Someone left a Crepe out in the rain

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Here we go, ready for the Autumn.....

Teenage party not going so well

Oh Strops I am sorry. I hope you and dd find a way through all this. Much sympathy xxx

You did the right thing, Stropps. As I know from experience, there is a barrage of support a uni can chuck at a student - IF they are willing to accept it. (Why the feck aren't they?)

Echoing Molly here. She needs to accept professional help and if she won't go for it herself, then there is no point in her coming home.

But what a shit situation for you.

Oh Stropps.

And Molly.

Congrats to the Wobblette.

Oh and Auriga, I just walked past a funeral lineup driving along near here and found self in tears.

Stropps - fingets crossed that she sees sense and takes herself off to the medical centre.

Mrs W - fantastic result - have a lovely and stress free weekend.

Molly - I know what you mean - I'm losing both my girls next week. Will only have DS and DH in the house and so for the first time will be outnumbered by men.

Crem - My doc knows better than to prescribe me suppositoires

Oh Stropps :( so sorry, but you are right. She has to start helping herself.....

Molly :( - ds says he's never leaving home (wonder how long that will last :) )

It's funny how it takes you isn''t it MI/Auriga. The weirdest things can set me off.

We are gearing up for home visit (except dp who is getting into 'if we are not good enough so what' frame of mind) - I will send him off to make coffee I think and deal with this myself. We all know its a farce but you have to go through it.

I didn't get shortlisted for the job I mentioned to some of you on Saturday :( But for reasons I can do nothing about (others had more international experience). I am looking at another role, and trying to work out the logistics of travel....

Come on to catch up to see many of us still having to deal with a whole world of gyp.

Good news on the ddad front though Crem. Do tell me more re your dream! Was I making you breakfast? You're very welcome to come and hole up here anytime lovely. I won't tell anyone where to find you (unless you want to be found of course).

Fingers bed re possible new dog BD. Any dog would be lucky to have you! A new dog would be most cheering. It's hard to be too sad around a happy dog time.

Molly, where is dd off to? How far flung? I'm facing the second and last darling leaving this time next year . Much strength to you. It's so bittersweet isn't it? Round us all up soon and we'll ply you with gin to drown your sorrows.

It seems AGES since your lovely party last weekend Crem. AGES. I did really enjoy it and think we look quite daunting - in a good way - in the fb photos. I am mercifully invisible. Phew!

Welcome to all newbies and do hang around won't you? Very well done to Ms Wobble. Brilliant - but I feel for you with having to go through purgatory to get to this happy point.

Stropps - you've had all the wise words but please know I am thinking of you. I think what you've said to her sounds spot on but it must be v v hard.

Fingers xed
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Thanks for the sympathy, Crepeys. It has only just really hit me. I'm trying to find my knitting bag to do some comforting knitting but feck knows where that is in all this chaos.

GGG, she is not going to be very far flung and will want regular visits from us so she can see the dog (he has his uses). I would REALLY appreciate a drinks sesh at Waterstones Piccadilly for example - I will indeed round y'all up.

So glad you got good news, Mrs Wobble!

BD, hope the home visit has gone well. Looking forward to hearing about a new hound in the BD household very soon.

dd requested that I call her while I was at the hospital and then insisted on talking in French and telling me all about how terrible everything is. She is, I have to say, somewhat less noxious when talking bizarre French, than when she is talking English. Perhaps we should speak to each other in bad French from now on. Anyway, I was then called in to see the doctor and have not managed to get hold of dd since. The university well being (or somesuch) service called me and said (as I knew they would) that they appreciate my concerns blah blah blah, but cannot do anything unless she asks them to. I suspect what will happen is that she will lie in bed and do nothing until someone notices she hasn't done anything, at which point she will get chucked out. Then I presume I will have to take her back or see her sleeping on the street. I think I see some really horrible things in our near future, as we are going to be in a worse position with her than we were before she went on the meds.

I'm beginning to feel as though I need legal and medical advice, as I can't go on like this. She says she can't get out of bed at all. I say she has to. She says she can't and she won't attempt to get help. Anyone know what you're supposed to do with an adult like this?

Molly, sorry to hear that you are feeling bereft.

Stropps, any of this lot any help?

Rethink

mind

Sane

Even if you don't get any solution at least they'll understand what's happening!

Thanks, Stropps, but it is nothing compared to what you're enduring. Surely the medical establishment is obliged to help your dd, even if she's between GPs at the moment? I'm not very well informed, though.

Molly, BP/local pub MU soon?

I think they can't do anything until she goes to them Colly - and that's the problem - she won't :(
Arsy student is being an arsenal with others too... A pattern is emerging...

Stropps, you know what you're doing as well as anyone. Trust your own judgement. If she can phone you, she can also phone the GP/Well-being service/Samaritans.

Yes. I would think that as she is an adult - and probably before that, certainly once she is over 16 - she can only have intervention without asking if she is actually sectioned. This makes complete sense from one angle - otherwise people could have all sorts of treatment foisted upon them - but also means that the whole thing is a mess from another.

I don't know this at all, though, so may well be talking complete bollocks.

Shit Stropps. Dd needs medical help. And to know when to ASK for it. I hope That has happened now.
So so sorry Stropps, so worrying. Nothing is going to improve/happen until dd is safely medicated.

Have had The most awful hot flush so far. Completely forgot what I was talking about to old school friend. I could see myself from above kind of trailing off. My hair is actually still wet with sweat. WTAF?

Bloody hell stropps. What a mare. But at some stage in her life she is going to HAVE to take charge of herself. And at uni is surely a good place to start practising, as there will be safety nets a-gogo.

Sorry the soon-to-be empty nesters are feeling bereft. The very thought of little DS leaving home makes me well up. Poor thing. With all my eggs in his basket, as it were, I'm going to be the most dreadful clingy mother.

Have exhausting, keen new boss at work. I've been in two days this week, supposedly for an hour or so's training each day. But each time she has cornered me to talk about initial assessments, phonic difficulties therein, dyslexia markers, etc etc which while all interesting and no doubt essential for us to sort out before Ofsted's imminent visit, is Not In My Remit as someone who is employed for 7.5 hours a week. I don't get paid for her to yack on at me.

And Stropps, you are doing the Right Thing for not rushing up there.

Bah, now my favourite chicken is dying. Fucksicles.

Thanks all. Auriga is right. If she can phone me, she can phone someone else. Have phoned one of MI's helplines, but they told me what I already knew: she has to seek help herself. Our kind GP (who has known us all for a long time, and knew dd's father also), spoke to me at length just now and said: "Don't have her back. Tough love. Let her sort herself out." He also said that he had had almost exactly the same convo with another parent earlier this afternoon. Extremely similar circs etc.

My anxiety levels are quite high. Still, the back doctor at the hospital earlier was lovely and referred me for an MRI to find out what the buggery is wrong with my back.

Of course they're high, sweetheart. You poor love.

Hmm, Herbs - What form of words can we come up with for you that would fit that scenario...? maybe direct is best? "I'm sorry. As you know I only work here between x and y to teach z. If we need to talk about a, b and c perhaps you could invite me to attend a meeting / training..." When she says that's a good idea you can say you "just want to be clear, will you be paid for attending?" Or something

Oh Bless you Stropps what a worry. But you're doing the right thing, y'know and I agree with your GP...tough love, not that this minimises the trauma to you both. Refuse any action until DD is back on her meds. stay strong. I'm sorry your back is so painful too.

Lovely news MrsW and enjoy the relief from all that tension.

Oh Molls!! You will be ok...I think the run up to getting them there is so stressful and emotional what ever the circs. I am losing DS2 to Brum on Sunday, and having felt fine about it, I have also been a bit teary today. Very tired from the partaaayyy we threw for him last night.. cooking in that HEAT! But everyone liked my burgers...it's the one thing I make, that seems to be universally popular. And then, DS and his lovely, lovely piano teacher treated us to a mini duet recital..both of them a bit worse for drink (DS would never have done it otherwise....) plonking merrily.

My teariness came reading the nice thing people wrote in his good luck cards...snivel..

Lots of packing today. We'll never get it in the car...primarily owing to the keyboard and stand..

Cremo I sweat constantly in warm weather....it's very distracting to the mind.