Page 5 | 5yo brunette DD wants pink hair... how?

YesItsADebate · 2018-02-15T21:08:46+00:00

DD has asked to have pink hair over the summer holidays. She’s got brown hair with natural blonde streaks. Is there any way of doing this that doesn’t require bleaching first (I’m not prepared to do that).

Foxedme · 16/02/2018 12:10

This.

**She's 5. The summer holidays are as good as a lifetime away. Smile and nod, it will have been forgotten about by then.

If not clip in pink hair for less than a tenner

MotherofaSurvivor · 16/02/2018 12:12

How is this teaching a child to be happy with what God gave them? It is teaching them that it’s ok to change the way you look and that the natural her is some sort of blank canvas. Bloody disgusting!!!

Foxedme · 16/02/2018 12:13

Hair lights are good fun and pretty much just disappear after a bit, or wash out. You can get a set of those and play at having rainbow hair in the holidays without having any hair issues after.

TittyGolightly · 16/02/2018 12:16

How is this teaching a child to be happy with what God gave them? It is teaching them that it’s ok to change the way you look and that the natural her is some sort of blank canvas. Bloody disgusting!!!

Okay.

Original poster

YesItsADebate · 16/02/2018 12:20

😂 it’s hair chalks/spray, not a tattoo! I do my best to stop her from doodling on her hands with felt tips, if that makes you feel any better?

As an aside, did anyone else get told by their parents/teachers/friends that they would get ‘ink poisoning’ if they drew on their hands?

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britnay · 16/02/2018 12:41

My 6 year old son wants pink hair in the summer holidays. I think he'll probably go with cerise : www.lariche.co.uk/products/directions-hair-colour
Mine is plum. I love these dyes. Be prepared though, they tend to stain pillow cases! :)

Somersetter · 16/02/2018 12:55

How is this teaching a child to be happy with what God gave them? It is teaching them that it’s ok to change the way you look and that the natural her is some sort of blank canvas. Bloody disgusting!!!

I assume this is a joke but so hard to tell round here sometimes

I absolutely do believe it's ok to change the way you look. And I say that as someone who doesn't use make-up, hair dye, tattoos, etc.

Mischa123 · 16/02/2018 13:00

I use the Live stuff. I really can't get worried about hair colour. My girls really enjoyed having different colour hair and it had no effect on their ability to play or learn when they went back to school! Swimming also made it wash out quicker.

lucylouuu · 16/02/2018 13:06

How is this teaching a child to be happy with what God gave them?

I don't even know where to begin with this, if anything it would be teaching her about being happy with what her parents gave her... And it's some bloody hair chalk! It washes out straight away, it's just a bit of fun. She's not bleaching her hair and keeping on top of her roots, it's temporary and a bit of a fun. People need to live a little

Mischa123 · 16/02/2018 13:33

Just so I can get this straight, people are expected to accept that their young child has been born into the wrong body and therefore support their child in reassigning their gender but parents that let their kids have different colour hair somehow are not supporting their child to be happy with 'what god gave her'

HottySnanky · 16/02/2018 13:41

I too am struggling to reason out my reaction, which is No Way.

It's not the chemicals. It's the first hint of self-awareness, the interest in appearance, however fun or creative or "dress-up", in a 5yo that seems a few years too soon... there is so much pressure on girls to look a certain way and I am not suggesting for a minute that the OP's dd is a budding beauty queen or that OP is playing dolly; it's the tiniest, tiniest peep over the slippery slope of interest in appearance - to the "everyone else is allowed", to nail polish at the school disco, to make-up, to becoming overly interested at too young an age in looks and body image and appearance, to anxiety over those things and to mental health issues that affect so many young women and girls in today's society.

I know this will come across as a drastic and ridiculous leap from "bit of pink hair dye fun" to "anxiety over body image" but it's the closest I can get to why I would say no - because I would, and do, want my DDs to enjoy the freedom of not giving a damn what they look like, because once they do start caring about the way they look... they'll do so for the rest of their lives. And I want to keep them back, even from the tiniest, tiniest peep over the slippery slope, as long as I can. (That's not to say I won't be lending them the straighteners or banning makeup when they're old enough though. Going too far the other way is just as bad!)

Ugh. Sorry for inarticulated, clumsy and overbearing argument.

lucylouuu · 16/02/2018 13:42

what's this got to do with being Transgender?!?!

HottySnanky · 16/02/2018 13:43

Also, my just turned 5yoDD asked me the other day if she could have make-up for her next birthday. I said No, You're Too Young. Her answer was "But X at school has got lip gloss".

And so it begins....

frogsoup · 16/02/2018 13:49

I can't believe the frothing here! I'm also usually on the strict end of the spectrum but crikey. The poster upthread who said 'I can't think of a reason why not' has it spot on. It's her hair and it won't last long! I'm also a dyed-in-the-wool atheist, so the god argument doesn't wash very far with me (see what I did there?)

It's interesting though because I'm dead against makeup for kids (face paints aside!). I guess it's because having pink hair isn't about aping grownup grooming, it's just...fun.

SuburbanRhonda · 16/02/2018 13:49

Ok so why have I got this heap of sexist shit on my screen after being on this thread?

frogsoup · 16/02/2018 13:51

'even from the tiniest, tiniest peep over the slippery slope'

So you don't ever let them choose or like their clothes, or decide on bunches or plaits in their hair? In which case you are careening down the slippery slope already! My 3yo likes putting hair clips in her hair. Is she doomed?

Frequency · 16/02/2018 13:56

A child in my youngest's primary school bleached her hair last summer. She was 9/10. That is ridiculous and dangerous. DD2 tells me her hair is now snapping off and is orange.

Bleach and peroxide based colours on very young children are a whole different ball game imo. They are dangerous and have the potential to cause chemical burns, severe allergic reactions and irreparable damage to the hair.

I'd not only judge, I'd wonder why SS weren't involved.

Saying that, my 14yo bleached the living crap out of her own hair behind my back last summer. She thought she was using a blonde box dye (which is also forbidden, hence why she did it behind my back) I didn't punish her. I think the chemical cut she ended up with was punishment enough. She learned her lesson but it hasn't put her off hair colour or bleach, though she does now ask me to do it and listens when I say no rather than popping off to Tesco with her pocket money.

lucylouuu · 16/02/2018 13:56

frogsoup she is completely doomed and now destined to only care about how she looks for the rest of her life

lucylouuu · 16/02/2018 13:58

we are all aware this is just a bit of wash out hair chalk aren't we? and not bleaching a 5 year olds hair

frogsoup · 16/02/2018 14:20

lucylouu oh damn . Ah well, in for a penny - it's her fourth birthday this weekend, maybe I should buy in some peroxide for her?

MrsWoolly · 16/02/2018 14:43

How is this teaching them to be happy with what God gave them?

You could say that about anything though, ds used to like dressing up a Spider-Man, Iron Man, Ben 10, of course he's not really a Spider-Man, or any of those things, he can't fly, doesn't have magical powers.

Pre school he always wanted to dress as a princess before he became awkward if boy/girls stereotypes.

Now he's 9 he wants to be like all the footballers.

I think my line is anything permanent, damaging to the skin/hair and anything too grown up.

SadieHH · 16/02/2018 15:24

You’d wonder why SS weren’t involved in a child whose hair had been bleached? A well fed, loved, warm child...whose hair was lightened? Right.

Bleaching a child’s hair is ridiculous, but it’s not a matter for SS.

VioletCharlotte · 16/02/2018 15:28

It's just a bit of fun isn't it? Coloured hair chalks, wash in-wash our colour. I can't see the issue. Surely it's no different from temporarily or henna tattoos, or body glitter? It's just dressing up. No one minds when kids spray their hair crazy colours for comic relief.

Frequency · 16/02/2018 15:30

A nine year old child? Yup. A teen, not so much.

Bleach can cause serious chemical burns and lasting damage to the scalp and hair. No hairdresser would bleach a nine year old's hair which means it's been done at home, by a non-pro who had clearly had no clue what they were doing since this particular child's hair was orange and suffering severe breakage.

I'd be less shocked at a hairdresser bleaching their young child's hair as at least they are trained in the safe use of chemicals but I'd still judge.

Although, I've seen the damage bleach can do to a scalp when it's not used properly (skin grafts and lasting baldness in extreme cases) so that might be colouring my view.

Frombothsidesnow · 16/02/2018 15:39

I wouldn't do even a semi-permanent because of fear that it would take ages to wash out. Also I suspect my child would be bored before it was gone. I'm a dinosaur so don't know about more modern stuff but I'd have no trouble with hair chalk or wash out spray.

I wear very little make up and DD (5) is fascinated by play make up. We got her a glittery set for Christmas which was largely demolished by Boxing Day. I don't really want anything Ike that to become forbidden fruit so every now and then she gets a bit of lip gloss, and I bought her a Nivea lip salve.

For her it's currently all about fun and looking a bit different. We don't talk about her looking pretty when she's covered in glitter, and we have conversations about how boys and girls can try this stuff out. DS (4) also likes lip gloss.