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Spring is sprung, the grass is riz, I wonder where those Crepeys is?

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GiddyGiddyGoat · 05/03/2017 22:19

Ha!

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Cremolafoam · 24/03/2017 09:14

Also sorry to miss you Rudy pet. See you soon.

Blackduck · 24/03/2017 09:44

Sorry to miss everyone tomorrow but I think it might be for the best as very 'on edge' and would probably cry and/or get inappropriately sloshed.

MI but who is an even relationship in that respect? Dp and I are now but for years I earned (lots) more than him, for a short while he earned more - now we are even.. but we live together and things have to be paid for.

Rudymentary · 24/03/2017 09:47

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motherinferior · 24/03/2017 10:09

I came back from Ladyjogging and said cheerily, "You know, you are right. I only use the car for going to the swimming-pool - which I've only just resumed doing - and very occasional child-related pickups. I suggest we ditch it completely and just have your little two-seater as that seems to be all we need."

He got most irate and said that wasn't what he'd said ("But you said 'it's your car'." "That wasn't what I meant" - ha. I am a journalist. I also have an excellent textual/verbal memory. Do not mess with me, buster) and that I'm being obtuse. Apparently also if I don't have access to a car I will Lose Confidence and Skills (because one drive, on average, every two months really keeps these going, I've found - and it really was that before I resumed the swimming which I can perfectly well juggle with public transport or FEET). I related all this to a lovely neighbour this morning (poor thing, she'd only come to get her spare keys) who said possibly to shut me up that I was being Perfectly Reasonable and that trying to see how we cope without for six months is perfectly logical. I'm sticking to my guns.

I am also offended, quite possibly unreasonably, because he and DD2 came home last night saying they'd seen a poster at school saying I was giving a talk there - as is WAF - and oh how surprising it was because "usually you tell us absolutely everything you're doing in great detail". I feel like having a discreet affair, just to show him. (The total lack of candidates for my affections is perhaps a major problem with that one.)

hattymattie · 24/03/2017 10:35

I'm on the Eurostar crepies. Have my clumpy waterproof boots on as it was tossing it down in Paris. Practically had to wade to the station. Needless to say it is now looking much more promising.

Cloud Flowersfor funeral. My friend is also at her DM's today. She had am emergency dash to Canada for this.

MI - we drive around with a bash in the back door where I hit a pillar. We've never bothered to repair it - many cars in France seem to be dentedHmm

If we're meeting for cocktails could somebody let me know time and place. Otherwise will see you all later.

Rudy will miss you xx

Cremolafoam · 24/03/2017 10:37

Good move MI. He is punching above his weight on this one.Grin
I am waiting at dentist. My gnasher is sore and wobbly again.dammit. Probably need extraction which is not an enjoyable thing with a wisdom tooth. Feel a true hag today.

Cremolafoam · 24/03/2017 10:41

Hatty meetup tomorrow, ( in case you thought it tonight)Hmm
Never seen an unbashed car in Paris. They seem to wear bashes with a certain pride and nostalgia! I once saw a bmw squeeze into a parking place , far too small and shunting the cars front and rear to create mire spave.Shock

Cremolafoam · 24/03/2017 10:42

More space i mean

Lalsy · 24/03/2017 11:17

Cremolafoam
Hatty
Lalsy
MI
BTM
Stropps
Addle
Herbs
CV - probably
Mrs W

And WAF for just drinks, with luck

Line up for tomorrow. Sorry not to see you Rudy, and you, BD. Hatty, I am not sure what the drinks plan is as may not make it.

Thinking of you, Cloud, and your ds today Flowers. And Crem, that sounds like a horrible day yesterday - you can tell us all tomorrow if you like.

We have just rid of our car and going to try life without one for a bit: I am mildly excited at the thought of hiring one with modern accoutrements (boot that shuts, never been inhabited by a mouse, intact roof and sides, that sort of thing) for a week in the summer....as the dc got older, the time they might like to be picked up at got ridiculous so that doesn't happen any more.

MI, I do see that about wanting to be separate but also agree with BTM about the team thing - if dh is earning more than you at this point, is there some way of rejigging the household/personal account flow so you each have the same sort of spending money (depending on hobbies and and need and so on)? Sorry if that s what you mean.

Oh no Rose, about ConS - was it out of the blue?

motherinferior · 24/03/2017 11:19

Oh, he does pay in a lot more than I do. I should probably pay in more, in fact.

herbaceous · 24/03/2017 11:26

With money, we have a kind of hybrid system created when we both earned roughly the same amount. We'd both put the same amount of money into the joint account, which would then pay for mortgage, bills, council tax, food, petrol (as family expense as it ferries DP and DS around), insurance, etc. I carried on paying pet insurance and car expenses, while DP picked up a couple of other things.

We still have the JA, but only DP pays into it, ATM.

Re tax and accounts, mine are mainly a work of fiction, but I'd declare my earnings and take off a proportion of what I paid into the JA for mortgage, utilities, etc as 'expenses'. I have yet to be publicly flogged for my actions, so shall continue in this vein!

I can't remember where we're meeting tomorrow. Or when. Is it the pizza place on Trafalgar Square?

In headache news, it's still here. So not a hangover. Not helped by attending DS's school Easter service. Couldn't see a blasted thing, DS didn't know I was there, and lots of crying children, so my friend and I snuck off and had a cuppa at mine.

Kitten news. They are increasingly mental. This morning, as I came down the stairs Jerry was at the top of the coat rack. He then explored DS's breakfast drink, and knocked it over. They shove all papers on to the floor, knock over cereal boxes, and dig out blueberries from the punnet to play with. When I'm cooking, they sit on the hob and stare into the pan. And when I'm eating they use me as a playground. However, they continue to be cute As F.

Rudy - all OK? Will miss you... And all other crepeys otherwise engaged.

Lalsy · 24/03/2017 11:28

Herbs, will PM you.

herbaceous · 24/03/2017 11:40

Oh, and in 'falling out' news, DP has had enough of his best friend. They have been friends since school, have been on holiday together, etc etc. Friend now lives in Hampshire, and if DP wants to see him it has to be at friend's convenience - and easy for him to get home.

Friend is very funny, affable, good company, but terrible at emotion. Asked a fairly random colleague to be his best man, rather than DP, for example. Has never invited us to stay in their lovely house, but moans about having to spend time with another couple who he doesn't like.

And now has not rung or seen DP since his mother died. He came to the funeral, stayed for 30 minutes, then went. DP finally pointed out his deficiencies yesterday, and got a 'sorry, I'm shit' reply. DP was so sad last night, and was shedding tears. I really want to give friend a piece of my mind, but of course shan't.

wordassociationfootball · 24/03/2017 11:45

Can you PM me about meetup too, someone (Lalsyyyyy???)

Rose - v sorry about Cons fall out. That's such an important relationship.

Cloud - thanks for your thoughts yesterday. I took early to bed. No booze since Feb 21!!! Am proud lightweight.

Herbs - Get Margot and Jerry to read some threads on boundaries.

MI - I haven't mentioned the talk or been busted about it.

Crem - bonne chance avec gnasher.

I'm taking DD1 to Ikea straight after school. We are both looking forward to it and spending time together so much. She's been with Beach Boy most weekends and what with all my hospital visiting, we've not seen that much of each other. She wants 'shelves for revision guides.' How could I refuse Grin

wordassociationfootball · 24/03/2017 11:46

And Cloud, sorry, all best wishes for today.

Herbs - maybe dp's mate will come back and sort things out and mtfup???

motherinferior · 24/03/2017 12:05

Sorry for roping you into talk btw but you'll like the others - all ironically friends of mine met through MN!

Rosebag · 24/03/2017 14:29

That's sad Herbs about DPs BFF. I always lurch from being really irritated with adults who can't deal with adult stuff...bereavement, death, illness etc and think they're deeply inadequate if their discomforture is such that they can't support someone in distress....and then thinking well some people just can't deal with it, ah well. I was taken very much by surprise by some people I counted as good friends who avoided me when Ddad died. Poor Dp.

Crem I can't come tomorrow I think I said up thread and am really sorry. Did you say you were around on Monday?

The ConS debacle has been brewing for a while. We haven't openly rowed...he's a passive aggressive and PAs don't argue. They just don't respond. The stick their head in the sand and present their arse to you. And here's me, printing off scripts, surfing the web looking for places to submit, ....and he is very much avoiding it all with lame excuses. So I emailed him with a question that needs a binary answer to the effect of, did he just want to give up on this all. Yes or no. And he can't deal with it because he's a 'yes but...no but....' person. So he hasn't answered. Deadlock.

And that is why ...when I am shortly due to pick DD up from a session I am not waiting in the theatre bar, rather in a cafe up the road because I don't know what'll happen when we bump into one another.

And we have so much work to do. cries

bigTillyMint · 24/03/2017 15:00

Tomorrow Stropps and I will be propping up the bar in the usual DnS place by 5 at the latest! (Hatty I will PM you) I am hoping that someone who knows where we are eating will be there Grin Or Lalsy did you book it? Could you PM me please?

Busy day today - but TFIF And 3pmSmile

bigTillyMint · 24/03/2017 15:27

I like your style re the car, MI!

Herbs, Sorry about your DP's crap friend. It sounds like your DP is a sensitive soul and not many men are - DH definitely isn't! Hence maybe his friend just doesn't see what he should be doing/saying?

motherinferior · 24/03/2017 15:32

I anticipate massive rows about it, BTM. He genuinely can't imagine life without cars. And is quite good at browbeating me. I just don't see why I should have a Little Runaround for a minimal amount of driving.

Lalsy · 24/03/2017 15:48

You don't have to, MI, don't be browbeaten into it. My dm lives rurally and doesn't run a car. I never learned to drive ours so organised the things I chose to do in other ways, it is fine where we live (and I am sure where you live too).

Blackduck · 24/03/2017 15:58

I agree with you MI - why keep a car you use so very infrequently? You live in London - a car is hardly a necessity!

bigTillyMint · 24/03/2017 16:06

Yep, if you think it is an unnecessary expense (and your money is tight) get rid of it. It is your car, after allWink

motherinferior · 24/03/2017 16:14

DP and his three (3, iii) identical brothers all think a car is a necessity. It is one of their most tedious characteristics.

Rudymentary · 24/03/2017 16:18

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