Are you fat?

[sallysparrow157]

There are so many threads on here where people say 'I'm a size 8 but I feel flabby' or 'no wonder teenagers have a poor body image when people who are size 16 or 18 think they're big'
I'm a big 16. I am 5 ft nearly 5 and weigh just under 14 stone.
I feel less fat than I did 3 stone ago, I would class myself as chubby but my fatness doesn't turn heads.
So... Do you think you're fat?

Hi Sleep
It took me a long while to accept it but as I've never been slim its just who I am now. My DH loves my boobs and bum, I'd be sad if I lost my boobs. I'm probably one of the bigger Mums but I'm happy. I know I'd be miserable without wine & chocolate. I'll never be a gym bunny so I make the best of what I have.

Hi Lumin. My d.p also finds me very sexy, well obviously or he wouldn't have approached me. I also love my chocolate and wine. X

I'm not fat (and never have been). I did have issues with my body image when I was a teenager - despite the fact that I was 5ft 5 and weighed 8st 4. At my last health check I weighed exactly the same amount (I'm now 38). Of course my body shape has changed somewhat (I've had 2 children, and I'm not nearly as toned as I used to be), but I think I look great for my age. I've nearly always had a well-defined waist (obviously not immediately after the DC were born). This is mainly because of the way I'm built - I'm pear-shaped and put on weight around my thighs and bum. I exercise 5 times a week because I enjoy it (and it ensures I have a bit of time to myself). I'm also able to afford to buy well-cut and well-fitting clothes - I think this makes a huge difference to how I feel about myself. I also eat whatever I want to - in fact I've never been on a diet. I'd rather eat a sensible portion of the delicious full-fat version, than mess around with the dull low-fat stuff (which is usually packed with carbohydrate anyway).

Also a big turn on for men Id confidence in your body and a good personality will honestly do wonders for a person. X

I am 5ft 4, 14st 5 and a size 16. Lowest I've been in my adult life was 12 and a half stone and a comfortable size 14. I still felt huge at the time but looking back at pictures I didn't look bad at all. At the moment I feel huge and very self conscious and I hate it.

Trying to get back down to that weight after having dd (lost 1 and a half stone so far) but really struggling.

No, and I've always been naturally slim. I'm currently 5'6.5" and hover around 9st 3. I've been seeing a PT for about a year now, mainly just to keep me motivated and keep me exercising and I'd say I probably look the best I ever have. I've lost maybe 3lbs since seeing him, but I've lost about 8-10% body fat, which has really shocked me: despite being slim before with a low BMI, my body fat was v high, putting me in the obese category.

Now I've been regularly exercising hard for a year, I'll do what I can to keep it up: I ran a 10k a couple of weeks ago for example. I feel great, I eat what I want (although always have: but I do eat pretty well most of the time), and my clothes fit better, my H thinks I'm amazing (exercise is important to him but he knows I don't do it for fun, and my natural state is on the sofa reading!). I hope I'm setting a good example to my children too.

I've never had negative feelings about my body, I'm in total awe of what the human body can do: expand, shrink, give life, produce chemicals that can make you feel good (and bad). As far as I know, I will only have one life and one body to take me through it, and I need to ensure I stay strong. That's what exercise and eating well is for me. Maybe a bit Pollyanna, but it's my truth.

No I am slim.
5'8", 9 stone 12

I eat very healthily and exercise regularly, always have. Am very grateful to my parents for giving me these good habits and a healthy relationship with food (have never binged or dieted).

I haven't always loved my shape but have come to accept that it won't change much so I might as well focus on being healthy.

I am and feel fat at the moment - 5'6" and 11st 10lb. But I am also 3 months post natal and mid way through losing it (was 13st just after giving birth ) so it doesn't bother me that much as I know I only have to live with it another couple of months.

When I get down to bang on or fractionally below 10st, as long as I am toned as well I feel good and healthy and slim and confident wearing whatever I want.

I am, I don't sound it on paper, but I am, 5'10" and 11 stone, but I swear a huge chunk of that is my massive overstretched stomach from carrying ds and having polyhydramnios. Over the years the fat just seems to stick there, so while the rest of me looks fine my front is awful, I wish I were more accepting, but if I catch sight of it naked I quite often cry.

Yes I'm 5ft 6 and I'm 13st 10 . I wear an 18 usually but I just got into a size 16 jeans

I have a very large tummy , (45in waist), back fat, and very flabby arms . I have ok legs though

I was a size 10 for most of my adult life, but the arrival of ME and a less active lifestyle, in my mid fifties, resulted in my present shape. I'm 5ft 5ins, 12 stone and a curvy size 16. I'm not fat, don't feel fat, I look great (with the occasional help of shapewear). Anyway, at nearly 67 I've no intention of losing weight and looking like a deflated balloon.

yep:( 5'2" and currently 12st 4lb. Size 14/16 shop dependent.

Far too much emotional eating, always choosing the wrong type of food, binge eating on multi bags of crisps and packets of biscuits.

Trying every day to get a grip on this.

No. size 8-10 and 5ft 5. Mid 40's.
haven't weighed myself in years-I'd guess 9 stone.
I walk loads.
No diets, I have never had a big appetite so just small portions.
I have been size 12-14 when dcs were small for couple of years, but I think certain contraception was mostly to blame.

Am I fat? No. I'm 5'4, 8st 11 and a size 8.

Do I feel fat? Yes, every day. I have lost about a stone this year through diet and exercise. Would like to lose another 7-14lbs, ideally.

I'm not fat. I'm 5'3 and weigh 8.5 stone, and I wear a size 8. I'm a distance runner and do a lot of exercise, so I'm muscular rather than slender. I like my body but I used to wish I could be willowy rather than solid. I've learned to appreciate myself more now that I'm older.
But I was, if not fat, then heavy - I have worn a size 12 and being short it did not look good on me; I probably was pushing 10 stone. Looks aside, I remember the feeling of being weighed down, feeling heavy, and I hated it.
I have in the past had eating issues, binge eating and then starving, or being over-regimented. I've learned now (late 30s) that I can eat what I want when I'm hungry (I keep away from cream, butter, and chocolate due to allergies) and stop when I'm full, and I stay as I am, due to my level of activity. I eat a high carbohydrate diet, mainly unrefined and pulses/grains/brown pasta, due to my training. If I stopped being so active, I'd have to eat less. But I'm aware it isn't so easy for other people.

Yep. I'm fat and trying to lose weight. I'm 5 foot 6 inches and a size 18. I weigh 12 stone 10, but most of my weight is on my tummy. I want to get down to 9 stone and feel healthy. I don't think my fatness turns heads, but I'm not a healthy weight.

Ola - I don't get it, we are the same height, you are a stone heavier than me, but I can only dream of fitting in size 16 jeans. :(

I'm the biggest I've ever been, at 10.8 stone. Was two stone lighter than this, up until 35. Always fluctuated a little, but now I have things like a big belly & cellulite. Fat arms are new to me too. None of my clothes fit, so I recently bought some size 12 dresses. I thought my eating & exercise weren't bad. I walk everywhere & have a sweet tooth, but I joined My Fitness Pal yesterday. I've never counted calories in my life, always had a varied diet. But I am shocked by the amount of calories I consume in what I thought was an average day's food. Heading for 40 & just have to fave the fact that I'll have to eat less in future. And step the walking up to running. Folk have said I look great recently, as the chubby chops add a youthful glow to my face. However, health-wise, I've never felt so unfit. So I guess it's all relative, but in recent photos of a party, yes I am clearly fatter.

I weigh 60kg which is right at the top of normal BMI for my height. I piled on weight when my relationship broke up. My ex did all the cooking and suddenly I was living on ready meals and restaurants, and drinking too much.

I'm not fat if you think BMI is accurate (which many doctors don't). But I know I'm not looking and feeling my best. I have PCOS and even the 8 kg I'm carrying over my optimum weight is bad for my health.

It's also bad for my vanity: the weight is almost entirely on my middle and makes me look pregnant, and most clothes don't flatter my current shape. I have a wardrobe full of lovely things I'd like to wear again, so I'm trying the 5:2 and walking to work every day.

I've been much happier with myself since I had my two children. I've grown two human beings from scratch inside me, which is a pretty incredible party trick if you stop and think about it (not just that I can do it, but that it happens at all to anyone). It redefined my body as a functional unit, not something that should be beautiful, perfect, scrutinised by other people, red-circled by magazines and so on.

It's really interesting to see how much people weigh and their heights, and how much the dress sizes differ. Some people have mentioned the same height and more weight than me and been a smaller dress size, and others weigh less and are a bigger dress size. It just shows how much your body shape and where you carry your weight makes a difference.

And yes to having a wardrobe of smaller clothes and not being able to fit in to them A few months ago I vacuum packed all of my lovely size 14 dresses and they are now stashed away on top of my wardrobe. I'm desperate to fit in to them again.

koothrapanties build can make such a difference to size v weight - when I am at 5'6" and 10st I am a 10, even occasionally an 8 in tops if they are cut generously across the shoulders (I have broad shoulders), but my sister is exactly the same height and at 10st is a 12-14 on top and very definitely a 14 on the bottom. Just different shapes/build.

Yep, 5`11, and size 24. I'm tall, firm, and shapely so don't look too bad until I stand next to other woman. Rhen i look like I've eaten their mates.

But, I'm pretty healthy. Work full time and not a single sick day in six years, don't drive so do over two miles to the station each day and that's what's important.

I do need/want to lose weight as clothes shopping will be easier. I dress fine, but need to shop online so wouldn't be nice to get down to a 'high street' size.

I often think the "i feel fat" comments are just insecurity, as you can guarantee someone will pop up and say you don't look fat.

5'9" and 9.5 stone so definitely not fat but I'm not toned and I wobble (tummy and thighs).

2 years ago I was a dress size 12-14 and am now I'm 8-10 but could do with toning up!

I'm 5'2", of small build/frame with a BMI of anything between 16 and 18. Dress size 6 or sometimes I wear teenager sized clothes. My usual weight for many years was 7st 7lbs and that was without excerise or particularly watching what I eat/drink, not boasting by the way just giving some background.

BUT! since I hit my mid thirties I have crept up to around 7st 9lbs. It is truely shocking the difference those two or three extra pounds make on me. I have accuired quite a flabby tummy, squidgy hips and chunkier thighs. It makes me thorughly depressed as how can I be such a small dress size and low BMI yet be so flabby and untoned .

I look my best at 7 and a half stone with my ribs and hip bones just ever so slightly visible, but now they are under a layer of fat boo hoo!

So yes I feel "fat" and would say I look it naked but I also realise I am small in size if that makes sense?

I need to do something about itas it upsets me and has knocked my confidence as to what I will wear. Just to find the movitation to do so.