comfort zone and then pushing the boundaries a little bit can give you the 'spark' when you know you look good and it's a bit out of your norm. You need to find your own self worth, self confidence and once you do the sexiness thing will come by itself in my experience

I would love to know how to dress sexy as a pear shape, it doesn't really feel possible.