Mardy Crepeys

[SheherazadeSchadenfreude]

Done it...

Well I am planning to replace all the cupboards/drawers, etc and new worktops etc, but the appliances are all newish. It all requires time and effort deciding though

Came back and did another couple of hours in the garden - planted some lily of the valley bulbs I got today and cut what is left of the grass - it was decimated when we had the landscaping done in the rain

Make an appointment NU!

Herbs/MI/CV, sun is fab

Ddad has been admitted with pneumonia . Poor thing is hooked up to everything you can think of. Dmum beside herself.

Cremo

Oh no. I'm so sorry.

Crem, so sorry to hear that - at least he is in the right place and pneumonia can be dealt with very quickly. I will keep my fingers crossed for him: best wishes for your DMum, too; she will need your support.

I am even more envious of your warm weather after having read some of the posts - we have had the heating on here all day!

Cremo how awful

Cremo hope he's on the mend quickly...

Herbs how exactly does he expect you to do that? And why does he feel the need to say it?

What a fabulous day - I feel positively :)

Herbs, my DP had a brief phase of being convinced I had to get a full time in house job which drove me to tears. Not least because I do actually work full-time...

In trivial S&B news I am having a red lipstick crisis and would appreciate advice and assistance in finding the ultimate red lippie which doesn't go weirdly pink after a while.

As recommended by mumsnet sometime ago , I use MUA lippy in
Shade 13 A true RED .Or MAC in 'vinyl' if you can get it
It's creamy , lasts a good long while and is 1 ( one I ) pound. Worth a try MI from superdrug
??

Show me the trivial. RL sucks

Very sorry to hear about your Dad, Crem. Is he otherwise healthy?

Oh goodness, Crem, I hope your dad's condition shows some improvement soon. What a worry.

Herbs, hope your dp's outing with his dad went ok. I wonder if his upset about his dad is a factor in him making annoying statements about you needing to "earn more".

My CBT is trying to get me to focus on why I'm so neurotically terrified of going and getting a "proper" job. I am convinced that I can't do a real job in the real world. But I have to. This issue causes me some stress

Feeling like I've achieved a few things today: made American-style pancakes for breakfast, went to Tesco on my bike with ds. Went for a walk with dog and both dc. Did some garden jobs; made prawn stirfry for supper. The hamster's diet was supplemented today by pancakes for breakfast and rice for supper. I have had rats who were fussier than this hamster and ate less.

Ds survived his first paintballing party yesterday, although he does have a large bruise on his backside where one of his friends shot him at close range.

Well , he's had his trials poor thing
2 new hips
Cellulitis
Asthma
And he's 86. Up until 3 years ago he was playing tennis or golf twice a week and going to piano lessons
The main problem is mum is only just 70 and gets so frustrated that dad is declining. She still young and poor old dad really can't keep up with the hectic social life and travel planned by mum. She is really struggling with dad's age now. The reality of the situation has only dawned on her and even now , tonight she's saying things like " you'll be fine by Friday , I'll not cancel the 12 people we have coming for dinner" Dad hasn't the strength to say anything.
Fortunately my sister is nursing in the same hospital. And I can stand in looking after her kids in place of mum. ( if she lets me)
They hadn't been near the Gp since January. They both just thought dad would be better soon( they kept this from us)

Crem, hope there is better news today about your DDad and he is responding to ABs. He sounds marvellous, by the way - I hope that I am as active when I get to his age. Don't know what to suggest about your mum; perhaps it is her coping method to keep on planning short term things? Strength to you all today.

Crem - same thoughts as NU - hope your Dad has stabilised.

Rudy - hope everything's alright with you.

I have a friend leaving for Boston today so have put all DC's on the bus (usually I drive on Mondays but pollution alert gave me the perfect excuse) and I'm off for an early coffee.

Hayfever is so bad I want to rip my eyeballs out!

Cremo, fingers crossed for better news today.

Rudy, hope you are OK.

Oh, Crem . I am glad he is getting treatment now.

My dm's partner is older than her, and quite poorly much of the time, whereas she is very fit and active. It is very hard I think - his condition and needs change all the time - she has to adapt to that, while presumably being aware that her ability to rush around the country having fun won't last for ever. Tough one.

Dukes sends love, btw (was in contact with her through quite different network, in quest to fill those three pages that are now gaping hole while lovely friend goes under knife - has op on Fri....)

Rudy hope all is okay...

Blimey MI that's quick!

I know. I have no idea if this signifies anything....

Thanks everyone. Off to hospital now to see ddad.
Rudy thinking of you.
Dukes - all the v best.

Hola all. And best wishes to the elderly relatives all causing such problems. We truly are the sandwich generation. My mum has the same prob with dad - he's 87, and his alzheimers is now making it difficult for mum, at a mere 80, to do all the things that keep her sane - holidays, time at choir, committees, etc. The same fate awaits DP - I'm 10 years older than him!

DP very upset by his day out with his dad. It's all hitting home, rather. I think his concern over me earning more money is more that he feels financially responsible for everything, and as his job is turning out to be a pain in the arse, me not earning gives him fewer options.

Had a productive morning. PTA meeting (at which there were five (5, v) attendees), haircut (jowl-length bob again), and trawl of pound shop. In S&B news, I have worked out I have more than 30 coats and jackets. This seems excessive. Yet they all seem necessary!

My dad was 22 years older than my mum and dh is 18 years older than I am. I sometimes wallow in gloom about what is "undoubtedly" going to come to pass. And then I remember that my crystal ball has never actually worked that well...

Herb's 30 coats and jackets, where do you put them all.