Too fat to be a bride?

[Smurfgirl]

Friend said today - i think brides who are a size 16 or over look awful. Fuck.

Am size 18 [fatty emoticon] and I am loosing weight and have 2 years but I have never ever as an adult been thin, smallest size i have been is size 14 which is not exactly tiny is it? And my arms are ming ming ming (full of scars)

So say I am a size 16 on my wedding day will it be hideous? Have HUGE boobs and fat tummy but am not flabby kwim?

Am going to be minger yes?

your friend is mad mad mad!

No, you will be stunning.

Marilyn Monroe was size 16. And she looked divine, did she not?

Your friend is very rude.

Your friend is talking bollocks tbqh.

I am being bridesmaid for my friend in 2008 and she is about size 18 and really worried she will look awful and it's rubbish, she will look fantastic.

i am, ahem, 'larger' but will say no more as it seems to be my day for direct attacks.
you will look lovely.

Yes but all brides in magazines are v.thin, hmm. Tried on wedding dress and it was a 22 but they come up small apparently? Lady said i was not short (am 5'4) but look it cos i am quite wide. Ho hum.

NO!!!

Take yourself off to a proper dress shop, get some ideas, even if you don't buy from that shop, it will give you ideas of what type of dress would suit. Be prepared to listen - properly - to the assistant, she should be the best one to help you.

And TBH, if your "friend" knows you are getting married and still said that, I think I would be looking for a new friend...

wedding dresses do come up smaller so dont get upset when you try them all on- you have not gone up 4 dress sizes overnight- dont worry.

And i don't want to be tiny my mam was a size 8 on her wedding day - went up to a 12 almost immedaitely afterwards and is now a 22 and has hated herself since 1981 when she got married cos she is no longer a size 8

I want to be ME on my wedding day kwim? But also don't want to look like i am stuffed into a dress...

Your friend is talking utter rubbish and all women in magazines are thin!
Thank goodness for people like Beyonce and Charlotte Church for making curves fashionable again.
I'm sure you will look stunning.

If you can possibly manage it, go to a dressmaker rather than a dress shop. Shops only stock a tiny range of larger sizes and they can be pitifully inappropriate for your body shape. A good dressmaker will know what would suit you, and make it fit beautifully.

I was a size 16 on my wedding day and looked magnificent! My mum made my dress (she is a VERY skilled dressmaker).

you weren't too fat to be asked to be a bride and thats what matters!!! What a nobhead friend - is she single??!

you wont look stuffed if the fress fits?

Yes but charlotte church is thinner than i have ever been.

Friend is not single and is very nice, but does not think before she speaks. Was not terribly offended. She is a size 6 so for her a size 16 is truely huge.

Do I look awful?

Beautiful pic CSWS, Smurfgirl, you will look stunning and your dh will be mad with desire and pride and your friend obviously doesn't think of you as a huge fat person or else she most likely wouldn't have said it

You look gorgeous, i actually want a dress just like that!!

CSWS - you looked wonderful.

Any you will too smurfgirl. Go to a dressmaker and get advise on a dress to suit your shape and that you're comfortable and you'll look wonderful.

Smurfgirl you are so not too fat to be a bride!
Dont take your friend seriously
Personally I hate seeing brides looking like they have starved into their wedding dresses...

lovely dress cantsleep!

for what it's worth I think curvy brides look much better in today's dresses than skinny ones - I'm sadly lacking in the nork dept and so many dresses I tried either just hung off me or, if pulled in to fit my ribcage, made me look horribly deformed (I have pics of me in some of these and still marvel at their nastiness)
You have to try on an awful lot to discover what looks ghastly on the hangar but good on, and vice versa...

I have dodgy arms too and had a dress with a sheer thing over thus (NB that is the catalogue pic not me). There are a lot out there if you look - I still have a bulging folder in my Favourites of pics of sleeve solutions - can pass some on if you like...

Utterly ridiculous. You can't be too fat to be a bride. Like anyone else of any shape, choose what suits you.

i was a size 16 on my wedding day and i looked great. get some of that magic underwear and wear a dress that suits you rather than one you want to suit you.

ditto the advice to go to a dressmaker.I wish I had done that.

Smurfgirl your 'friend' sounds like a charmer. It is a well known fact (as told to me by a lady in Liberties Bridal department) that wedding dresses look better when worn by women with curves - I wasn't shopping for a dress at the time so she wasn't trying to get a sale As long as you feel good you will look good.

CSWS you look FAB!

Thanks for the compliments ladies.

Smurfgirl - I didn't go to a dressmaker as such, but I did use the made to measure service at Dickens & Jones. If you're not an exactly standard shape then I would recommend this.