Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Style and beauty

Looking for style advice? Chat all about it here. For the latest discounts on fashion and beauty, sign up for Mumsnet Moneysaver emails.

The Crepe Escape

995 replies

herbaceous · 24/06/2016 12:13

New thread!

Title can refer either to our upcoming holidays, or our upcoming fleeing from the Bojo-led charabanc of doom.

OP posts:
Thread gallery
13
Cremolafoam · 05/07/2016 15:57

MM, oh lucky you,that's hopefully a bit of a mood lift , and certainly something to look forward to. I hope you have a lovely time. I wonder if you might make it to my party in September? Would love to meet youFlowers.

I am wading through this week's job application which seems extraordinarily difficult this time.Bastard thing.Am sick to death of filling in my O'level results, like they actually matter. Ffs. Another hour should do it and then whoosh! It'll be gone.into another binBiscuit

herbaceous · 05/07/2016 17:25

Sigh.

Went to see parents. Mum v mobile - walking with ease the 50m, plus steps, to the car, as I took her to Waitrose.

But a bit strange. Carer said that she can't remember which drugs she's meant to be taking, or indeed has taken in the past five minutes, and gets very angry and shouts if carer tries to advise. This is not like her at all. She is also not paying any bills, or going to see her friends, or anything. Not sure if this is inevitable old age, drug-induced confusion, post-op depression, or what. The GP is coming round tomorrow to sort her out. Hopefully.

But carer seems to think it's down to me to get her to do her online shop, or pay the council tax bill. Quite how, I don't know. For £850 a week you'd think she could muster some encouragement...

OP posts:
bigTillyMint · 05/07/2016 17:33

Could it be a UTI, Herbs? I guess the GP will get to the bottom of it, or send her to someone who can. Really sorry to hear this.

I guess the carer shouldn't be doing anything financial (open to abuse, obvs) so I guess it's down to you to get POA/banking sorted so you can pay bills online from her account (luckily most of DM's stuff was on DD's) But she could be expected to take her shopping if your DM has cash/can still use her card?

Flowers
bigTillyMint · 05/07/2016 17:33

CremoFlowers for you too. O'levels? Pah!

herbaceous · 05/07/2016 17:37

Trouble with the shopping is going together means leaving dad on his own. Mum usually does it online, but cannot get motivated it seems.

OP posts:
herbaceous · 05/07/2016 17:50

And indeed - we are getting power of attorney, but it's a lengthy process, it seems. Bah. Had been feeling much more settled re parents, but am all discombobulated again...

OP posts:
bigTillyMint · 05/07/2016 17:55

So if she is set up online, could the carer not sit with her and "help"?
POA is a lengthy process - 6-8weeks for the registration, then long face-to-face meeting in the bank for usSad

Can your DDad really not be left?

herbaceous · 05/07/2016 18:05

I think he could, yes, but career is more cautious. Mum also wants to get driving again, but carer won't let her. She may well be right!

Mum usually does pay and shop online, but carer can't seem to coax her to the computer. Maybe it means me or sis phoning every few days and chivvying her.

OP posts:
bigTillyMint · 05/07/2016 18:35

I would think if she is not up to using a computer mouse, driving a car might be a bit hairy!

Could you try chivvying? Is the carer there all day? I have forgotten if they have 24hour care?

Blackduck · 05/07/2016 18:37

Herbs sorry. To hear it's so crap.... And don't get me started onPoA...

Cremo I simply refuse to list my o or a levels these days - I just say 7 of one and three of another, I have a blasted PhD FGS I'm pretty sure I couldn't have got that without the other stuff.. Never had it count against me AFAIK.

Rosebag · 05/07/2016 18:54

There's a lot in what Tilly says Herbs The sudden change may be due to an infection. I hope the GP can help. Waitrose do another service...not Ocado but you can go round, fill a trolley, pay and then leave the shopping for the store to deliver. Would the carer be able to take your DM round in a wheel chair trolley? It's a shame about the driving, but maybe the carer feels it isn't safe?

Flowers to BD and cremo re job angst. I also think it's stupid to ask for O Levels.... In all honesty I haven't filled in a job application forever, being freelance, but friends tell me the online forms take forever..hours and hours, and all the bullshitting.... No thanks!

MM how lovely to have plans to see DS and co. We are also still devastated about Brexit and hoping against hope for some kind legal action which reverses it all. I still want to find out if we can get Belgian passports on account of my maternal grandparentage.... Hmm

I have slept for much of the day. No headache but feeling terribly mussy and tired. Have had a nice shower and am downstairs...I hanker for a home cooked dinner. We've been eating out too much recently. However the DC have been very sweet especially DS2 who brought me breakfast and lunch on a tray, and DD who brought me cold compresses and massaged my shoulders. I am pleased that both of them have or are seeing friends today as well, though. DD to the mall (again) with a friend and DS is tutoring Spanish and then having supper with a friend. He is off to Madrid with DSis and DNeph tomorrow for a city break. I am being a little less hard on him since he has stepped up this home based, audio typing job he's got and doing more shifts and also languages tutoring to try and pay us back. He is also somewhat chuffed to have been offered his first choice of accommodation at Brum...sadly for me and DH it's the most expensive one Hmm

Cremolafoam · 05/07/2016 19:07

BD how is your poor mum btw?

Rose, glad you have rested and Starto dcs for producing food on a tray. I can categorically say that has never happened in this house.Hmm (a'tray' ? A'tray'? Do you not think I have enough to carry)Wink
Take it easy though won't you? No peeling potatoes or anything ok?

No idea about POA I'm afraid Herbs. But re Carer on Fat Wage. I personally would expect her to enable your dms buying of food, however that may be, either taking her to the shop, helping her on the web or being there for delivery and helping to put away. Sadly I guess she is right about the driving.
Anaesthetics can make you seek very down after an op-that has happened to me. Also unrealistic expectations of what you will be like afterward too sometimes.

addle · 05/07/2016 19:40

Sorry about yr mum Herbs. It may also be a complete lack of interest now. I wonder if there's a basic order that could be set up with ocado or whoever that you or dsis cld do. That's what I ended up doing fr my dad but then he had happily handed over his credit card some time before.

Am disgustingly and painfully drenched in cold but hv to get thro work as off to Wales at w/e to see favourite aunt

If summer ever recovers, crepeys, we must plan our Kipling expedition to Beachy/mm's area

Ps also can't rate anything but that has counter intuitive effect of making me stuff my face. Feel awful and will hv to play recorder this evening. Will be lucky if it doesn't fill with snot

addle · 05/07/2016 20:01

Beachy - is tomorrow your first new day? Have great time. Enjoyed pics of your wander today

BeachysSandyFlipFlops · 05/07/2016 20:13

First day of new life is tomorrow.

New life resolutions are bounding around my head, but like all Beachy resolutions, they will come to nowt.

herbaceous · 05/07/2016 20:29

Beachy - don't be down on your resolutions! You resolved to 1) quit the job, and 2) spend more time with DS, and you've done both of those, so any others are also achievable.

I think with DM it is a combination of post-op depression, unrealistic expectations, forgetting that she is already in fact more mobile than before the op, refusing to accept that she needs help and lashing out, drug-related confusion, and plain old age. I think a weekly routine of nagging her to do paperwork and shopping should sort it. And if I go up every fortnight or so, and look for any red bills, do a bit of shopping, perhaps that will suffice.

As I get older I realise I can't cope with uncertainty, and need a routine and to know what will happen. Having a new career, five new jobs and rapidly declining parents this year is not good. Hopefully if I get this job on Thursday the fixed routine will do me good.

OP posts:
Cremolafoam · 05/07/2016 21:13

Flowers Herbs. It will be ok.
X

motherinferior · 05/07/2016 21:35

Beachy, wot Herbs said.

I want to go to Mr Kipling's exceedingly good house too.

Have had enough of work and am going to bed. But have done most of a key feature so can strike that off list.

CointreauVersial · 05/07/2016 22:46

Auriga - well done to DD; it sounds like she had a great time and is making quite an impression.

OMG, Rose - a self-combusting hostess trolley?? That's a new one. Hope you are recovering from the ups and downs of the weekend.

Herbs - what a worry. Hopefully it is just a temporary blip, and DM will feel more able to deal with things soon, and you can fill in the gaps until then. But excellent advice, as ever, from crepeys who've been through it.

I have to say, this strike passed me by....all DCs at school as usual. Must be a different union.

Once again, I wish MI was cooking my dinner....salmon, coconut and prawns - all my favourite things.

GiddyGiddyGoat · 05/07/2016 22:59

Tell us more about your dinner MI! Recipe please...

Auriga · 05/07/2016 23:13

Herbs, your assessment of your DM and your action plan sound spot on. When you're a bit mentally compromised a GA can knock you back for a few weeks (in my case, a cold is all it takes).

Addle, sorry you're ill but by the way, you play recorder? I think that means we could put a little ensemble together if you're interested?

I'm enjoying my temporary job a bit too much and worked a v long day today but then had fun with DH and DD sniggering at Midsomer Murders

Thanks everyone for the appreciation of DD, I'm still glowing from maestro's comments Grin

And btw am still v much up for Kipling whenever convenient.

Auriga · 05/07/2016 23:16

Beachy, just resolve to spend more time with us Grin

magimedi · 06/07/2016 07:27

It would be "exceedingly good" to have a Kipling meet.

If anyone has problems getting there I could easily pick them up from my local station (direct line from Victoria/Clapham) & it's about a 30 min drive from there.

motherinferior · 06/07/2016 08:05

I will supply the recipe. It was my mother's and is quite flexible - and very easy.

Though I then had another night wrecked by sodding snoring. Sunday was similar - I had a nightmare that I was sharing a room with a snoring Ricky Tomlinson (we were also chez CV, actually - apparently he's a friend of your DH, did you know?); last night I had a nightmare about gunshot, because of the snorting that accompanies the snoring. It all dies down and then there is an eruption.

He is staying overnight in York for work tonight. I am dragging myself through an exhausted day with lots of deadlines, so knackered I can't enjoy the sunshine, like you do when you have babies.

Am also taking shameful glee in fact he is currently clearing up cat vomit.

motherinferior · 06/07/2016 08:20

Recipe, with my annotations in caps...is v adaptable.

Fish Moli

White fish fillets cut into biggish chunks. I JUST USED SALMON FILLETS, LEFT WHOLE
Spring onions, garlic, ginger, green chillies, handful of fresh coriander, all cut fine. I USE AN ORDINARY ONION, OR IN THIS CASE A RED ONE, AND BLEND IT ALL UP
Thickish coconut milk, I USED A LUMP OF COCONUT CREAM AND DILUTED IT
curry leaves YOU DO NEED FRESH NOT DRIED BUT THEY FREEZE VERY WELL AND USE STRAIGHT FROM FROZEN. YOU CAN GET THEM FROM OCADO
mustard seeds (about a teaspoonful) BLACK MUSTARD SEEDS NOT WHITE
whole cumin seeds (quarter teaspoonful)
pinch of turmeric
squeeze of lemon juice to finish.

Season the fish with salt, pepper, chilli powder and a touch of turmeric. Toss in a little olive oil, and place in a hot oven (mark 6) for about ten minutes. this way the fish will firm up and take on some flavour.
Meanwhile, make the coconut sauce: Heat some oil in a pan, and put in the curry leaves, mustard and cumin seeds. When the mustard seeds start to crackle, turn down the heat to medium, put in all the chopped stuff together and let them soften (You don’t want them to brown. but they must start to cook and colour a bit) Pour in the coconut milk with a pinch of turmeric and enough salt. Bring the sauce to a simmer, then pour it over the fish. Put back into the oven to cook for another 10-12 minutes, until everything is well blended. Test for seasoning, and squeeze some lemon to sharpen. Easy!
Variation, to make it really wow them:
Make a tomato sauce: Do exactly the same as for a moli, but instead of the coconut milk, add a tin of tomatoes. Let this simmer gently for a good fifteen minutes until well blended. Then blitz in a blender. This much can be done ahead. When you assemble the dish, cook the fish in the oven in exactly the same way for 10 mins in a hot oven. Then cover it in the seasoned tomato sauce, and add an equal amount of coconut milk. When you come to serve the dish, scatter some griddled prawns and thin rounds of squid over.
Note: If you do this dish, you will have to make quite a well-seasoned tomato sauce base, as the coconut milk will balance it out. (The mustard seeds and curry leaves when ground in, give a really piquant flavour)
Note 2 The tomato sauce also works on its own, or with chicken, meat balls etc.

I DID IT THIS TIME USING TOMATOES, WITH A CHUNK OF COCONUT CREAM AND A BIT OF WATER ADDED AT THAT STAGE. DIDN’T DO ANY BLENDING. I DO MAKE THE TOMATO SAUCE, USING CHOPPED TINNED TOMATOES, SEPARATELY. ALSO WORKS AMAZINGLY WELL AS THE BASIS FOR AN EGG CURRY.

Swipe left for the next trending thread