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My husband likes shiny faces...help?!

84 replies

Polkadot1974 · 20/08/2017 21:37

So I'm in France and buying up most of the shelves of products (no clothes, too fat) and dh muses that "I've seen a couple of women like school mum x that look kind of shiny but glowing, they look lovely". Any ideas how I achieve the dewy look? I'm currently greasy and haggard all at once! Highlighter? Blusher? No powder? Posh genes? School mum is minted...

OP posts:
Heebejeebees · 21/08/2017 00:12

Serf - no! Then you have an unhappy relationship. Pleasing yourself yes, but valuing things your partners likes/wants hugely factors to a long lasting relationship I think.

RefuseTheLies · 21/08/2017 00:16

I can't imagine my husband telling me he thought another woman looked lovely. And, if he did, there's no fucking way I'd be asking advice on how to look more like her Confused

lackingimagination · 21/08/2017 00:20

To all those jumping to wild conclusions... Why is it any different than going cosmetic shopping with your best mate and them saying 'I think a dewy look could really suit you, like so-and-so does her make up' or 'I really like the dewy look that Sally at work is going for right now'. You then have the choice to agree with or disregard any suggestion/advice/throwaway comments.

LEMtheoriginal · 21/08/2017 00:21

That's the thing though isn't it. I won't even go to the hairdresser without dp and I always refer to him when clothes shopping. Partly because I think he knows what suits me best and partly because I want to look nice FOR him.

That is worlds away from him telling me another woman's make up looks lovely. Fuck that

SerfTerf · 21/08/2017 00:22

Serf - no! Then you have an unhappy relationship.

Do I ? Shock Shit. Thanks for the heads up.

SerfTerf · 21/08/2017 00:23

Exactly LEM. That's fucked up communication patterns. Particularly as OP's reaction is so frantic.

But hey ho.

squoosh · 21/08/2017 00:25

'I won't even go to the hairdresser without dp and I always refer to him when clothes shopping. Partly because I think he knows what suits me best and partly because I want to look nice FOR him.'

Cos that sounds so healthy...

LEMtheoriginal · 21/08/2017 00:29

I suffer from. Anxiety so I doubt it's healthy at all but the point I am making is that we all want to please our partners. Dp would also take my view on new clothes et and not buy if I didn't like but how would it be if I said I'd like him to change his look to resemble the fit guy at the gym.. .

placemark123 · 21/08/2017 00:30

In fairness if you can't go to the hairdressers without your DH and 'always refer' to him when buying clothes, then I would say your glass house is really pretty but maybe stop throwing stones Confused.

OP, assuming your husband hasn't locked you in a cupboard until you achieve the glow (if so that's def a bad sign) becca liquid highlighter and hourglass are def good. But only if YOU think the glowy look is nice. Grin

GaryNumanIsOlderThanGaryOldman · 21/08/2017 00:30

Shiny faces? Does sweaty count?! Grin
Your partner sounds...brave Wink
My other half is cagey even saying what hairstyle suits me. His answer is always: I like whatever makes you feel good about yourself or some such bollocks Mentioning other mums on the school run? Rookie error Grin

placemark123 · 21/08/2017 00:31

Oh crosspost LEM, sorry to hear about your anxiety, I retract my comment. Refer away.

Heebejeebees · 21/08/2017 00:44

Serf - sorry didn't mean you! I meant in general... My wording was rubbish

LEMtheoriginal · 21/08/2017 00:53

I think it was a fair comment and I probably could have worded my post better to be fair. But I stand by my original response. Unless I've missed something I'd go batshit if my dp told me he wanted me to look more like another (specific) woman

JanetStWalker · 21/08/2017 01:17

My DH likes Marilyn Monroe. I'm damn well not going to go into a flap of peroxide and start a "HELP!" thread about it

Grin
mowglik · 21/08/2017 03:15

Bloody hell OP only asked for a bit of S&B advice, and people are judging her relationship on the basis of one comment (that they were not there to hear!)

OP ignore the noise, I agree a liquid highlighter like becca shimmering skin perfector would work well. Cheaper alternatives - soap and glory glow all out cheek sticks or liquid illuminator work well for me. I would advise against the hourglass ambient trio, very spendy it does nothing for me personally!

user1497863568 · 21/08/2017 03:42

Embryolisse moisturiser, Makeup Forever Ultra HD foundation or Chanel's Vitalumiere , Becca Champagne Pop ( the cream version, not the powder).

pastapasta · 21/08/2017 06:39

Laura Mercier tinted moisturiser.

CatsAreAssholes · 21/08/2017 06:42

What ohyesiam said.

CatsAreAssholes · 21/08/2017 06:42

I'll remember this thread the next time people shout that makeup is for the wearer and not to please men.

nigelsbigface · 21/08/2017 06:48

Bit of bronzer with a tough of shimmer will do the trick op... I've got one from boots 17 on the go at the minute-it's cracking and it was only about 4 quid. I died to have one from Clarins and it wasn't half as good for teen times the price
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Other than that primer is your friend if you go for something a bit reflective-smashbox do a good one.I also like mac strobe cream as a highlighter.

With the highlighter a Touch in the shape of a c (reverse c on the other side) slightly above the eyebrow down round the eye and over the top of the cheek bones, light stripe down the nose, touch on the chin and cupids bow if you like-anywhere the light naturally touches you first is what I was told...

Dab a pale eyeshadow with a touch of shimmer of you fancy in the inner corner of your kids,or try a light swipe of white eyeliner to make you look a bit more awake. Works wonders.

WiganPierre · 21/08/2017 07:02

If my husband said such a thing to me I'd tell him I could achieve a lovely shiny, sweaty face by chasing him around the house before murdering him! The cheek!

I never ask my husband's opinions on hair, clothes or makeup. Because my taste is fabulous! I can't abide controlling men.

pigeondujour · 21/08/2017 07:34

I'd definitely chat to mine about hair/clothes and to a lesser extent makeup, but if he used a specific woman we both knew as an example nobody would ever see him again.

Cheesymonster · 21/08/2017 07:36

Dab a pale eyeshadow with a touch of shimmer of you fancy in the inner corner of your kids

Grin
pigeondujour · 21/08/2017 07:36

Also, you're not too fat for new clothes, OP.

ProjectGainsborough · 21/08/2017 08:05

Eh? I think all of us getting worked up are missing the key point. Is the OP offended? It could be taken so many ways. eg:
You could be offended that DP called another woman lovely.
You could be grateful that he's engaged and not gone into a glassy eyed coma state in the pharmacie.
Only the OP knows which.