Help me dress DD for a funeral

[madamginger]

My lovely FIL died yesterday of cancer and his funeral is next week
I have my DS clothes sorted (jeans and a shirt) but I have no idea what to put on DD. She's 10 and normally lives in leggings and Tshirts. She hates skirts/dresses.
All the stuff in next/Debenhams is either summer dresses or school uniform and my head is all over the place looking.
We've planned a humanist funeral at a crematorium so not a stuffy church affair.

I'd put her in black leggings/jogging a longish black or grey silky top.

Jeggings not jogging !!

Very sorry for your loss.

Does your DD have an outfit that she'd like to wear? If it's humanist then more relaxed regarding attire?

I'd put her in school uniform, I'm sure that's what I wore to funerals when I was little.

Black leggings and a dark tunic or shirt dress type top?

Who do you need to please with the outfit? For example, would your MIL or DHs family feel it was disrespectful to have less formal dark coloured clothes, or is the intention that it is a colourful celebration of life?

My FIL died this year. My 2 DDs wore navy & white, smart shoes. They wore dresses (Debenhams & M&S) but trousers, jumpsuit would have worked. I hated dresses and skirts as a kid too.

Leggings and a tunic top would be fine, not black though, I don't think anyone expects children to wear black to funerals do they?

Her school uniform is bright purple and green (and bloody ugly!) it's also an Election Day here next Thursday so her school is shut anyway and I don't think I'd get her in school uniform on a day off!

Let her go in clothes she wants to wear. Something she thinks her grandfather would have liked. Children don’t have to dress too sombrely for a funeral in my opinion.

Funerals don't have to be all black these days. Black, grey or navy leggings and a plain tunic in grey, blue or lavender or similar, or a discreet floral pattern - anything as long as it's not too bright and 'in your face' would be fine I think.

It's more for DH grandmother, she's put out that we're not having a full catholic mass as it is. MIL won't care if DD turns up in a Pokémon Tshirt and leggings, she's lovely and very close to the dc.

Would she wear any of these over leggings?

m2.hm.com/m/en_gb/productpage.0483394002.html#Black

m2.hm.com/m/en_gb/productpage.0370329003.html#Black

www.riverisland.com/girls/dresses/day-dresses/girls-black-western-style-t-shirt-dress-821318

My two wore tartan for my dad's funeral - DS a kilt and DD a tartan dress. Kilts and tartan can be both punky and smart?

would she wear a play suit (with tights underneath)?

www.next.co.uk/style/st185807#187278

Or perhaps something in FILs favourite colour?

My DD is also 10 and had to do similar recently for her great grans funeral. I got her plain black dress from River island with black tights and black ankle boots and black short jacket from Next. Think it's quite informal for kids xxx

I'd not even thought of H&M, the ordering can take ages from them online though. I might just have to hit the shops and have a look.

It's more for DH grandmother

Well, dd is old enough to understand that sometimes you do have to put your own preferences aside so as not to upset someone else, and this is one such occasion. But a plain dress or tunic over leggings would seem to be a good compromise.

I don't think children need to wear black for funerals - did FIL have a favourite colour or is there something she would like to wear that reminds her of him?

If not then then maybe a playsuit or a jumpsuit if she needs to be smarter?

www.next.co.uk/go6216s1

Mine wore nice dresses to my dbs funeral. They worn them with cardis and party shoes and looked smart. One dress was black and white but more cos dd2 likes those colours but dd1 was in pink flowers.

They were younger though.

Sorry for your loss.

Mine have been to lots of funerals (sadly). Clothes were really the least important thing...dd would have worn leggings and tops at 9/10/11...the most recent 3 funerals she has worn jeans. Nobody could care less to be honest with you..