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Crepes, Galettes, Pancakes and Brian the Bucket!

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MrsSchadenfreude · 18/01/2015 14:20

Here you go...

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Rosebag · 22/01/2015 11:31

Terribly sorry about DCat, NU Flowers

That sounds reasonable state of affairs, MI, I mean about your DM.

Feeling very blue today…not got much on other than the domestic…DH and I are "awkward" about tomorrow. In laws have sent flowers on the wrong day. DSis from the US has flown in on a flurry of "Here I am…. everybody…me me me!!!" DS1 has texted saying " Are you making birthday supper tomorrow?" Last night DS2 and DD said "What are we doing for your birthday?" It's like Groundhog Day. Sad Angry meh

motherinferior · 22/01/2015 11:39

Rose, the answer is "No, beloved children, what are YOU doing to lush me up and generally celebrate my maternal fabulousness?"

I threw major wobbly some years ago on those lines.

lalsy · 22/01/2015 12:05

Oh Rose love, I hear you. dh is useless about my birthday - but then I am about his too. MI's response is good.

bigTillyMint · 22/01/2015 12:22

Rose, I like MI's response too. Now tell 'em!

After dashing out to the gym to avoid the morning stresses, I have slobbed out and watched TV all morning - fab! I am now going out for a walk in the park and to treat myself to lunchSmile

QueenQueenie · 22/01/2015 12:49

You poor thing NU. Much sympathy. Losing a pet is a very painful thing, having to take responsibility for the decision makes it even more difficult. Sad

Glad to hear things are on an evenish keel with your mum MI.

Rose, don't get too upset by the uselessness of your nearest and (?)dearest about your birthday. Make a plan to do / buy something nice for yourself so you can have a celebration of your loveliness in any event... it may be extremely galling and upsetting but for whatever reason they find it hard to manage. I would take it as a backhanded compliment - you are clearly the one in your family everyone looks to to remember important celebrations, take care of others, think about other people's feelings etc... Flowers

What is it with the parents at the moment?? Got a phone message yesterday evening just as I got home after a long day - it was ddad saying he'd tripped over in the street and was in A and E on the other side of London. He thinks he's broken his ----. The most important word was unintelligible! Of course he didn't have his mobile phone on him so I couldn't contact him. A very long and expensive cab ride later I find him very chipper being tended by lovely medics with a broken nose! He was a sorry sight but the relief of it not being his leg / arm / pelvis was immense! He's very game and is fine today apart from a very sore nose.

Strength and patience to all.

Rosebag · 22/01/2015 13:21

I know, I know. QQ acceptance is the way to go. I just don't think I'm nice enough not to want them to suffer for being so useless and taking me for granted.MI Tilly they have been told...oh yes! lalsy I have not been useless about Dhs birthday in years gone by but have to admit, I am not feeling the love....come May, I right not be arsed any more! I guess in the end we all have to take responsibility for our own happiness...no ones really going to do it for you! I do like my new boots is that's something....

Rosebag · 22/01/2015 13:22

Might not right

bigTillyMint · 22/01/2015 13:42

Ouch QQ! Great that he's so game though.

Rose, I do wonder how many DH s actually do anything special for their wives birthdays. I realised early on that birthdays aren't that important to DH and that his present - buying skills are sadly lacking!

Am just having a lovely sourdough sandwich on the cafe and snurking at the group of soon - to - be mums discussing the dangers of eating burgers. They look much younger than I was as do the mums with babies in here!

QueenQueenie · 22/01/2015 13:55

I am organising a belated celebration for dh's "significant" birthday - dinner for 24 of his "closest" friends... I'm happy to do it but the idea of him doing the same for me strikes me as rather unlikely... you have to work with what you've got imo - so I tell him exactly what I'd like for my birthday, make it clear that I expect (decent) presents from the dc organised by him and expect nothing more... if he also thinks of something nice off his own bat it's and added bonus! Deep breaths Rose.

motherinferior · 22/01/2015 14:01

BTM, hiss episiotomy at them as you leave...

I have blagged requested samples of various lovely bath products for a feature I'm writing which cheers me up considerably. I should give some to Dmum and Disis, really - though DM never uses them, which is annoying and makes me more inclined to hang onto them.

motherinferior · 22/01/2015 14:04

On a totally frivolous note, now I'm Ladyjogging can I revert to wearing short skirts, if with chunky jumpers and thick tights? DD1 kindly told me how toned my legs were looking...

bigTillyMint · 22/01/2015 14:43

QQ, similar here!

Oh I couldn't have done that, MI, they were far too naice and deluded perfect!
What's the point of giving stuff to people who don't use it?

bigTillyMint · 22/01/2015 15:02

Oooh, just got 2 quotes for our possible summer trip to NZ which is very exciting (if we can persuade DH to part with any cash!) Anyone know if when flying there it is better to go the San Fran way (East?) or Dubai way (West?)?!

lalsy · 22/01/2015 15:05

Yes, MI, get em out.

OK, I'll confess....I forgot dh's birthday (which is usually while we are on holiday) one year. I spent it with old friends on a gorgeous beach. He spent it on the cliff above said beach where there was a mobile signal, sorting a work crisis. I then remembered. And cunningly fished out the present from last year, carefully stowed in our car's roofbox, and gave it to him again. Nearly got away with it. Grin.

Usually, I have to remind him and the dc to get so much as a cup of tea.

hattymattie · 22/01/2015 15:44

I've given up expecting fabulous stuff organised for my birthday and was a bit disgruntled by the envelope full of cash given to me be DH for Christmas but it has meant I have had a happy time at the sales. I have been shopping guilt free and have bought a fabulous jumper plus my Michael Kors handbag - things I really wanted.

I do understand how you feel though Rose - it would be nice to be appreciated and just, for once, feel special.

MI - I'm sure your legs are fab but when my children offer unlooked for compliments I am naturally suspicious.Wink

bigTillyMint · 22/01/2015 16:02

Hatty, I think you have my DH!

TBF, he did do a good job in helping to sort my big birthday party and gave me a large sum for my special holiday fund!

hattymattie · 22/01/2015 16:22

BTM - Grin

I am well jel of your fabulous holidays Envy.

NUFC69 · 22/01/2015 16:32

All over. Thank you for all your kind and supportive words. We have been out for a walk this afternoon to get us out of the house: stopped in a pub for a cuppa and started talking to two lovely young men - really cheered us both up.

Rose, much sympathy for a unimaginative DH. The only time my DH has pulled the rabbit out of the hat was when he bought me my Mercedes SLK for my 60th birthday. The DC, now that they are adults, have given us some lovely, exciting presents.

MI, what a great compliment! I have legs like tree trunks so am very envious. I am glad to hear that your mum is feeling ok.

BTM, as I need something to cheer me up I am trying to persuade DH that NZ would be a great place for a holiday - we wouldn't be going until the end of September, though, as it's possible our American friends might be coming earlier in the month. Any info you come across would be gratefully received. DH says there is an Opodo sale on atm.....

motherinferior · 22/01/2015 16:52

I fear I'm overselling my legs Grin; they're not that fab! Merely that under thick covering they present better than they did. I am fighting general despondency with my body, it must be said.

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MrsSchadenfreude · 22/01/2015 16:56

Oh NU, I'm so sorry. I was with my old cat when she died (she was 22 and had been round the world with me). I am sure she knew it was time to go and was happy to go - as she lay on my lap on a blanket, she purred, as she was being injected, and it was the first time for months. I howled afterwards - she was very much my cat, as she hated everyone else and was as vicious as hell. I don't think anyone else was sorry to see her go!

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herbaceous · 22/01/2015 17:07

Oh NU. How sad. Though my cat drives me round the bend, he's been a faithful friend for 17 years and it's going to break my heart when he goes. But it is the kindest thing.

My legs have always been my worst feature - cankles, fat knees, cellulite from waist to toe. But recently, I think that under thick tights they might be passable with a short skirt. If I squint.

Lectures today with Hot Bald Yet Hairy Lecturer (Who May Well Be a Friend of Dorothy). I sat right at the front and answered lots of questions. And blushed when he smiled at me.

herbaceous · 22/01/2015 17:10

Re DP and presents, he used to be amazing. Soon after we started going out, he went to China to walk the Great Wall. I received in the post an instruction to go to the Sanderson bar. There my friend was waiting for me. We had a drink, then I went to the spa. Afterwards he'd arranged all my friends to meet me for dim sum in Chinatown.

Another time he'd arranged a day of delicious food and art gallery wandering, and even sent me an invitation, printed on the back of a postcard of Manhattan (the film). Sadly, I was too hungover to go. I still feel guilty!

Rosebag · 22/01/2015 17:34

Ooh herbs I foresee a crush developing. When I was there (undergrad at same uni) a lot of the women in my year fell for the stats lecturer...he was a psychologist but happened to do the stats modules. I bet he's still there.....

Quite a day for you, NU.....we always used to plant something in the garden when one of our pets died. It helped somehow.

How exciting Tilly. I think the way people fly is governed by where they want to do a stop over?

My legs were my best feature until the old lady problems started...now they resemble the surface of the moon. And where have these fat knees come from? Bleurgh.

It's hard to explain exactly how I feel about DH and birthdays. He's very generous but his diffidence makes for problems somehow. I have to snap out of it.

bigTillyMint · 22/01/2015 19:11

NUSad

On the subject of birthdays, it has to be said that a Mercedes SLK would kind of equal a few non-entity birthdays!

DH is now, of course, having to check if he can get the flights cheaper DIY. He is sooooo frustrating. NU, I will bore you with any info as it comes my way!

HerbsGrin at your lecture!

Off for a walk with my friend soon, brrrr. Can't bail as DD has just been for a run with her friend. In 3/4 shortsShock

Blackduck · 22/01/2015 19:40

First date on Sunday (of the 6 birthday dates...) just need to sort out a babysitter!

NU sorry about the cat...