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Looking old and haggard at 42 how can give myself a boost

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Generallyok · 19/04/2018 16:11

Spent my 20's and early 30's being told i looked like a teenager but the last few years I've aged dramatically. I'm exactly the same weight as I was at 20 but when I told someone I had a big birthday coming up 2 years ago they presumed i meant 50! I have so many frown lines and wrinkles under my eyes. I went for some highlights recently hoping they would give me a youthful boost but no one has even noticed. I used to be able to put makeup on and feel good but now I feel like a clown. My mum at 70 looks younger.Anyone felt the same and done something that has given them a youth boost?

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Growingboys · 19/04/2018 16:12

Botox

Pibplob · 19/04/2018 16:19

I’m 38 and am noticing I am aging now. For me, I think the three things to focus on are hair, teeth and weight. If those three things look good then you’re doing well. Unfortunately for me my hair is going dry and frizzy, I’m 2.5 stone overweight and my teeth are starting to go wonky again after braces in my teens! I think those are the theee things that are aging me.

TheBetty · 19/04/2018 16:31

I'm exactly the same weight as I was at 20

That might be a problem right there, being too thin when older is very ageing, most people look better with a little weight on when older.

Delatron · 19/04/2018 16:33

I think the most dramatic ageing tends to happen between 41 and 45 and it's a shock
if you've always looked young for your age.

Have you seen the threads on Retinols/ retin-a? You need to do lots of research and build up slowly but , this and sunscreen are the only things that you can out on your face to help ageing really. Though vitamin c serums help the skin too.

Do you use SPF every day?

Then you have the options of Botox/filler. I'm 42 and it's not a route I've gone down yet but some will rave about the effects.

I've had laser facials and a course of Caci which has helped.

ZetaPuppis · 19/04/2018 16:37

Alcohol is quite aging so cut down if you drink a lot.
Drink lots of water too.

I went vegan for a month and by the enf of it, people kept commenting on my skin and how nice it looked. I’m trying to go back to it again but it’s too hard.

lisam78 · 19/04/2018 16:40

Could have written this post myself! Watching with interest!

UpperWallop · 19/04/2018 17:15

I'll give you a boost.....wait til you're 46 and your face starts to melt. Wrinkles are beginner level quite frankly!

Anyway, Botox, fillers, retinol and spf.

LifeIsFullOfKumquats · 19/04/2018 17:19

I'm the same age and suddenly looked haggard and old. After some Botox on my forehead/frown lines and having my front two top teeth veneered, people keep telling me how well I look! And I feel great too so think that helps

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 19/04/2018 17:22

Totally disagree thebetty if OP has been slim all her life that will not be what is causing her to look older, it’s loosing weight when you are older, if you have never been slim, that causes the haggered look. I am pretty sure that If the OP suddenly put on half a stone or a stone all her “frown lines and wrinkles under her eyes” would magically disappear.....not.

Bluntness100 · 19/04/2018 17:25

Agree with Betty, too thin over a certain age can be very aging and make us look much older than we are. This doesn't mean you need to be heavy, simply something like mid healthy bmi, 22-23, is usually better for our faces.

Sadsnake · 19/04/2018 17:30

I'm 45 and I feel and look hiddious..but I put that down to having 4 kids..they have drained me ...I look utterly defeated and gray according to my friend

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 19/04/2018 17:32

Slimness is always associated with youth.

Janus · 19/04/2018 17:35

I’m nearly 48 and feel the same! I haven’t any fillers etc but I’ve been looking into a hydra facial which is meant to give you a youthful glow but don’t know anyone who’s had one!

GibbousMoon · 19/04/2018 17:41

Can you have your teeth lightened. Being able to confidently smile a wide smile makes you look good if not younger.

MikeUniformMike · 19/04/2018 17:42

Posture. Do weights and/or pilates to perk your body up.

UpperWallop · 19/04/2018 17:43

Save your money Janus. Any superficial facial is simply a waste of money. Beyond being relaxing (if you have a good therapist), they don't give any real discernible results.

ificouldwritealettertome · 19/04/2018 17:44

I look old and haggard at 28 but I'm afraid that's the only boost I can give you!

I really do by the way. I feel it as well

AKingdomForACarrotstick · 19/04/2018 17:44

I'm with you re the weight. I'm mid 30s but rapidly going from slim/toned to scrawny/saggy. Such a pain, I'd happily put on half a stone or more even just to sort of cushion everything up a bit!

Bluntness100 · 19/04/2018 17:54

Bettyboo, you're missing the point of the other Betty's post. There is a difference between slimness and thin. She is talking about thin.

lindyloo57 · 19/04/2018 18:46

i am 57, and only half a stone more than my twentys i am now 9 stone, i feel it was when i hit my 5os i started to look older, more lines around eyes and some lower face jowls ,fighting it all the way with Retin A , only because i cant afford botox.

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 19/04/2018 19:22

bluntness Where have I said thin?I have said slim in all my posts, big difference.

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 19/04/2018 19:37

Akingdom if you think that will work you could certainly have fun doing it! Would actually be an interesting experiment, would that half stone or stone still keep you in the slim range or would it make you overweight?

OCSockOrphanage · 19/04/2018 19:51

The effort you put in now, whether into researching skin care or exercising will pay dividends when you enter menopause. The changes are significant, whenever you hit that barrier, but if you have looked after your body, the decline and deterioration changes are likely to be a bit slower.

So sun screen for your face any time you step outside after March (in winter you need vit D), moisturiser, water/hydration morning and evening, your five (or seven) portions of fruit and veg daily, walk a bit further each day. Have good genes. Avoid stressing yourself; some stress is good as it stimulates, but refuse imposing perfectionism on yourself. Good enough is better than many people. And find odd moments to reflect on your good fortune.

OCSockOrphanage · 19/04/2018 20:01

Pilates mat work and staying interested in life/culture are also rewarding. There comes a time when you are no longer long, fertile and hot and it lasts a lot of years, so your brain has to compensate.

Bluntness100 · 19/04/2018 20:06

bluntness Where have I said thin?I have said slim in all my posts, big difference

Oh my. You didn't l the other poster you disagreed with did.

She said That might be a problem right there, being too thin when older is very ageing

You then disagreed with her and started havering on about slimness. I am trying to tell you she did not say slim was an issue and rheee is a difference between slim and thin. She said too thin can be an issue and she is right.

Please read things carefully before firing from the hip. People should not have to take time to explain things plainly written.

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