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Crepes, Cats and Calamari

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MrsSchadenfreude · 13/02/2017 19:09

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herbaceous · 25/02/2017 18:44

I have just totally lost my shit at him. He started the 'but I do loads round the house' thing, and Ls him to fuck that shit. He is now coming.

hattymattie · 25/02/2017 18:49

I have a new phone and cannot figure out how to do a paragraph as there is no obvious "return" button. Piccadilly would be great. I would love a night in central London - also would probably disappear into the wild blue yonder if I tried to get to Forest Hill. Herbs - very annoying re DH. He's had his night out, now he needs to make an effort.

hattymattie · 25/02/2017 19:15

It's not the phone - it's the MN app - weird? I need to get the old site back ...

Cremolafoam · 25/02/2017 19:27

Oh Herbs, how many sodding carol concerts I sat through on my own, or, with dh seething at the opposite end of the pew as if he would spontaneously combust? A lot. I do hope dp gets with the sodding program and actually says nice things to your dear boy after the service. It is NOT TOO MUCH TO ASK. MTFUP.Angry

Piccadilly is grand as long as there is yummy food, that's great. What is Brass' Zedel would be marv.
I can swoop up on the Northern line to Leicester Sq.

Actually my neighbour's house is rather wonderful but as a friend, I barely see her actually.
I've just remembered why.

GGG let me think. Do you prefer not too much heat? I would agree with Lisbon, but it's very hilly and can suffer from a hot sea wind in summer. Lots of dashing about on ferries across the Tagus and lots of laneways and of course museums.
Let me think.

hattymattie · 25/02/2017 19:36

So I am back on the old site. I am not sure about the MN talk app.

Crem - I know some people with gorgeous houses but I never feel I can invite them back to this tip.

Very important to go to children's concerts. DH, on the whole has been pretty good at this and has never been grumpy.

Cremolafoam · 25/02/2017 20:07

Yes Hattie, exactly. But I sometimes get the feeling that if I asked her in she might say, oh no come to me, as if my house was a little unsavoury or something. I'm sure she doesn't think that, but you know what I mean.
Thank you Crepeys for solidarity in the face of uncertainty and wibbly lip. And BTM, for your faith in my domestic taste and travel agenting.

GiddyGiddyGoat · 25/02/2017 20:25

You were right to lose your shit Herbs. You are right and he is wrong.

Brasserie Zedel would be FAB. I've wanted to go there for ages and trust Mrs S implicitly in all things gastronomic and know she's a big fan - shall we have a call out now for numbers and try and book?

On sofa with red wine and about to watch arty documentary on Curzon Home Cinema about someone retracing the wanderings of John Clare - bliss.

Two people were stabbed on the main drag just a few minutes from us last night - in separate attacks - about 15 mins after ds2 walked home that way. Bloody hell. One of them was a 17 year old boy. Both critically ill and whole area cordoned off for most of the day.

herbaceous · 25/02/2017 20:27

It is pretty dire - lots of grade three flute pieces - but hardly super fun for me either. He's being polite but distant.

RudyMentary · 25/02/2017 20:35

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GiddyGiddyGoat · 25/02/2017 20:50

Mine was ds1's brief involvement in 5 a side football - in the dark (floodlit), outside, in freezing temperatures with ds2 in tow on a Friday evening. Joy!

Blackduck · 25/02/2017 21:26

Herbs glad he MTFU but it shouldn't have even been a question.... you just do this stuff.

Lalsy · 25/02/2017 22:01

That is truly pants, Herbs.

ds doesn't even want me to go and watch his matches but I still do sometimes - except the ones in a strange icy valley in your neck of the woods, MI.

Have just eaten the most gorgeous dinner in our local shabby chic temple to gastronomy.

Central London fine by me.

herbaceous · 25/02/2017 22:09

He's being all martyred yet polite. It's just another thing he wants, no doubt, to add to the list of 'things he doesn't do', so that I have to do them, even though they're hardly fun for me either. Eg swimming with DS, camping, driving, staying at people's houses...

RudyMentary · 25/02/2017 22:13

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GiddyGiddyGoat · 25/02/2017 22:25

What's giving you the rage Rudy??

herbaceous · 25/02/2017 22:31

I haven't shouted at him like that for years. But I'm fed up with swallowing it down for the sake of not hurting his ickle feelings. I'm allowed to feel cross or furious or generally irrational. He can stick his passive aggressive silences and resentful countertop-wiping up his arse.

What angers you tonight rudy?

RudyMentary · 25/02/2017 22:31

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GiddyGiddyGoat · 25/02/2017 22:43

Oh Rudy - step away from the drink OR the outlaws - or both!

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IDismyname · 26/02/2017 01:00

The world is now minus a lovely 19 year old. He 'went' earlier this evening.
DS staying at friends house. I think they were there at the bitter end. I'm not sure that was appropriate... But I suppose it wasn't my call.

Meanwhile I have had to grit my teeth and be 'hostess with mostess' with dear friends who we haven't seen for about a year. It's been a long night. Especially when DH emptied the dishwasher before supper and decided he'd done his bit.

Then he had the audacity to come back downstairs to ask when I was coming up?

Dfriends staying over so will have to feed and dispatch them tomorrow, then deal with fall out from today with DS.

I feel your pain, Herbs.

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Blackduck · 26/02/2017 07:21

Sorry Cloud :(
Rudy hope things are calmer this morning. Likewise Herbs. - your dp needs to learn that as a parent you can't always pick and choose which hobbies of theirs you have to show up for. Just suck it up. It not long before they don't want you within a million miles of them anyway.....

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hattymattie · 26/02/2017 08:07

Cloud - your DS sounds amazing. So mature - most teenagers would have run a mile. So sad to lose his friend but such a comfort to him that his great friends were there at the end. Your DH - on the other hand, definitely did not behave well last night. Sending strength for today.

Rudy - strength as well for shitstorm and inlaw related issues.

BD - I'm really sorry I can't help, the questions sound really hard.

Lalsy · 26/02/2017 08:38

Oh Cloud, how heartbreaking. That poor family. Your ds is a brave and compassionate young man. As for dh....breathe for nowand focus on ds I guess?

BD, they do sound hard. I am sure you will have considered this but are they a bit identifying (if someone typed a phrase into google for some reason for example)?

Herbs, the other thing is that when ds is older he won't look at you and think "I want to be like that when grow up" - he will look at his dad. My dc may be extremes and not typical but ds and dd have separated from me in very different ways. You dh should get with it now I think.

Rudy, hope you are OK and things better today.