5yo brunette DD wants pink hair... how?

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DD has asked to have pink hair over the summer holidays. She’s got brown hair with natural blonde streaks. Is there any way of doing this that doesn’t require bleaching first (I’m not prepared to do that).

AnyFucker chill the fuck out you're normally more reasonable, but you're bring a bit of a tit.

Perhaps she has some insight that you don't?

It’s true though. DD1 despairs of me. All her friends do x, y and z so why can’t she etc. But I honestly can’t see the harm in a bit of pink hair. I suppose the difference for me is that it’s not sexual - that’s not quite what I mean before I get jumped on (it’s early, vocab hasn’t kicked in yet) but you get the gist - like make up would be. It’s not going to make them look older. More ghastly princessy yes, but not older.

DD2 is going to have her long hair cut much shorter today and she’ll come out with it covered in spray and glitter. The kids hairdresser she goes to always does it.

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Thanks for that. I appreciate the effort even though it didn't quite do the trick

I know it's not permenant so it's not that and I don't usually care to much about girls reaching for dress up type adornments iyswim

I am genuinely curious about why it seems wrong because I can't reach for why it bothers me when someone posting about a five year old wanting to paint her nails like mummy wouldn't and lots of other similar things wouldn't. I think my DD had a Hanna Montana costume including wig at that age.
I guess it's the 'colour her hair for the summer' bit.
It's not a girl seeing a can of pink hair colour in Claire's or a one off for a party or afternoon.
It's the decision to want to change it for a longer period of time and planning that tgat seems weird and makes it less like dress up and more .something else.

Still not sure though so heads on the fence, heart is still 'nope'

Name changed as pic is outing, my 4 year old ds has had blue,silver/purple ombré, and pink wash out dyes, I don't think it's a big deal

I work in a primary school and I have to say I judge parents whose children come into school with their hair dyed.

Professionally dyed hair can look amazing on adults. On primary school children, when it's a half-arsed attempt to indulge their “individuality”, it always looks shit.

Mine wanted this too so I did slightly bleach a strip at the front and used the Live dyes.

They are much older now and not sex workers or homeless.

Mischca, what sort did you use?

I honestly don’t see the fuss about this. I’d let my kids have semi permanent dye. It’s hsrmless fun.

Having said all I have, the head would explode if any of the kids came in with pink hair! Strictly a holidays thing!

They are much older now and not sex workers or homeless

Which post are you referencing here?

I work in a primary school and I have to say I judge parents whose children come into school with their hair dyed.
You sound delightful.

I am a firm believer in "being the parent" and saying no to unreasonable requests, but I don't think there's any harm this, as long as it's temporary colour (spray or chalks). You could make a game of it and wear some yourself.

When DS2 was about 12, he asked if he could dye his light brown hair burgundy in the summer holidays (it would have been strictly forbidden at his school). I didn't actually think burgundy would suit his rather yellowy colouring very well, but I liked the fact that he had thought of this idea completely independently, and was prepared to stand up for it even though his friends weren't doing it. I did some research, and found out what sort of colour he could use that would definitely be gone by the start of term. In the end he wussed out (again entirely of his own accord) and I thought that was fair enough, but really, as long as children's hair doesn't break any school rules and it's not dangerous in any way (I probably wouldn't want them messing about with bleach at that age), where's the harm? It's a bit like when they cut bits off their own hair and make it look silly by adult standards: it's only hair. It will always grow out and they can try something different.

Pixie Lott does a range of spray colours at Superdrug. I used the pink sparkly one on my stepson's brown hair he loved it and it washes out.

You sound delightful.

Thank you, I am.

I bet you weren't expecting this response op?

My 9 year old ds wants to dye his hair blue. I think it's a bit stupid and pointless but I can't see any harm in hair chalks that wash out. I have put him off so far but I'm probably more worried about people judging me than anything.

I wouldn't put hair dye on a child in case it damages heir hair.

I don't really think it's the same as wearing make up or having Instagram. Make up would be bad for their delicate skin, and was designed to sexualise, instagram could pose all sorts of dangers, but I can't think of any real harm to a bit of hair chalk, isn't it just like playing dress up or wearing those huge bows?

Especially if it's funky colours like pink hair, if they were asking to bleach it that's different because that's quite an adult look.

Ds also like to put hair gel in in the holidays, some children like those fake tattoos.

There's a parent at the dc's school who lets her infant school dd dye her dark hair. It was bleached in the summer . I judged.

Not something my dds have ever asked for, and I've never even dyed my own hair, but I'm struggling to see a problem with this, as long as it's done safely and gone by the time she's back at school.

However I must admit I'd feel very differently about highlights, or more natural colours, which would seem way too adult somehow, rather than just fun.

I wouldn't personally use permanent dye on such a young child but would have no issue with wash in/out, sprays and chalks.

I have allowed Dd to have temporary colour in her hair on and off over the years and she had ombré semi permanent in the summer from being about 11/12. She's 15 now and has highlights all the time, but natural coloured ones - she has dark hair and a lot of the pink and oranges won't take. I did used to think that once she'd finished school this summer she'd go for a bright proper dye but no, she much prefers the natural shades these days.

I teach in a primary school and we regularly get the odd little one with a bit of temporary hair colour or glitter - certainly don't judge that! Just like I don't judge when the little girls and boys come into school with signs of coloured nail polish after a weekend.

Clip in ones from Claire’s is the only thing I would consider at that age

I bet you weren't expecting this response op?

Nope. I definitely wasn't expecting to have to defend my parenting here, although I did laugh at the idea of me 'playing dollies' with DD :o In my own defence:

• DD asked for pink hair all on her own. I don't do 'dress up', makeup for instagram-worthy hairstyles on her. She has a dressing-up box, as does DS, and has some pretend makeup that she was given as a present from a classmate at her birthday party, which she mostly uses to make her eyebrows purple.

• I said 'in the summer holidays' because I have next to no idea how hair stuff works. Recalling my own experiments with hair colour, wash-in, wash-out colours always seemed to linger for ages and I wouldn't want to risk her still having pink hair after a weekend, for instance. Hair chalks seem to be a good way forward.

• I'd consider myself pretty strict, appearance-wise. Her dad sometimes puts nail polish on her on his weekends and I remove it before she goes to school, likewise with temporary tattoos.

The problem with wash-in, wash-out hair colours is that if her hair is especially porous, it may take longer to wash out. Then there’s a chance she’ll go back to school with dirty pink hair, which imo isn’t a good look on a 5-year-old.

Wow, some people here are really getting their knickers in a twist! If a 5 year old wants temporary pink hair during the summer holidays, then what's the problem? It's not as if she's getting a tattoo or a helix piercing!

Anyway OP, I wouldn't use an actual dye because they can be a bugger to get out even the temporary ones.

I have dark brown hair myself and have used this in the past and it showed up pretty well. Washes out the next time her hair is shampooed.

www.superdrug.com/Superdrug/Superdrug-Colour-Hairspray---Pink/p/718440

We use Loreal colorista incidentally. It says it lasts 2 weeks but it's a bit less than that.

L’Oréal = nestle though.