Constant commenting about my clothes

[Tanfastic]

So I like clothes, fashion, shoes, handbags. I do not have expensive taste but I like to look nice and make the most of my (ageing) appearance. Most of my clothes are from supermarkets, sales or H&M. I don't smoke and I hardly drink. Clothes are my thing. I work full time and I have a half decent disposable income......now here's the thing.

There is someone I work with who constantly comments (I mean nearly every single day) on my clothes. Mainly the same comment which goes something like this...I walk into the room, she says bloody hell you've got so many clothes. Then she'll say to another colleague ...."hasn't she so and so...Tanfastic has so many clothes. "Another new top"...(I've worn it before)...more clothes than anybody you...more bloody clothes. Look ok at her so and so...more bloody clothes, so much clobber that one.

Today, I walk into her office....."is that a new top"?

Me..."no I've had it a couple of years"
Her..."not seen it before"

Her...."more bloody clothes than anyone you....more clobber etc etc etc.....on and fucking on.

Every single day for the last two years....

It's pissing me off and becoming boring now. I've tried taking the piss out of her comments....but still she doesn't stop. I've tried ignoring but still she doesn't stop.

Colleague earns twice as much as me. I know her very well and she has the disposable income to buy as many clothes as me but chooses to spend it on other things.

Anybody else get this? How do you deal with it without being rude?

ask the last leg if you can borrow their "you're talking shite hen"buzzer, they also do a bullshit one

I think she deserves all the rudeness for using the word "clobber"

Yes I'd definitely go with what oohyoudevilyou says and just simply say

"Yes you said that last time I wore it' (even if you've never worn it before just stick to that) bore her death with your disinterested same answer.

She does seem obsessed with you. So also say at some point like another poster said

'Gosh you are my biggest fan, you are so obsessed with what I wear everyday'
'why is that exactly'
'I am getting rid of some of my clothes would you like them as you talk about them everyday'

I would say something like 'Yes it is new, why do you ask'? And let her feel rude/irritating etc for asking.

I wouldn't worry Mulberrysilk. It's easy to tell the difference between someone being nice and someone being snarky.

It really is time to get rude, OP. Just tell her to give it a rest because her comments are so tedious, and is she jealous (she obviously is).

Think of something to say to her EVERY day see how she likes it. " ooh Carol is that that top you had on last week?" Every fucking day

Or this 👇👌

I have this about my food. I eat proper meals for lunch in the office and had constant comments from one woman for years. I stopped it with 2 things:

1. deadpan sarcasm - “yes, this is filet mignon, frois gras and cavier with truffles and oysters” roll eyes, turn away.
2. straight forward “can you shut up about my lunch, you seem obsessed and it makes me uncomfortable”

Who on earth uses the word "clobber"? God, what an awful word...
You've been reasonable OP, time for you to say "same old top I see Carol!" "Gosh, how many black trousers do you own?!"

"This woman never buys clothes. She wears the same three tops every week on a rotation with the same pair of black trousers"

This is your answer.

Every time she comments on your clothes, you comment back about hers - "that blue shirt AGAIN, Maureen???!!!", "you must really love purple, Maureen, because you've worn that same jumper three times already this week! Don't you have any other clothes?", or "when do you get a chance to wash those black trousers? You wear them every single day!".

You have to be consistent, though. Don't ever let one of her comments pass without responding in kind and feel free to use a nasty tone while saying it. I think she might take the hint eventually.

I feel your pain OP. I've always loved clothes and do have quite a lot which I get a lot of pleasure out of wearing. I used to travel to work with a woman who would always say to me "you spend all of your money on clothes" and tell me she only had enough for 5 days. It was said in a totally passive aggressive way.

After a couple of times of hearing this, when she mentioned only having enough clothes for 5 days again I blurted out loudly "does that include your knickers?" on our packed train. She never said it again and thankfully I no longer see her.

Mulberry don’t worry there’s a difference between a compliment and someone being an arsehole 😂. Compliments I can deal with and often dole out myself.

No comments today yet.

I work with a woman whose body shape doesn't lend itself to experimenting with fashion

Pray do tell what body shape doesn't lend itself to experimenting with fashion.

'Yes Naureen, I love buying clothes-what do you spend your money on as it's certainly not clothes is it?'

As its the workplace, can you be polite but direct.

Ie please will you stop commenting on my clothes and clothing purchases. I don't like it.

Then log report to hr if she continues

I think this is bullying.

Good luck
Katy

Pure jealousy on her part. I've had this too. Can't stand people like that.

Don't engage in similarly snippy comments (no matter how tempting). It won't make it stop.

Next time she does it, ask if you can have a word, away from an audience. Tell her you'd like her to stop. It's becoming odd and intrusive.

She sounds very judgy and jealous. Maybe say ‘Well I like clothes. I’m sorry you have such a problem with that’ and walk off. At the end of the day she is not providing you with a clothes allowance out of her own pocket! It is none of her business what you wear.

My user name is from ‘Frasier’ by the way 😁

Only got as far as privateporcupine “Maureen, I’ve tried to humour this obsession you have with my wardrobe, but it’s become very tedious. Let’s assume all my clothes are either new, or old, without daily clarification. Or I will have no choice but to come in naked.”

but already I love this thread.

Have you planned your outfit for tomorrow op? As your personal shopper(!) didn’t comment today- maybe she’s storing up for tomorrow! I’m just curious, does she wear the black trousers all year round? Wonder if it will something different tomorrow as it’s warmer?! That could open the door for you to say something.

No comments today! 😂. These replies are killing me though 😂

Black trousers all year round. I've never seen her wear anything different. She has three or maybe four tops that are worn on rotation all year round. I've never known her to wear anything different in the time I've known her. Nothing wrong with that but I don't comment on her clothing so she needs to shut the f up about mine!

Don't know what I'm wearing tomorrow yet, maybe something I've not worn in a while .....

I find myself irrationally disappointed by Maureen’s restraint today. I mean, WTAF? She’s set us all up!

My standard response would be “ooh so and so, I’ll have a cup of tea if you’re making” every. Single. Time. She’ll soon stop.

I would take the super professional route and if she says it again say ‘please can I speak with you’ and tell her ‘please could I ask you to stop making frequent comments about my clothing, I am sure you do not intend to, however it is making me uncomfortable’. Then be super breezy with her.