How to achieve the middle class / posh girl look and lifestyle?

[stuckonchapterone]

Hello everyone.

I was seen, and read some threads similar to this, however I was wondering whether anyone could give me some advice, it would be much appreciated

I have long been a 'fan' of the posh / middle class fashion look e.g. long hair, joules, white stuff ect. I was wondering what staples you would suggest purchasing in order to achieve this look and lifestyle e.g. I am looking into buying a barbour coat, once I can get to the shops (currently recovering from an illness at the moment, and part of this post is get some advice before I update my wardrobe to make myself feel a bit better) Advice on where to shop / eat and act would be great too

Any tips / advice to help me achieve this look / lifestyle would be greatly appreciated. No negative comments please.

Thanks all!

I like Arsenic's theory, but trying to write about a background you're not familiar with is hardly less naive than asking how to pull it off for yourself.
And if that were the case why wouldn't the OP just be upfront?

Kitekat

www.lostartofeating.com/
www.londonvintagekitchen.com/

(that's just from within the fringes of my social group, I'm sure there are plenty more people/groups who like to try out vintage recipes)

The Ambassadors is not where I would start with HJ, his late style isn't everyone's cup of tea. Portrait of a Lady is my favourite.

'Good heavens, how many classes do you have?'

The Comfort of the Country by Edith Wharton is spot on for this thread. Undine Spragg, fresh from the Midwest, sets out out to conquer NY high society...

The Soviet Chic Supperclub not my cup of tea but looks like a good night out!

I honestly cannot believe that after numerous attempts of politely asking not to leave bitchy hurtful comments, people set of posters still feel the need to leave them. I get it, you think this is sad of me to ask, whatever. Just move on. It really is beginning to upset me quite deeply. If you want to mock me on other threads go ahead, but asking about my mental health and wellbeing after I EXPLICITLY stated I am recovering from illness, alongside constant digs and jokes, is unacceptable. I am astounded that I have to address this issue, this is supposed to be a forums for mothers, not a bullying parade. To all those who have continued to post nothing but help, thank you. And to those who have been valuing this advice, I'm glad this thread has been of use to you

There is quite a large community of people who aspire to live a 1940s/50s lifestyle, from how their home is modelled to how they eat, dress, do their hair and make-up, the music they play or listen to, the social events they attend, the hobbies they have. It is quite a big thing.

For the sake of your sanity OP I'd leave this thread. You have more than enough good advice and have thanked those who have helped. Move on, let the thread disappear. Join in on other threads and keep your end goal in mind.

Twinkle, 'The Custom of the Country is brilliantly written but chilling. I wouldn't urge Undine on the OP as a role model. One of the most unredeemed anti-heroines in fiction (unlike, eg, the social climbing Becky Sharp).

I am astounded that I have to address this issue, this is supposed to be a forums for mothers, not a bullying parade.

OP if you feel you have a genuine complaint you should press the Report button.

Outside of that you may not have understood that you do not have any control over how or what people post here.

It's a fascinating thread.

Therefore:

polyhymnia I wasn't recommending Undine as a role model

Just for the posters who are interested in Wharton, it's on topic and one of her less well known books...

This thread prompted me to download Daisy Miller.

I just thought I'd share, apropos nothing at all

squoosh you are rather rude. It's something that I think would benefit the OP, especially as she has been ill. It's also something that middle to 'posh' people (hate that term but KWYM) take for granted. They tend to have less worries and a positive can do mindset. Obviously not always but given the OP wants to join this set and has been poorly I think it's something that could help.

Oh and I use the term ooze because it's not that loud overly obnoxious happy that is fake. Takes a good while to get to the point where you exude happiness.

I would love a link to the 40s thread! I have had a look and couldn't find it. I would love to add a tiny bit of 40s flair to my wardrobe.

Daisy Miller is a bit peculiar...

Before you go OP, are you writing a book...?

There's a 40s thread? Oh, wonderful!!

Want2bSupermum try not to take yourself so seriously.

Oh is that why it was new to me?

What about Aspern papers/ Turn of the screw?

Turn of the Screw and Aspern Papers are excellent.

As are What Maisie Knew and Spoils of Poynton from the same period.

Just for the posters who are interested in Wharton, it's on topic and one of her less well known books...

Summer???

Thanks Twinkle

Surlycue, but those people presumably understand it isn't real - that what they are doing bears very little relation to how older people now used to live. they understand it is a form of nostalgia.

It isn't like if somebody decides to become some kind of new age hippie- holds a certain set of ethics, is vegetarian, cycles everywhere, follows some kind of earth religion etc. They really are becoming a hippie. Being into the forties is pretend. Nobody seriously goes around 'acting' as if we're at war with the Nazis, waiting for their husband to come back from a Japanese POW camp etc and believing in it.

The OP here is more similar to somebody wanting to be new age - she is presumably attempting to become the thing in some real kind of way.