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Am I too skinny?

102 replies

Happyasapigin · 11/09/2016 17:17

I want you to be totally honest.
Do I look too thin?
I always get comments insinuating that I musnt eat much etc.
Would be nice to get people's opinions who if they walked past me in the street what would they think?
Could I do with adding some extra weight?
I don't mind honesty either.

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zippyswife · 11/09/2016 19:58

You look great. Enjoy being slim. Those people that make those comments are simply jealous.

danTDM · 11/09/2016 20:01

To me you look perfect.

I got deleted on a thread today by a load of people after someone asked 'tell me am I fat at size 16? I think I am fat' I said it was fat, I tell the truth, but everyone was SO offended I answered the question Hmm

You are probably dealing with comments from people like that in real life. People who think 16 is normal. Unsolicited comments, horrid. I get this too and it begins to grate after a while. Worse if they comment in front of your child.

You look perfect and healthy and slim. Don't obsess!

Passmethecrisps · 11/09/2016 20:03

I hink you look healthy. Do you feel healthy? Do you feel strong? Can you climb stairs two at a time and run to catch a bus without feeling a bit shit? Do you wake up feeling energised and go to bed and sleep well?

I ask as those are the, probably daft, indicators of whether someone is healthy rather then their weight. Term used to describe weight are loaded and damaging - is skinny more aspirational than slim? Is 'looking well' a euphemism for being a bit porky. And so on.

When your friends comment find a stock phrase which you are ok with repeating and don't think about it again. These comments tend to be about other people's weight issues rather than our own.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 11/09/2016 20:04

The words compliments and fishing come to mind. I can't think why.Hmm. As for the They're just jealous comments
Not every women yearns to be a size 0.

Original poster
Happyasapigin · 11/09/2016 20:04

I've recently found out I'm pregnant so I'm expecting to put weight on.
I haven't really put any on at the minute and thats causing people to comment are you eating blah blah.
I think that's what's brought it to the surface

OP posts:
Original poster
Happyasapigin · 11/09/2016 20:05

Nobody is fishing for anything.
Some people can be so nasty sometimes.

OP posts:
danTDM · 11/09/2016 20:09

It s the curse of a slim woman, everyone thinks they can comment and have the right to comment.

Today, my DD (8) was with me and I was told we both needed to eat more by a really fat man. It was unbelievable!
Take NO notice.
Congratulations btw!

SpeakNoWords · 11/09/2016 20:09

At 5ft7 and 8st 4 your BMI is about 18 which is at the lowest end of the "normal" range.

If you're healthy and happy then don't spend a second worrying about it.

Passmethecrisps · 11/09/2016 20:12

You might put on weight and you might not. Obviously you will add pounds on the scales regardless but that may or may not show on your bottom, hips and face.

I wonder if your issue is that you are trying to actually provide a satisfying answer to people about why you have less visible fat than them. Stop trying to do that.

I was very slim for a few years and had a lot of interest in what my "secret was" etc. One particularly rude enquirer got the answer "I ate less shit and was less of a lazy bastard" It was a terribly rude response which I wouldn't have given had it been a one off chat about diet.

I am now a bit bigger thanks to a slower metabolism and less inclination and don't have to answer those questions.

when you are really showing people will comment on your body all the time - or at least people did to me. 99.99% were lovely. Enjoy that stage

Seeyouontheotherside · 11/09/2016 20:16

You look lovely and normal sized with big boobs. Not on the small side at allConfused What size are the people commenting? Why on earth would you want to gain weight.

The fat people who tell you these things are trying to manipulate you into eating away your attractiveness so they don't look so bad next to you.

Dump them and find better, healthier friends. Your self esteem will sky rocket.

laurentperrier · 11/09/2016 20:18

Op I get this all the time from colleagues... comments on the fact I eat salad for lunch...shock horror it tastes nice! One particular nasty bitch once said " oh I bet she never eats and weighs about 5 stone" when she thought I was out of earshot. I weigh same as you but all my family are tall and slim. As long as you feel well and are eating a balanced diet you're fine!!

AyeAmarok · 11/09/2016 20:20

Not very nice ghost.

And the OP isn't a size 0, so there's no need to make your little slim-shaming dig.

eurochick · 11/09/2016 20:24

A bmi of 20 is fine. I look best when my bmi is around 21 - nicely in the middle of the healthy range.

I find the gym comment odd. Gyms are used for all sorts of reasons, not only weight loss. I've been using a variety of gyms for 20+ years and never had anyone question my motives.

SpeakNoWords · 11/09/2016 20:26

Her BMI is 18 if her guess at weight is correct.

LoopiusMaximus · 11/09/2016 20:30

I don't think youre skinny, you just look 'normal' and healthy to me!

I do wish I had your body shape. Your shoulders are larger than your hips. I'm the total opposite, small shoulders and larger bottom half and I hate it!

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 11/09/2016 20:30

Its not a dig. It's an opinion of which I'm entitled to.
If it is seen as slim shaming, then. The "They're just jealous comments have to be seen as fat shaming. Meaning. They're jealous because they don't have the "perfect figure".. You can't have one for one and a different rule for the other.

celeste83 · 11/09/2016 20:36

You are not too slim. You have a lovely figure. Try not to be too self concious.

Longislandicetee · 11/09/2016 20:41

You look about the same body shape as me, and I would describe myself as slim. I am much shorter than you though. The word skinny (and those people who use it to describe me) irritates me.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. In both of my pregnancies, I didn't gain any weight in the first 3 months and just carried on eating the same as normal. I put on around 1.5 ish/under 2 stones and ignored the "concerned" comments from those who were "worried" I wasn't putting on enough weight.Hmm. They didn't seem to zip it till my very healthy babies were born. Don't over eat but just focus on eating healthily.

retainertrainer · 11/09/2016 20:42

Ghost-your correct not every woman yerns to be a size zero but some do and they're the ones who make sly,bitchy comments about not eating.

getdownshep · 11/09/2016 20:43

Happy I have had this my whole life.
I'm 50 now, 5ft 4 and 8 stone 3 which I found out today as I have no scales at home. I have a small frame, B cup and take after my dads side of the family who are all thin.
I've been called all sorts over the years, now I just say I don't appreciate my weight being discussed and change the subject.
My dd is pregnant, she has a nice size bump and eats loads, she has put on a stone and a half so far at 5 1/2 months along.
You are a similar body type, she is now an F cup😀
Enjoy your pregnancyCake

Helmetbymidnight · 11/09/2016 20:45

What would you do though, if people said you were 'too skinny'?

I mean...you say you eat well so...

If I posted a photo asking if I was too short, and people said yes, what would you think I should do?

cheeseandmarmite15 · 11/09/2016 20:49

You look. Normal to me.

Sadly, in recent years we have gotten used to people on the whole being bigger/fatter and so anyone who isn't overweight is often branded as being thin or skinny.

You aren't thin or skinny. You look just the right size to me.

nennyrainbow · 11/09/2016 20:50

You look a similar shape and size to me except I am flatter chested. It's fine. Btw I get fed up with people's comments too. When you go to a party or out for a meal " oh go on, Nenny, you need to eat more." They're well- meant but it does get annoying.

Resettingmyapp · 11/09/2016 21:36

5'7"and 8stone12 and my BMI is 18.5 so you definitely aren't 20 but you're nor underweight either, on the lower range of normal but so am I but healthy and eat like a horse. Good luck with your pregnancy Smile

bibbitybobbityyhat · 11/09/2016 22:10

It is unusual to be slim and have large breasts. Not unheard of OBVIOUSLY but unusual. Hence all the strange looking very thin celebrities with disproportionate breasts. If we are becoming conditioned to think of overweight as being normal then we are sure as heck conditioned into thinking slim with large breasts (via surgery) is normal too!