If you are over 45, how do you stay fashionable?

[Destinysdaughter]

Or do you? I love fashion but tend to just wear clothes that suit my shape/colouring these days. I feel quite confident in my look and as I've always been quite busty, I've had to accept that a lot of fashionable clothes are cut for a completely different body shape and would look ridiculous on me.

So I try and stay current with accessories, shoes, jewellery etc. Wondered how other pp deal with this...?

My All Saints is full of sewing machines. Why, just why?

Mine too. Dunno.

I lurk there but won't buy because they don't give refunds and I'm very indecisive . I have to try on in store and order online.

Sorry bold fail.

Well, I'm 60, I don't think any differently about fashion now than I did 20 years ago. I still buy the odd thing from Top Shop, River Island and H&M and a few bits from Baukjen and Whistles. The main thing for me is not to wear frumpy shoes, no horrible Hotter and I look out for heels that look good but feel OK - Chie Mihara are best, but very expensive. I have to keep practicing wearing heels as it is easy to loose the skill.

Scary ?

I'm lovely!

My face can be a bit slapped arse but honestly, I'm mostly nice.

My All Saints is full of sewing machines. Why, just why?

The one in Glasgow is too. Strange.

I have recently changed jobs. Still family work but not so much on the floor with the kids stuff.
So I get to wear shoes and tights instead of leggings with my lovely frocks.
Its SO much fun. I know its shallow but its one of the reasons I am enjoying it so much

I've just realised I haven't tucked my tops into my trousers for many a long month year. Is it still possible once over 50?

I only tuck in a bit.
About a third of the front.
That doesn't work with formal wear. That would look nuts

Newcastle all saints has a sewing machine window. I love it, tbh!

I am 48 and used to be totally boho hippy chick but as you get older you need a more structured look, unless you want to look just bat shit crazy. My mum is 78 and still cares a lot and looks fabulous at all times.

Personally I think those skinny silk scarves worn looped once round over a jumper or shirt have had their day and look very tired. Cos clothes are generally boxy which doesn't suit me. Used to like Clarks but they are generally quite frumpy I find. I know what is meant about classic jewellery - gold rope chains, opal rings, ruby necklace, that sort of thing is v ageing.

The trouble I find now is I have to trudge around about 250 shops to find one decent thing. And let's not start on sleeves!!

I think this is the kind of scarf look we are saying is out now?

Hey! I've found this very challenging as I worked in fashion before having my DCs. Being out of touch and having a brand new body (yes thank you DCs for seeing off my waistline). I found it easier to follow a few lighthearted instagrammers to get ideas really helped. If you want me to give you a list then please reply! Xxx

When I wear a scarf it tends to be numbers 2, 4 or 11 in the figure. From the top left.

No more scarves for me - unless, obviously to keep warm. They draw the eye straight to the place where my jawline used to be.

No more scarves for me - unless, obviously to keep warm. They draw the eye straight to the place where my jawline used to be

Ah, maybe that explains the scarf lover / scarf hater divide.

I am using scarves to draw the eye up from the place where my waistline used to be

Kr1stina I think you may have solved one of the mysteries of the universe

It also serves to illustrate (because I'm in a pontificating mood) why style advice based on age alone is such a crock of shit.

I too use a scarf to draw attention from my (lack of ) waist.

Talking about jowls, what's the most effective treatment?

I don't know of any treatment for jowls that doesn't involve someone waving a scalpel in the region of your jugular.

Actually some people talk about facial exercises but I'm too lazy. I just keep my jawline free of clutter e.g. no earrings or high necks and I've had my hair cut a little bit shorter so that hopefully, you notice my cheekbones instead.

Facial yoga is meant to help with jowls, but you have to do it almost daily.

I've looked into Thread Lift - or "lunchtime facelift" as some have called it. Anyone considered this/had this done?

Yes please, mumsoftwins. I'm enjoying one Instagrammer mentioned upthread (myfashionable40s) Thank you to whoever that was.

Only I could do with one who's 60, short and has had twins...

TeenyFTroon sure! There is another conversation topic with these people in which is how I found them

Erica-Davies is a very nice slightly older blogger mum who finds amazing things in places like Sainsos!
Annaelerihart - she's younger but her style is timeless and she does Day outfits well (also very funny on Instagram)
Chloelovestoshop - mum of 2 or 3. Older, shops well (and a lot!!!!)

Myfashionable40s - what a fab site ! Thank you for bringing this to my attn! Altho the person running it is slim n decade/s younger than me, she has given me some fresh ideas! Via a quicky search on the blogs mentioned I also found Susie So So - fab guide to cheap bag which looks dear (H&M looky-likey) and also slogan sweatshirts/tops!

-2- Jowls - someone told me CACI is good for lifting - but you need to do a course. Anyone had experience of CACI? My pal said the girl she vaguely knows does look good on it - however she is @45 - is this why ie she probs isn't too skin-jowly yet, just needs a leetle tightening. Mine needs a bit more tightening up to the ears actually!!!!!

I've had a treatment similar to Caci, actually, called Genie. It was actually quite effective but I had to commit to a course of 10 weeks, I think it was. It was also a bit on the expensive side-£800ish.