my 7 year old dd wants me and her to have the same jumper.... its the bloody boden penguin jumper!

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shes just seen it today in the Christmas

shes tall for her age so could get away just with age 9

oh if you want to do matching, this is in the children's section and this in the adults - £41 all in. A lot more reasonable.

The American shop, Gymboree, used to sell matching mother and daughter outfits. I find it all a bit twee, personally.

But if you really want to (though will you ever wear the penguin jumper again!) then why not.

I think it's very sweet and I would do it. In fact I think I might look at that......

Could do without all the people complaining about the cost. Op's money, OP's choice what's 'worth it'.

I cannot believe you lot have talked me into this

Most posters are saying it's a huge waste of money. You sound like you want to buy it if you are so easily persuaded.

Ah sod what everyone else thinks! It's cute and she'll absolutely love it, memories like that are precious x

Ah so what if she does?

No reason, other than it feeling a bit disingenuous.

I must have a different 'cute monitor' to most of you - I really, really don't think it is 'sweet' for an adult to choose to dress the same as her child. I think it's weird. It's the sort of thing that people with 'lifestyle' blogs do, not what 'normal' people do, or not the kind of people I know, anyway.

What a thoroughly unpleasant thread this has turned into.

OP posted, in a lighthearted way, about spending her money to make her daughter happy.

She has been accused of being extravagant, foolish, disingenuous and "not normal". MN at its worst.

Ignore the vitriol and buy the sweaters, OP. Your daughter is lucky to have a mother with a sense of fun. Enjoy yourselves

No to mummy and daughter jumpers. Just no.

I guess some people see £80 as a week's worth of meals for a family, or more. It therefore feels recklessly extravagant to spend it on two jumpers, one of which is likely to only be worn once for a photograph.

I think it's lovely that the OP wants to make her daughter happy, but this just feels wasteful, imvho. Some of my fondest memories of childhood are of things that cost pennies, or nothing at all.

Whilst I do sort of think this is ridiculous, I'm a firm believer in your family, your money, your choice. If it will make your daughter happy and provide memories you will treasure then go for it.
I hate Christmas jumpers, never buy single wear items but have just spent more than this on vets bills for a small furry pet.
Each to their own
Katy
Ps go for it :)

I don't like it when people can't raise the possibility of spending some money without getting berated. Strangely it only happens on some threads. Sometimes an OP talks about getting a £500 dress of £5K holiday and no one bats an eyelid!

Yes £80 could buy you some food shopping. It's also what many people spend on fags and booze over a week or two, nights out, excessive xmas presents that no one wants, a tree and decorations that end up in the bin, or whatever. I can't see buying good-quality clothes with a reasale value as worse than those!

And when you spend money it doesn't just disappear into a black hole of indulgence you know. It goes to pay people's salaries and pay taxes that keep us all in GPs and benefits and schoolbooks. Arguably, it's more moral to spend £80 on clothes made by people who get paid properly for it and that will last and make 7yo DD genuinely happy, than on various other tat that will end up in landfill a lot sooner, or just keeping it in the bank.

I mean OP shouldn't have to justify it anyway, but just saying.

Of course the OP is free to do as she wishes, but as Remus says, £80 is a huge amount of money to spend for a moment of cute a photo.

It would be just as cute to make decorations or christmas biscuits together. Would cost less than a tenner and be just as lasting a memory.

Throwing money at something doesn't always make it better.

It is fairly subtle for a penguin jumper.....

When I was young my mum once made us matching skirts, and a dress for my ragdoll. It was the 70s, so it was a fairly bizarre artificial fabric in a fetching dark orange swirly pattern, but I loved the matchiness of it.

Not sure about the Boden pricetags unless it is something you'd actually want to wear though.

Ooh OP, Johnnie sent me a £15 voucher today , so he might send out a few more vouchers, you can use it with a code as well. I would definitely get the age 16 one if you get one for yourself, you can always exchange it if it doesn't fit. I personally would treat your daughter, who will probably wear it lots and say the measurements don't look they would fit properly for your one if you're not keen but don't want to upset her.

We had everyone to us last Christmas. DC thought it would b v funny if the 4 of us were wearing xmas jumpers (not matching ones). So we ran with it and it was fun and our guests were amused. We will all remember that about christmas 2013 in years to come.

If OP wants to spend £80.00 on a jumper, it's her business and no one else's. It doesn't take a single penny from our pockets. And who says it'll only be worn once? OP may get more holidays out of it in years to come. If nothing else, it'll be a comfy warm jumper to wear on cold days, no matter when they are. It's penguins, not reindeer. It can be worn almost all winter, even if she only wants to wear it around the house.

I like the jumper and I'd sooner spend £40 on that than £15 on some tat from Primark. In fact OP if you do buy it and want to offload it in a month or two, PM me

I have a grey wool jumper with sheep on it that I got from TK Maxx and I LOVE it. It is warm and soft and makes me feel good. And my DCs like me to wear it. Not everything has to be chic and understated and Parisian all the time or any of the time if you are me

Good grief what's happened to this thread? Has anyone told the op to buy a bench yet?

Anyway she won't need to spend anything like £80 - I have never, ever in my whole life paid full price for Boden.

I got a voucher from Johnnie too. I may well spend it on penguins

Totally ridiculous to be comparing the money one family have to spend on a jumper to the money another will spend on basics. Not it isn't 'fair'. Of course it isn't because we have individual wealth not collective resources. So whilst we have individual wealth the OP is free to splash her cash as she chooses.

I received £15 voucher today by email! Shocked as I never get anything; rumour was that those who spent a fair bit with Boden didn't get the vouchers, it was to encourage the low/non spenders.

Back to the penguin jumper. I'd have said the 16+, which is out of stock, would be more like size 10-12 than the 16.

oh it has gone a bit crazy on this thread

i don't spend much on going out nor do i/we drink or smoke or doing anything expensive really

i wouldn't even consider it unless we can afford it

we will be going to Lapland uk, which is a lot for one day
but i value experiences and memories over other things/toys for the children
i totally agree not all memories need to be expensive ones
will be getting less from us at christmas because of the trip to Lapland uk
they will however get a lot from the extended family
so we are hopefully not wasteful

and like i already said certain relatives send money or ask me to pick things
so i could pick these

dd will wear hers

i might sell mine or wear it for diy or gardening or just at home on freezing days

You don't have to justify spending your money on something you've chosen to spend it on!

Anybody wishing to harangue wastrels should go stand by the cigarette machines in pubs and watch people buying fags and burning them.