I really need a dress for a wedding next weekend. I now realise I was deluded about the one I had thought I would get away with wearing. I am too old and too fat and need a more forgiving dress. I have no idea how to dress my menopausal body. I used to have a waist but no longer, and am getting scarily close to having a matriarchal shelf. I am short and size 14. I also have a stomach that needs reining in. Please help as I have no idea where to start and am fast running out of time.