Are there any bra gurus about? I need some help.

[MrsKoala]

I posted this on a bra thread in chat but no one answered so I thought I would see if there was anyone else who could help me. Or perhaps my tits are so bizarre they are beyond help!

I am 37 under and 41 around nipple leaning over. This should make me a 36d, which is what I wear. But none actually fit me. They are all baggy in the cup and cut across into the top of my boob. My boobs don't touch the inside of the bra at all and the wire is about an inch below the bottom of my boob.

I am broad shouldered, my boobs have a wide shallow shape from birds eye view and are conical from the sides. I have done a diagram.

Please, if anyone has any suggestions (other than surgery) I would really appreciate it.

Cheers.

Go to somewhere like John Lewis or Bravissimo and get yourself properly measured. They will be able to recommend a bra to suit your boobs and you'll be able to try on a selection.

Sorry, i should have said, i already have been everywhere but no one can help. i spent almost £300 in rigby and peller on 3 bras which don't fit.

Id go back to R&P to find out what went wrong,

Ive never had anything but brilliant service from them. Id expected that they would want you to have great experience with them, too.

Is it the shape of the bra (style) rather than the size?

You sound like me - try a half cup style

Did the bras that you bought fit you in the store? It may be that you have to do some repositioning of your boob within the bra. I would definitely go back to R&P.

I definitely have to do this as my boobs come from under my arms as opposed to sitting on the front of my chest.

I'm certainly not knocking R&P. The service was excellent and they acknowledged the fit of the bras were not great, but said it was the best they could do (they could probably smell my desperation). Everywhere else has just said they can't find a bra which fits and to try somewhere else. :(

I'm too small for bravissimo. JL gave me a crop top. Debenhams had nothing. M&S made me cry. It's all been very upsetting.

Cs cut massively across my boobs and Ds fit across but are baggy inside.

What about slightly padded d? There are some that are padded just at the bottom almost to fill the cup iykwim?

the pink one fit like this in the shop and the nude one not so bad/held a shape, but as the material has softens now the shape is caving in.

I do scoop and everything and the nude one still doesn't fit properly. but it was hard for the woman to see thru the thickness of the bra.

They are both 36d

I meant to say, the pink one is agony in the breast bone. It digs in and leaves bruises.

You can see that the pink one is too small. Did you let R&P measure you?

Yes I had a proper booked fitting. They didn't measure with a tape tho, she did it with her hands. Brought me olds of bras and these were the best fit. The pink one is actually baggy in the cup, which you can't see in that pic.

Am I correct in thinking that you are fuller at the bottom of the breast and the bras are gaping at the top? If so, I would try Triumph Amourette (with the padding) or the John Lewis Lauren lace bra.

You can see here that my boobs are quite close together and just see that in the cup is hollow.

No, the opposite, I am fuller at the top so all bras cut in across the boob but the bottom of my boobs don't touch the inside of the bra. Not sure if you can see from the diagram in the OP?

I used to wear a style similar to this years ago but in a 38awith an extender in the back! (When I thought I was a 40a - thanks m&s ). I may see if I can try this in a 36c/d

Drat, they only do dd. but I think something along that shape would be best, maybe?

Have you tried a plunge style bra? It wouldn't cut across the top of your boobs at least.

Have you tried any half cup styles? Moulded full cups/t-shirt bras just aren't going to work.

Ah I seem it was the fitting of the moulded cup that made me think that. Where abouts are you? Perhaps someone can recommend a good shop locally for you to try?

I've got a low wide balcony/half cup/push up padded style in 36d from l'agent at JL. But it is completely baggy on me now - all over, even across the boobs. I have lost some volume since buying it.

I can escape for an hour or 2 early sat morning to shop. Nearest place is tunbridge wells, but I've never been there, as I haven't lived here long. I think there is a dept store tho. I'll have a google.

If you drive I would recommend going to Bluewater - there's a huge John Lewis and a House of Fraser.
Have you thought about buying those little chicken fillet things to increase the volume in the bottom of the cups?

If I order some online should I order a 36c and d?

Where is the real problem - in the band size or the cup? Maybe try a 36 and a 38 in both a C & D cups.

I don't drive so I can't do bluewater unfortunately. Apparently t.wells has a fenwickss and a bus. So not great really. I'm thinking of ordering loads online and then trying them all on and sending them all back crying (which is what has happened before) but still it's better than crying in a shop like I usually do!

Should I up back and down cup? Do bigger backs have wider cups?

I have some JL vouchers but I don't know when I could get there. Possibly not for about 3-4 weeks and I really need something that fits as all my summer clothes look ridiculous over that nude bra - which I wear everyday and wash out overnight.