Help - shaving dilema!

[DisneyonIce]

Sorry, no idea where to put this but I'm in desperate need of some advice re keeping my bikini area looking nice! I used to shave occassionally and wax if I was going on holiday. (I was married for a long time & divorced last year) Anyway now I'm seeing someone new and wanting to be nice and tidy pretty regularly but shaving is playing havoc! I keep getting ingrown hairs and spots which is not an attractive look you want to share with a new lover. Waxing was better but then I would have to let it grow out periodically. Have tried home hair removal creams and stuff over the years and they just don't work for me. So what do I do????

bump for the morning crowd...?

Stay away from shaving !! I used to shave very regularlyand like you I had horrible ingrowths and spots.... They are just getting under control after about 4 years of staying away from the razor...
I get a wax every 6 weeks. Over time you'll observe that as a result of waxing the hair that starts getting thinner and grows back much slower.
Also, I apply baby oil on the area regularly after a shower... It makes the roots softer and the hair comes off easily (of course don't apply oil just before a wax session)
HTH :)

I prefer to do a close trim rather than wax or shave. Use a men's grooming kit rather than a female bikini trimmer as its cheaper, more robust and you get more different attachments to use. End up with a nice close trim, can't see anything, without the pain of waxing or the regrowth pain of shaving.

hmm stuck - are you very fair? My hair is really dark and any growth at all is noticeable both in terms of look and feel.

Thanks mumtosp, I suspect you are probably right, that regular waxing will be the way to go - will just have to find a way to explain to the new man about the need for occassional growth!

The best ever thing, I found, was laser hair removal.

I had my bikini line done about 10 years ago. I now have a few stragglers re appearing, but nothing that a quick epilate or wax can't deal with.

I have dark hair too - and hated the shaving regrowth.

Check out groupon. They often have offers on IPL hair removal. It isn't bound to be terribly expensive. And it really does make a difference. Plus you don't have to grow it before treatment, you can, in fact have to, shave during the treatment period.

www.groupon.co.uk/deals/dealbank_en_gb/skin-therapy/25978372

Disney - gingery so it's a combination of dark and light colours. One of the trimmer heads gets so close there's nothing left at all to see, but I don't bother with that one every time (as you need to trim it short before that one will work!)
If you want to keep it short then I guess you need to do it as often as shaving, but I'm happy with only doing it every fortnight.
If I remember it cost £10-15 so easily the cost of a bikini wax to try if it works for you? Bonus is we cab both use it in our house ;-)

I pluck mine

Are you using proper shaving gel to shave? There's one in boots next to the women's razors called aloe Vera sensitive care iirc. Not used it on my bikini area but it's the first thing that hasn't irritated my legs.

Yes, hot shower, decent razor, shaving gel. my legs and even underarms are fine, it's just my bikini. :(

When I started seeing now DP, I bit the bullet and was upfront about the fact that I wax and what that entails. It might be a good screening tool?