Shiny Happy Crepeys

[Blackduck]

Over here all........

I think the hw-doing parents are over-represented on MN, because they can't talk to anyone in RL about it. Each to their own, but I don't know anyone in RL who gets regularly involved in their doing-fine secondary school child's homework, by which I mean standard ones involving pens and paper - I did get involved in yr 7 projects requiring Stanley knives, hot glue guns and seven bottles of shower gel [breathes sigh of relief that those days are over].

I would like to lose at least half a stone too, but I don't want to enough ATM! No snacking would be a start! Herbs, good plan to reward yourself

NU that is a beautiful post - and I know exactly what you mean about the odd jobs getting done just before moving.

I have the answer to unkempt houses: a 3 yo - DGS has just ewbanked the kitchen floor after lunch! Superficially my home is clean but open cupboard doors at your peril.

On the subject of DCs, I quite often think that some people are quite mad; how on earth do children learn to be good independent people if they aren't given the opportunity? And why would you do their homework? It must undermine them enormously: help, yes; do it for them, no.

Back to child minding.

NU, we had our kitchen done when DS had just turned 2. He obsessively swept up with DD's "broomstick" making more mess than the builder

MI, I think the tiredness has the most to do with it. It drags you down into a rut where you can't see the wood for the trees. Once you can get a few good nights under your belt, it's easier to tackle the rest.

I only help when asked, so actually end up doing more with the 16 yo than the 8 yo, just because that's what's needed. So don't beat yourself up for not going through homework; imo, you're not supposed to go through homework, unless they need you to.

Dog update: he has a huge left side to his heart, with a non-functioning valve, so lots of liquid sloshing through and back, which has made it expand. He also has pneumonia, which is being treated. So he might just have to be a more sedate dog on medication, or he might keel over. Not sure at the moment so it's wait and see. I suspect if we make it through the next month or so, we might be OK till the next infection. Still, he's very happy, no pain and chilling on the sofa.

Oh and we've inherited a piano........ Not sure of the timing of poorly heart attack dog and noisy piano, but hey ho.

Oh poor doggy!

Poor old Inferiorettes are knackered too. Luckily DD2 is off on Friday. I may take her out for a nice lunch at the Indian place in Peckham, as she has been complaining that we don't eat dosas enough

Oh poor doggy Beachy! Fingers crossed......

MI - can I come for the dosas!!

I am thinking I might take Friday off as I feel the need at the moment....

Go on, BD...

I know that Indian place in Peckham - food there is very good

Even my sarf Indian mother likes it there!

MI, think I should maybe invite you all round here as a kind of antidote to the QQ effect. Sometimes, when I'm feeling more inadequate than usual, I fixate on the fact that the previous owners' rawlplugs are still in the chimney breast, from the mirror they used to hang there

I have just asked Mr Inferior if he intends taking any time off over Easter...

In S&B news, just got my Gap order - navy khakis navy trench and
light blue top and like them all

In non S&B news, I stopped by the doctors to get my BP tested as the GP said I was to keep an eye on it and it is ridiculously high I am hoping that this is related to being due on tomorrow, but I have booked an appointment - the next available is 23rd April!!!!!

MI so sorry you're feeling low but can I just reiterate that YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOTHER!! Good grief you've propped us all up in bad times as well. Hope tai-chi Man can give you the support you need over Easter. It's perfectly ok to do nothing IMO . You are entitled to rest and be still. I have never been near dds homework in my life. Dh used to cut up oranges when she was learning fractions but I think that was it.(12 twelve XII) years ago)
I was advised once to stop strategising - stop making to do lists and make not to do lists for a couple of days instead. Very very helpful if you are anything like me who can't sit still for seeing 'things to do' everywhere I look( peeling wallpaper, piles of recycling, weeding, loading dishwasher , folding knickers)
Just resist until you are rested
Not easy but anyone who can lady jog can do it!
The only person who scolds you is you. Tell yourself to fuck off

Dad is OUT!
Dd is better
And I am having a not to do day and celebrating my inner slob.

Oh and someone 2 years younger than me has been appointed chief executive at work and is a working mum. Puke.sour grape face

MI you should have told Mr MI he IS having time off.....

Beachy, I hope the dog pulls through ok - it sounds a little bit positive short term. We have a 16 yo cat who suffers from arthritis - it's just a case of making sure he's comfortable (and paying the vet bills!). We try to make sure that he doesn't have any stress (difficult when a neighbour's cat insists on coming through our cat flap) and I guess that's what it will be like for DDog.

MI, you sound a bit more cheerful - good.

Love the two things from Gap; I bought a trench coat recently and it's been very useful.

Blackduck, he's reserving time for when I go to India

BTM, how worrying re blood pressure. It is the end of term though...

I have one (1, i) term left as a primary school mum. I shall weep pints at her leavers' assembly.

I have 1 term left as a parent of a child at first school. I shall probably not weep at all his leavers' assembly, being a) a hard-faced old bag and b) heartily sick of the school gate. From Sept, my 9-year-old will be getting himself to and from school. Woohooooooo!

I like the school gate as am pathologically nosy sociable.

MI and Stropps, I felt more weepy at DD's leavers assembly than DS's as I was sick of the school gate (well, not that I had really been there for a year or more!) However, DS got really choked doing his reading in church and set the whole of the footy team off. And then the whole of Y6. His teacher and I were and

Dd started at the preschool on the same site in 2001. I have spent 13 years deliberately being 5 mins late at pick-up time in order to avoid standing in the crowd outside the classrooms.

Ah it probably helps that dd is even more stoney-faced on these occasions than I am. She would cry if she accidentally squished a ladybird, but has been v relieved to leave both first school and middle school. It remains to be seen how the import of leaving the next one will hit her. I also doubt that ds will be any less than joyous at his leavers' assembly (and he is also the same about squished bugs). I'd probably have been better off raising them on a desert island somewhere - lots of nature, no school.

Sorry, sorry, am suffering from a bad rising-to-the-surface of my dislike of the education system, watching what it is doing to dd is not fun. I fail to see how any of this idiot grade-chasing is doing her or society in general the slightest bit of good.