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Help needed facing trophy wives

55 replies

TowerBlock · 17/09/2015 17:47

Help please, Looking for smart dress and a jacket not in polyester and isn't frumpy.

Tummy not strong point, need to lose a stone and am working on that. Getting really nervous as boyfriend just taken on new mega job. I know my casual wardrobe is not up to handling upcoming really smart events day and evening with trophy wives.

In my late 30's and getting g really stuck as I hate shopping. Asos seems to be all polyester as is Next.

OP posts:
shouldIapply · 17/09/2015 17:54

Do you need to go? Surely women accompanying their husbands on business events no longer happens (and if it does in your boyfriend's new job maybe being a girlfriend might get you out of it since it must be incredibly old fashioned)? I'd never ask DH to a work event and would laugh if he expected me to. Do you have kids? Lack of baby sitter is always a great reason to get out of these events.

On the fashion front if you want not polyester you need to spend more money, probably quite a lot more to get natural fabrics.

nilbyname · 17/09/2015 17:56

What's the occasion, where is it? Is there a dress code?

How tall, size? What do you like?

RunRabbitRunRabbit · 17/09/2015 17:59

Trophy wives? Are you sure? Aren't they more likely to be like you? Are you maybe paranoid?

Try a personal shopper maybe if you don't know what your personal style is?

TwoInTheMourning · 17/09/2015 20:28

Trophy wives? Confused

PetiteBateau · 17/09/2015 20:43

Wtf? Grin Trophy wives? Confused

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 17/09/2015 20:46

Trophy wives are a thing.

Why mock the OP?

PetiteBateau · 17/09/2015 20:47

I don't think people are mocking, I think people are querying the assumption that the social gathering will be full of " trophy wives"

SmugairleRoin · 17/09/2015 20:49

Trophy wives are a thing and depending on where her dp is working it could be likely it will be full of them.

Need more info on the event to help you, op!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 17/09/2015 20:50

Yes but the OP wants to look good amongst these women she thinks will look impeccable. Rather than mock her terminology, why not help her with some suggestions?

Ubik1 · 17/09/2015 20:50

Never mind about the trophy wives

Have you looked at Hobbs?

OneofTHOSEWomen · 17/09/2015 20:53

trophy wives are a thing please do explain.....

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 17/09/2015 20:55

Why should I? How odd.

OneofTHOSEWomen · 17/09/2015 20:57

Because it's sexist bullshit.

Keeptrudging · 17/09/2015 20:59

Phase Eight have nice, very wearable dresses.

BettyBi0 · 17/09/2015 21:00

Maybe try a session with a personal shopper somewhere like John Lewis or Selfridges? You aren't committed to buy anything and they might be able to make you feel like a million bucks.

I think fear of immaculately turned out beautiful wives can be real. There will definitely be a nice interesting one or two in there somewhere I promise! I get where you are coming from and personally spend a week cursing my bumpy fat white arms every time I've had to go out out with similar gang

ClaraDeLaNoche · 17/09/2015 21:01

A real trophy wife will get changed for the evening! What is the event during the day?

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 17/09/2015 21:02

Back in the real world......

Why did the op use that phrase then? Trophy wife, women that lunch, gym bunny, what else?, it exists.

The op wants to look good. Dont piss on her chips.

IsabelleEberhardt · 17/09/2015 21:02

I'm sure some men do pick their wives purely for how they look, but to assume this is the case for every other person at the company apart from her dp, is quite rude to both the husbands and the wives.

Also are only men working there? No women (or do they have trophy husbands?). If the op had given a bit more detail, you know, 'I've met them once before and they are all so well put together and I felt out of place. Please help.' Maybe people would have been more helpful.

Ubik1 · 17/09/2015 21:02

God almighty- yes we all get that 'trophy wife' can viewed as sexist. It can also be am uncomfortable truth.

But we are here to talk about frocks aren't we?

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 17/09/2015 21:03

That was to OneofThoseWomen sorry for all the xposts

bigbuttons · 17/09/2015 21:03

What's sexist bullshit? Trophy wives are sexist bullshit? There are huge numbers of women married to very rich men who don't work and like to outdo each other in the fashion stakes.

SmugairleRoin · 17/09/2015 21:04

There are plenty of rich, not so handsome men out there with beautiful wives. This isn't rocket science. Of course some of these will be just down to love, but some are trophy wives. And hey - if they're happy at it, more power to them.

Aaanyway, moving on as this trophy wife thing isn't relevant to the thread. A personal shopper is a great idea, op. And getting something tailored to fit you perfectly will also help!

muchasmoochas · 17/09/2015 21:07

This is S&B!! We don't discuss sexism here. Let's focus on the threads.

IsabelleEberhardt · 17/09/2015 21:11

I know it's s&b and usually I love how supportive and helpful everyone is here. I just think the op could have worded it better. Plus given a bit more info... Like budget.

DinosaursRoar · 17/09/2015 21:15

we need to know: event types, budget, dress size, height, body shape, colouring and preferred style.

they probably aren't all 'trophy wives' either, even if a few are. Don't get yourself too wound up.