I was told this top was "ageing", is it true?

[WatercolourFlower]

I was shopping with my friend today and was having a look at the new stuff in Joules, as they ususally do lovely patterns.

I saw this top and immediately loved it (what a gorgeous and delicate pattern!). I said this to my friend...and she immediately said how ageing it would be. Here's the link to the top, in the cream botanicals print www.joules.com/Women/Tops/Harbour-Print/Jersey-Top/Cream-Botanicals?id=Y_HARBOURPRINT%7CCREMBOT

Is my friend right? I'm not ususally affected by stuff like this and wear what I want, but a man recently said I looked much older than I was and now I'm overthinking things. For the record, I'm 20 years old.

Any advice much appreciated 😊

I'm 32 and I'd never shop in joules.

I see it as a place for skinny blonde middle class women in there 50s. Nothing wrong with that but I'm a dark curvy 32 year old

I think the top is pretty but yes something I'd imagine an older lady in.

I wouldn't have said I dress preppy really but having looked at preppy on Pinterest maybe I do a bit.

I'd say skinnies with a shirt and blazer or shirt and jumper over. A denim mini, shirt and jumper, a pinafore, striped top snd boyfriend cardigan. Skinny jeans with brogues. I'd call that kind of thing preppy.

Forgot to say, I find H&M much easier to shop online. Much easier using the search bar to narrow stuff down, it's free delivery and free returns. I just order loads to try on at home. Also the same things are often cheaper online than in store.

I do like the preppy look. Lots of good stuff from gap.

I'm a bit worried about my wardrobe now. I'd buy that to wear on a nice out with skinny jeans and I'm 40. I don't see it as something a 70 year old would wear at all.

it's not what you wear.. it's how you wear it that matters.. what looks frumpy on one person will look fabulous on another.... so wear what you wish people

Very true Gemini69.

Exunctly.

Remus, my 8yo ds drove me (and his siblings) beserk saying EXUNCTLY for a several months. He's a bit of a know-it-all, so just rubbed it in even more. Thank goodness he stopped! But you just reminded me of those excruciating months!

What does exunctly mean??

It's how the BFG says Exactly!

Merry - Sorry to make you revisit such a painful moment!

It was bittersweet, Remus. Painful memory sweet that it's over!

I’m 60 and think Joules stuff is frumpy.

Oh I really hate all this, "I'm x-years old and I wouldn't wear that", like it's some kind of 'badge'. It really isn't. There are women of considerable age who wear stuff that would cause young women to cringe at them but they blithely go on wearing it.

Women, in particular, wear all kinds of stuff that they perhaps shouldn't and apply such judgement to others. It's pathetic.

Truth is OP, if you like it and think it looks good on you then you'll be able to wear it with confidence and it will look good. Ask a RL friend if you need a second opinion.

lyingwitch if you RTFT the OP has tried it and decided she doesn't like the fit of it.

At 20 you'll get away with it. Does the model look frumpy and like a granny? No she doesn't.
Anyway, wear what you like and like what you wear. Who gives a shit what others think about what you wear?

Is it an age thing necessarily or just personal taste? I wouldn't have worn it when I was 20 and I wouldn't wear it now, some decades (coughs loudly) later. DM wouldn't wear a top like that and she's 80! However, I have a friend (not known for her sense of style) who would have worn something like that when she was your age, OP, and would still be wearing similar tops to this day.

It looks like the type of pattern one might find on a wynycette nightie but I wouldn't wear one of those either.

Oh and I haven't RTFT before Bob has a fit.
If you don't like OP then that's fine. But stop listening to your friends about fashion, if you like something (and you try it on and you like it) then wear it.

bob, I have RTFT and this 'arbiter of fashion' trope is getting on my nerves.

You do know you're on style and beauty don't you raven? The whole point of it is to talk about, you know, what people think of different style and beauty things.

Bob, that being the case wouldn't it be more pertinent to get an idea of OP's 'look', ie. colouring, style in terms of what she wears or would wear with this top?

How exactly does a comment of "I'm 106 and I wouldn't be seen dead in it as it's dowdy", help in real terms? Whole fashion houses have been 'written off' by posters on this thread...

Oh I give up. OP- carry on with looking at the preppier styles- it definitely sounds like what you are into. TK Maxx is surprisingly good for preppier bits. Also brogues look great with pinafores styled that way (your right about the Sainsbury's one btw- I went to the store yesterday to get it and it's out of stock there!)

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If there's one thing I've learned from spending far too much time on here, it's that young women get bossed about for their clothing choices as much as older women. Again I give you Kate Middleton - 36 years old and still being told off because she doesn't fit in with some people's notion of how young women should dress.

Is there a window where we don't get this? Because if there is, I must have been making a cup of tea at the time.

I do partly get it. For my generation, breaking away from how your parents dressed was very much a rite of passage and, as someone who enjoys a spot of people watching, I do miss that explosion. But a lot of young people today clearly no longer feel the need to do that - they've found other ways of making us feel irrelevant. I vote we let them find their own style.