Oh Rose, love. My dm was exactly the same when ddad had his breathing/heart probs last year. She would not hear hear of help in any form and played the complete martyr until my sister who is braver than me, and a bit medical ,argued her down into submission and let me do visiting and making of dinner and the whole time made it clear she didn't enjoy being told what to do and poked food about her plate and pouted like a toddler. Stay where you are this evening. It sounds like your brother is "on it" anyway. If it means anything at all, we all know how much you care and worry, and I think that's enough for anyone.
BTM and BD make the very most of the last few hours. Consolation is that it is not raining here.
BD we laughed a great deal at the polythene wellies for tourists. WAF Aqua alta is when the islands
Of Venice become semi submerged in the lagoon and it gets a bit floody. You have to walk on platforms raised above the cobbles which can be slow going.
herbs , all the sympathy in the world for admin malfunctions. Not fair or acceptable at all.glad colleagues seem q naice though
MI and WAF , I know you are both working very hard. 
NU -bloody hell, nightmare. As well it didn't happen in the middle of the night.
My back is truly bolloxed again. Had to turn up at physio dept this morning and beg for traction, which has helped a wee bit, although the receptionist did her best to get rid of me.
Have been told to rest, avoid stress, keep calm, do the exercises, etc.
Everyone will be delighted to hear I've been signed off work! I sent my form in for redeployment, just to get on to the list, lest anything reasonable pops up. Back feeling remarkably less tight since either
A) traction
B) no work tomorrow