Crepes, Cats and Calamari

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Here you go.

Byebye puss

Sorry to hear about pusscat MI and strength to Clouds ds to see him through the next few days

Oh MI. But sounds like the kindest thing to do. At least we can do that for animals.

Yes. It was amazingly quick and peaceful. It was the right thing to do.

Am just starting to miss her.

Cloud, thinking of you all today.

So sorry about your pusscat, MI, but it was the right thing to do.

I am being oddly affected by the fact that my mum died thirty years ago today. 30 years! And the date still affects me. So much sadness around death of people we love; a child of course is the worst.

Oh puss

Cloud, thank you for that wake up call re: our own kids. Quite unbearably sad...

Molly that feels very sad. Xxx

I'm sorry about DSs friend cloud Dealing with terminal illness of a friend at such a young age is quite terrible and cruel not to mention what it's doing to the poor parents.

It was the right thing and am relieved it was peaceful MI.

It was the kindest thing to go, MI, sad though it was

Molly, I think anniversaries always resonate, however long ago they are. Thinking of you xxx

Cloud, hope your DS is as ok as possible in the circumstances. Those poor parents. A timely reminder for us all.

Thanks for all the info re Friday. I will confirm final numbers with resto tomorrow. Looking forward to seeing those who can make it - DH will be at home so I may be able to get to the D and S bit as well.

Sorry, MI, I meant the kindest thing to do. X

Molly i know that feeling exactly. 17 years here for late brother, which is UNBELIEVABLE. In my head its only a few years ago. Thats is the length of time we have had dd /dn. weird.shit...
Also the 90s were 10 years ago , werent they?

Ach MI. Rip little pusser of love. May her afterlife be full of mice to be chased and clouds to purr upon.

Cloud, how are you today. You have been through a lot yourself, it must be agony to be going through it all again with ds and friend. I hope dh is being supportive there

Sorry Molly - you must have been young when you lost your mum so it will be particularly poignant

Molly

Just to add to the general gloom and despondency: I spoke to my dad to make arrangements to go out for supper after the funeral on Friday. He said he can't think beyond 1.15pm on Friday so whatever I want to arrange is ok. This has really hit him hard - supporting others through grief is as difficult to manage as one's own direct emotions I think. I wasn't particularly close to my uncle - it's sad but he was old and had had a good life so not a particular cause for distress. But seeing my dad so upset by it has really hit me.

Sympathies to Cloud who I imagine is similarly hit - and so recently after direct grief must just intensify the emotion.

Thanks for all your sympathy. I still find it remarkable that Feb 22 hits me this way every time; I'm careful not to arrange horrible/difficult things for that date because I know I'll be feeling off. You are right, BTM, my dad's death date doesn't hit me as hard - he was a good age, and it was as good a death as they come, plus I had spent a lot of time with him as he died. Mind you, I spent a lot of time with mum as she died, too; but it was previously not a good relationship, so that always hung over us. You might say "some resolution was achieved". or you might not

Molly, it is such an odd thing. I don't miss my df - I didn't really know him as part of my life as it is now - he died 24 years ago. But I mourn the lost time, the grandfather he would have been, and the questions I can never ask.

And Crem, you are amazing . How is dd doing?

And MrsW, Cloud and all feeling sad. I hope Cloudlet is doing OK.

MI, it was the right thing.

In hosp with my mum who fell v hard this morning and had a small brain bleed. She's confused but stable.

Oh fuckeroony WAF. Let me know if I can offer any pathetic local help.

Oh goodness WAF, I am sorry to hear that. Wishing your dm better asap.

Sorry about your puss-cat, MI. Seems to have been a bad few weeks for felines. My neighbour's lovely old moggy also took her final journey to the vet a couple of days ago.

Oh no, WAF, so sorry to hear that.

Oh Waf what a shock. How is your dm now? Do let us know if you can.
I was just going to post about Spain, but I'll hold that thought.

Have just thrown up on the bus. Too warm, headache, woozy vision. Bleurgh.

Molly, I hope you have a treat lined up for later. Do you mark the day in any way? We could raise a glass 🥃 later en masse. Didn't mean to talk over you remembering your mum by mentioning my lb. Just sent up a balloon 🎈 ( a hangover from when dd was little) yesterday, and it was on my mind.
I have had a day of saying one thing and being completely misunderstood by people. Best go where other people are not.

No, I don't mark the day; you have a point, Crem. As you can imagine, it's no use telling dh either. If I were up to it (which I'm not, this year) I'd scan in a photo of her and commemorate her on FB. I could certainly plan to do that next year - good thinking.

In the meantime, thanks for the Crepey thread where I can talk about it.

to Colly and Crem.
Hope things go ok on Fri, MrsW. Sorry your pa is so sad.

Sorry also about job rejections. Hope for more positive things for you soon, MI and Herbs.

Am struggling to keep up with thread and sad to miss so many MUs. Have a DnS for me on Fri.

Miserable about your ds's friend, Cloud. A colleague at work has just been told that palliative care is the only option left for his 16 yr old. Horrible, horrible times for the family.

Aww Crem, hope you feel better soon. Sorry also to read about your poorly eyes - but glad it should (fingers crossed) be sorted quickly.

Actually, the other weird thing, which Crepeys might identify with, is that I act as the recipient for notifications of deaths in dh's distant family. It makes me feel like a buffer. And dh is completely unmoved. His mother's sister died, and I got the phone call last week; I have just bought the sympathy card - if I did leave it to dh, no card would be sent. It's this thing of doing all the emotional work, and it is such hard work.