Ha, BTM! Thunder thighs, as if. Trust me, I'm an expert: my thighs are on loan from Thor. As my legs are a mass of old lady broken veins, I'm none too keen at exposing them at the best of times and tend to go for opaques, but I no longer like black ones, so am coming round to the idea of committing the sin of leggings.
Herbs, driving lessons sounds like a win/win sort of present. 
Top of the league of unappreciated presents in our house: a book entitled "Household Management for Men" given to dh one Christmas by my aunt.
MrsS, many commiserations.
Wilbur, many thanks for the Mindset book recommendation. I didn't bother with Amazon, but instead did that quaint and old-fashioned thing of going to an actual shop and actually handing over cash-money, having read half the first chapter
. You were right, I see myself in part and I also very much see dd and she has already grudgingly read an extremely pertinent excerpt.