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Crepe Fear!

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GiddyGiddyGoat · 11/10/2015 18:13

Ta Da.

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Collymollypuff · 16/10/2015 21:42

The coverage of the Kids Co Select Cttee is hilarious - do seek it out. One of the funniest bits is Camila getting into her car saying: "I do take responsibility. For a lot of things." Clearly journos were asking her if she ever did, for anything. Shocking how she and Yentob are using a young man's death quite unashamedly for their own purposes - his mum is furious.

Auriga, I should be thanking you for such a great night out at Liars League. Crepeys, you must come to one. MrsS, you must write a short story to be read out at one. Smile

Chillywhippet · 16/10/2015 21:58

GGG there is a nice thread on the higher education topic called New Uni Starters which has lots of mums (and dads?) finding it hard or with homesick DCs. It's so strange after all the exam stuff, results, getting ready to suddenly not know where there are or how they are really.

DD about 45/50 minutes away. Enjoying course. Struggling with money but getting better. Has been a bit unwell which hasn't helped.

Has your DS been gone long. Finding it a bit easier as time goes on except when she was ill...

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GiddyGiddyGoat · 16/10/2015 22:12

Thanks Chilly. He'll have been gone 2 weeks tomorrow

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Cremo · 16/10/2015 22:14

Oh my what a day I have had. But enough!

Herbs and Hatty fantastic news laydeez! Leading the way... Leading the way!
Loving the shiny and surely related Crepeydog mascots

MI , wretched comments by dsis. It's not a ruddy contest is it? Feelings, complicated or not are private and not up for assassination by anyone. Take some time to yourself and try not to take anything dsis says to heart.

WAF and Addle, such heartbreak and bravery. You are both wonderful.

BD, YOU ARE NOT A CRAP MANAGER. You are tired and overstretched and overburdened and need to stop, pet. Take it from one who knows. Sending hugs.

Happy weekend y'all

Chillywhippet · 16/10/2015 22:22

GGG DD started uni on Sept 12th so we are a few weeks ahead of you so the knot I had in my chest has eased up!
When I was feeling more wobbly DH said what is it. "I miss her," I said. "and if I'm honest I miss her being little."
I know we bring them up to be independent etc etc but the change still felt sudden to me.

Collymollypuff · 16/10/2015 22:29

Too true, re missing dc at uni. My eldest went into his second year on 1st Sept and I really suffered. It is a strange thing when you are so pleased for them, and so pleased to see them be independent. Like falling off a cliff - us, not them.

Having said that, deepest sympathy to all crepeys who really are in bereavement, or suffering with elderly parents, or going through hell at work. Thanks

Lalsy · 16/10/2015 23:08

The news report said the ctte were clearly frustrated by her refusal to provide any facts and just offer anecdotes....I remember reading/hearing of alarm bells on here and elsewhere ages ago and thought she was incredibly annoying in her emperor's new clothes

Collymollypuff · 16/10/2015 23:28

I was so shocked by AY's reference to a descent into "savagery" in the summer. I can't believe anyone could be allowed to get away with that, yet now we're seeing more of it. Talk about disrespect. Shock Still at least the insanity is being unmasked.

CointreauVersial · 16/10/2015 23:34

Feeling suitably stuffed and chillaxed after blowout meal at local gastropub - it made me realise DH and I don't do enough "date nights". We even managed not to talk about the DCs for the whole evening.

This was followed by two hours in the car, collecting a knackered DD1 from Thorpe Park, then dragging a reluctant DS away from a party at a farm on the outskirts of Woking. Home and bed. Can't wait.

Stropperella · 17/10/2015 07:01

So - I get in at about 11 last night, nicely relaxed after a pleasant evening. Only had a pint of Guinness and a glass of wine, thankfully - as suddenly at midnight, dd starts huffing around saying, "Well, I suppose we're not going tomorrow then..."
Just waiting for her to finish putting her slap on and then I'm driving her to Birmingham for the university Open Day, which 2 days ago she swore blind she didn't want to attend and got really agitated about. It's a 3-hour drive from here if we're lucky and there's no traffic. Supposed to be leaving in the next 10 mins. I am not in a good temper, as had one of those crepey sweaty nights with not much sleep and am really cross with dd for being such a massive $%&&&**! She completely denied that she had said (several times) that she now didn't want to go. FFS. Aibu to be Angry Angry ??? (especially as I have to work tomorrow because of all her shenanigans during the week)

bigTillyMint · 17/10/2015 07:18

OMG Stropps, I would be AngryAngryAngry at such late notice and having to drive - only 3 hours? It would take at least that from here, but I guess you don't have to cross London. Hope it goes OK. Is it the first uni visit?

I am also knackered - from DH tossing and turning all nightAngry And it being 7 weeks since I started term, I guess.

hattymattie · 17/10/2015 07:35

No Stropps you are not BU. Have a good day in Birmingham.

Cremo · 17/10/2015 07:37

Oh Stropps, safe drive! Bloody nightmare.i can't say I'd have been as understanding frankly. I hope she appreciates it on some level. Thinking of you today.
Cv I hope all the driving about last night didn't ruin your lovely pub evening.

I am off to see Suffragette later after work. Will report back. Smile

bigTillyMint · 17/10/2015 07:42

Ooh, I want to see that - hoping DD and I can find a slot before we go away.

MrsSchadenfreude · 17/10/2015 07:55

YANBremotelyU Stropps. But have a nice day. Or try to. There is a huge TK Maxx in Birmingham, if that helps.

DH has taken DD1 to the airport. Why can no-one in this house ever be ready on time? DD1 was sort of ready, then faffed about what she was going to take or not take, and as they were about to leave, DH thought he would "check online for traffic jams". So they were about 30 minutes late leaving. Neither seemed remotely bothered by this, it was only me gibbering about "going to be late." I think it is because my parents were late for EVERYTHING when I was a child and every time we went on holiday, we arrived too late to check in, and would end up running to the gate with all of our luggage. We threw ourselves on trains at the last minute, as the guard was blowing his whistle, arrived at weddings half way through the ceremony and funerals when everyone was standing at the grave. So I am usually somewhere hours before I need to be.

I suppose I should be doing something about open days but DD1 has no idea what she wants to study, no idea where she might want to do it and says she is going to fail her IB anyway, despite all of her teachers saying she should do well.

bigTillyMint · 17/10/2015 07:59

MrsS, I hate being late too!
DD doesn't seem to have inherited that trait, and neither of them have for school!

I don't think now is the right moment for us to be thinking about uni here with DD. Do they do Open Days in the Summer Term, after AS levels?

MrsSchadenfreude · 17/10/2015 08:08

BTM, DD1 gets huge pressure from her school to know what she wants to do and where and she is being hounded by her college counsellor (whom she hates). I have said I will write to her and tell her to back off if necessary.

What DD1 really, really wants to do is something to do with the theatre, but I am wondering how useful a degree in theatre studies is going to be? She doesn't necessarily want to act, but maybe do script writing and stage management. She could do French with Theatre Studies at Warwick, which might be a good compromise, and the IB grades required are relatively low. Warwick and a lot of the other RG unis have revised down the IB grade requirement in recent years in recognition that there has been no grade inflation in the IB, whereas some of the others ask for, frankly, ridiculous grades in comparison to what they require for A level.

wordassociationfootball · 17/10/2015 08:12

Oh Stropps that's trying. Will expand her thinking though. Hope your day's not too gruelling and you get some pleasure from it.

BD good luck today at geeps.

Hatty and Herbs, I felt so happy for you when I read about your jibs last hight.

Addlw I'm so glad a tough gig went so well.

MI echo all that has been said re complications of dealing in a case like yours.

Chillv funny how you suddenly remembered your fam. Hello to you and Cresset.

Arrived home utterly drained. Just have to hope its over for darling friend soon. Very little qual of life and her sons are wrecked - with her in her room at night and up many times. Her dickhead exh was there poking in his nose and giving me the rage plus her sis and bro in law who are lively and then 2of our very good pals.

Your thoughts and words were such a kind comfort. You are wise honey, always.

Just wanted a huge bath when I got home and was worried I'd be snarly but had an exquisite time with each member of my family, quite unexpectedly. DH read me a section of Starter For Ten about an infatuated drunk at a fresher's disco which had me roaring. Dd2 shared all her homework with me while I was in the bath and we did her spellings and she was on top best form, then dd1 let me give her a massive cudfle in bed - i know for the future of our rel, it should have been dh but heh, and we talked about family and about my relationship with DH before her and how he and I had only been together 4months when my dad killed himself and how he, DH, was just the mist fantastic quiet rock.

It was all bliss. I had come home with aching bones and numbness and been so nourished. Much work today to catch up, but am so calm and filled with gratitude.

Soz for typos. Giving myself them as a treat Grin

wordassociationfootball · 17/10/2015 08:18

Half an hour's traffic jam checking? Gnnnnnaaaar!

Am finding all the HEd chat so useful.

Giddy - do you think that M&S dress would be kind or unkind to a right big belly? I love it.

Blackduck · 17/10/2015 08:34

Stropps wish I'd known - would have arranged to meet!

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herbaceous · 17/10/2015 08:55

Loved what you said about the restorative power of your family, WAF. I feel like that about DS. His hugs seem to fill me up with a kind of golden light, and give me strength. And then I think about him going to uni and well up!

Though maybe by the time he's 18 it won't be a viable option. His chosen career ATM is an 'animal saver', though is worried there'll be no rhinos left for him to save. **

motherinferior · 17/10/2015 08:56

Oh WAF, what a poignant day.

StroppsAngryAngryAngry

motherinferior · 17/10/2015 08:58

MrsS, why not a degree in theatre studies? Wilbur has one, I think, and I know at least one other MNer who does too, and the way DD1 is going she may well want to do one too. I do tend to feel degrees aren't all about useful, though (hence having two in English).

motherinferior · 17/10/2015 09:03

Also I think her degree has to be her own decision.

There is a huge joy in having three years to study a subject that truly engages you. I know it's not like that for everyone but boy it can be fun. Yes, you end up with a dissertation on obscure 19th century novelists but actually the intellectual training involved has served me pretty damn well. I have made many decisions in life which I have regretted but four years (with my MA) of studying a non-useful subject are not among them.