is this dress appropriate for a funeral?

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we are pretty skint at the moment so can't afford to get an outfit that will only be worn once.

the only smart dress i have is like this but with purple spots

was planning to wear with a black, cropped(bolero?) cardie, tights and ballet style shoes but it keeps niggling at me that it isn't really an appropriate outfit for a funeral.

what do others think.

Well, suggested popping to asda and dh is getting stressy and saying "we have no money!!!! just wear that dress, there's no dress code!!!!!!!!"

So I think I'll be wearing it then. I'll adjust the straps to normal rather than halterneck position and wear a cardie over it.

Op please don't wear just a bolero with that dress. If you have to wear you must make it look like a skirt ie. cover the bodice completely otherwise I am sorry but you will look ridiculous.

Can't you borrow something from a friend or your Mum? A pair of trousers and a plain dark top.

Wtf?! No way for a funeral!!!!

Changing the straps and wearing a cardi will not make it appropriate!

I used the wrong word for the cardie I was planning to wear, its a waist/hiplength one rather than a bum length one I usually wear.

Have googled bolero and its nothing like what I have!

If you must wear that dress, and if the spots are dark purple with black background, then maybe, just maybe you can get away with this. Then wear something of this shape as a cardigan.
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If you button up and not show too much flesh, and wear dark tights and black pumps or heels, then it should be a bit better. Definitely do not wear a tuille to plump up the skirt. If you are also worried, you could turn it into a pencil type skirt for the day by pinning it inside and pull it back. Temporary stitch it or something. That is what I would do, if I must wear it.

I think I'd turn it inside out if I had to wear it to a funeral.

Seriously, what size are you and where abouts? I'm up north and have apeopriate clothes size 10-16 I can happily lend you. At a push you need a jumper over it so it looks like a skirt I think, but if your close ill happily let you borrow something of mine

It doesn't have to be new or smart but that is too 'party.'

That dress is not suitable for a funeral. It really isn't.

I understand you have limited options OP but that dress is completely and utterly inappropriate for a funeral.

You will look like an attention seeker and/or a nutjob if you wear it .

Surely you can borrow something or buy something cheap?

I think imaginations are running away here, it has no petticoat so will look like this

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Not like this

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I'm much fatter than friends and family so can't borrow.

I think it depends. I went to the funeral of a friend's DM last year, she was a fabulous personality and black would have been totally inappropriate, I wore a multicoloured frock with an orange cardi and green shoes (hmmm, sounds awful written down but did work - honest!) But I think it really depends and if you're in anyway unsure then maybe that's meaning it wouldn't be ok. Not sure I've been very helpful, sorry! I do love the dress though!

RIP to your DH's brother and condolences to you all x

The spots just look a bit jolly and attention seeking. I'd be a bit if I saw someone wearing in such a dress at a funeral.

Not plumped up and with a cardigan over it will be fine, I think.

No,it's still totally inappropriate.Also,if you are larger it will flare out more.

Seriously,show some respect at the funeral or don't go

It's not appropriate at all.

Wear what you like but you have been warned!

Very sorry for your loss btw.

I am really sorry for your loss, your DH probably has a lot on his mind and doesn't want to think about shopping.

I wouldn't wear it but if you really have no option I Agree top half has to be completely covered so it looks like a skirt (cardigan buttoned up), no underskirt, black tights and courts would be passable. A cardi like Maisie posted would be ideal, something with a high neck.

My dp's sister was wear whatever as that is what she would have wanted and all her workmates were a riot of colour and it was so about her and not some stuffy tradition. I think wear the dress all black accessories will be fine esp if he was that sort of man.

Totally inappropriate for a funeral. The seasalt dresses with a black jacket or jumper would be better imo.

I remember my cousins turning up to my granny's funeral in black partywear. It was so ghastly. People will remember you wearing it.

No my imagination is not running away.

It's a mock 1950's circle dress with a halter neck, sweetheart neckline and big polka dots.

Even without a petticoat it is going to look like a going out dress.

And OP if you're quite large then it will be even worse.

Obviously it's up to you what you wear.

On an already stressful day I would want to look simply and respectfully dressed and not like I got en route to a girl's day out at the races.

I remember my cousins turning up to my granny's funeral in black partywear

I think we may be related as I remember my cousins doing the same - still talked about years later usually with pursed lips and total bewilderment!

Run it past your Mil as you have suggested, and if her and your dh are Ok with the outfit it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks!

OP most of us think you should not wear it so you probably will feel very uncomfortable in it. I know money is tight but I do think in this instance you should buy something else. Everyone needs a smart outfit from time to time so you will get wear out of it again.