Crepe Oddity

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Sorry.

In before midnight and still capable not

...capable of texting (ahem). Could I get any racier (hIc)?

Anybody else desperately want to see MI's haircut? I think a FB snap may be required.

Had an unexpectely lovely dinner at DH's BF who is divorced plus another of DH's friends with new GF who is much nicer than the ex. Plus another couple whom we've known for years and aren't yet divorced. She and I are last girls standing from the original group. It was so nice to just have a pleasant dinner without narcissistic and controlling behaviour.

Am planning on a lazy Sunday although several washing machines will be done.

Sadly, it's not yet madly striking. It is the start of a longer campaign!

DP has taken the girls to see my mum today . He grumbled but agreed it was the right thing, though has subsequently got huffy about the fact I took ketchup off the supermarket order.

Why did you take ketchup off the orderMI?

Here have agreed that when (if?) Dmum comes out it will be into a home. I have said ds can't see her at the moment - he doesn't need to see her in her current state. If she comes out of hospital will revisit that decision.

I thought it was one of the many things that just get left on week after week.

Well done BD, that sounds really sensible.

Just spoken to DM who told me that she has decided she wants to move into a care home. Phew. However I now have to come up and check out what is available and put her name down. And I definitely can't come up again till after half term. Life is never easy!

BTM - I am delighted to hear that your DM wants to move. I hope you can find something that is right for her & that they have a place soon.

When my sister & I had to look for a home for our mother I was really worried about getting it right but it proved to be easy to make a decision - some were so obviously wrong & not nice & two shone out from the moment we walked in.

When my mum went in (and she did not want to) after a week or so she really settled & the whole routine of the home, the lack of having to make decisions etc really made her much calmer.

I think that will be exactly the case for DM. She is physically OK, just needs taking care of. I am really relieved she wants to go into a home but it's just a question of when I can go up again. We are away at half term and then an inspection at work 1st March - very difficult to go up till 2nd March at the earliest and ideally not till the Easter hols.

Oh, BTM, that is progress. But hard work.

I have run up a curry for DD1's birthday (this was minimal effort and I have bought a huge and very chocolatey cake) and might have a snack and a lie-down as am still bone-weary.

Where are Stropps and Molly??

BTM - excellent news re the care home. Our old neighbours went into one that was absolutely lovely - just like a very nice hotel. It even had a bar.

I am making cheese fondue for lunch.

Went to charity shop where DD1 volunteers regularly yesterday to try and retrieve DD2's bears that I donated months ago, and she has become increasingly tearful about. (I will say that there was a huge bin bag of soft toys, that had been stuffed into a cupboard for over a year, and she had shown no inclination to go through the bag, despite being asked repeatedly, they were not favourite toys at all.) Thankfully the three she really wanted were still there, and the lovely woman who runs the shop let her have them for nothing. Fortunately I found three cookery books that I wanted, so eased my conscience at taking the bears back.

BTM we looked at 7 or 8 care homes for MIL and it was an easy decision. Glad your DM has accepted that she needs someone there round the clock.

I am also in trouble for putting some of DP's books in the three bags small number of books that can be culled from our collection. I admitted under questioning that I thought they were my ex's.

I didn't chuck out this one or its companion volume

BTM - that must be a relief for you that DM actually wants to go into a home. I know some who have been resistant to the whole notion but if it works it's great for her and takes the worry and the stress from you.

... and the long list of celebrities currently dropping dead dear old Terry Wogan.

Omg Terry the Wogan est mort. Sadness. I've always thought of him as Uncle Terry.

Ici, it's absolutely gorgeous. Proper palm tree fringed beaches,parrots swooping and air con,thanks be for the air con.
Had an early breakfast of pineapple and dark coffee. A swim in the new infinity pool, and a walk and paddle along the beach. Flight was long and tiresome, but managed to grab a few hours sleep.
Off for provisions this morning in the market. Everyone is very smiley , even the French no English speakers heard as yet. Bonus!

Hatty perhaps we can have a coffee on our return to Paris? We have a whole day there in the 11th.
See how you are fixed.

BTM &BD it seems the right decisions are being made by the dms. I'm sorry it's so difficult and so painful. I wish you both calm and love.

oooh Crem, sounds sooo lovely.

I know, Hatty, I am increasingly feeling mortal - all these old familiar names leaving us so unexpectedly.

BTM, are you going to look for a care home locally or one where DM lives? It must be a huge weight off your mind that she has made the decision by herself. I think there are two things to take into account: the best home for her, but also would it be easier for you if she was nearer. I know you visit whenever you can but it seems to take up a lot of your time. Would it be easier if she was nearer so that you could pop in more often for half an hour? DDad was about 20 miles away from DSis and 200 from us.

BD, I am glad to hear that you have settled on a plan for your DM.

MI, I am with you about ketchup - I do a nice kedgeree and DH swamps it with the stuff.

Crem, . NDN is off on her yearly trip to Thailand tomorrow. Double

Crem it sounds lovely there.
Very sad about Terry Wogan.
BTM It must be a great relief that DM has made her decision, I'm sure it will be a weight off your shoulders when it happens.

Keep up the good work, Crem. A few pics, of the sort that incite murderous jealousy, would also be appreciated.

How was the gin, Dreamqueen?

Crem - sounds very restorative! Make the most of your R&R.

BTM - I second NU's suggestion that it might be better if DM were nearer to you. Unless you think she has a huge support network near where she lives now?

MrsS - well done on retrieving the bears. DS still speaks wistfully of his childhood teddy, which was left in a hotel many years ago. At the time, he really didn't seem bothered by its disappearance, so I didn't really make an effort to track it down until it was too late. And then, suddenly, it was like a bereavement.

BD - what does DS think about visiting DM? If he's mature enough, then I would consider taking him to see her, even though she's so poorly. It would be sad if it was left too late....

Really sad about Terry Wogan. DM met him a couple of times, because she made a couple of outfits/dresses for his wife. He drove her to the fittings but wouldn't come inside, so sat in his car reading the paper each time.

MI gin was good thank you, contemplating having a tipple now in fact while I cook!

Thanks! I am torn about moving her down here. Where she lives is MC mono-cultural, quiet ish, slower pace of life, places to be taken to that she knows, people she knows...
Here is traffic and busy and culturally mixed and care homes are more expensive - need to male her money last or she will have to move into a cheap council place sooner rather than later, but we could visit more often.

Cremo, it sounds fab. Please keep updating!

Sounds wonderful, Crem, as I look out the window at the rain & mist.

BTM - we had a similar distance problem when my DM went into a home & in the end decided to keep her where she had always lived. I think her making the decision is wonderful but wonder if a move near to you would be an added strain?