Thanks for the vote of confidence, Tilly I just find that when I get in to a spiral of self pity it helps to be a bit pragmatic and think of others. It gets me out of the "oh woe is me…oh hapless day…"rut, iyswim.
Re your Ds, I suppose he'd think youth theatre/drama was naff? It's just that its a huge outlet for anyone who has a big front, with underlying confidence doubts. They're usually amazing on stage and really funny too. Probably way off the mark, sorry but just sayin'…
MI when you get to that point that your DCs social life, (and so it seems the social life of their friends parents!!) get in the way of yours….words need to be had 
NU thats LOADS!! I'm tired just reading your post. And I do love marzipan…I'm one of those people who could eat it off the block…never mind the cake.
Ds has texted to say he had a "meaningful" day. I am getting a cold, I just know it…. that vague sore throat, tickly ears, sneezes that hurt….aaargh.
Next confidence building dinner party is on Sat night. Menu is as follows…
Chunky Veg soup i.e. everything but the kitchen sink and not in the blender.
Honeyed Chicken, Jamie Oliver's glazed carrots from the telly a couple of days ago, roast potatoes with a little garlic and rosemary and green beans.
Mincemeat tart, cream and a fruit platter. Boring? Too rich ? Too basic?