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What does mumsy look like?

499 replies

appletarts · 26/04/2013 20:16

What do you think of when you think mumsy? I'm interested in opinions and pics if anyone finds something quintessentially mumsy. It's my fear, looking all mummy.

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AmberNectarine · 29/04/2013 18:42

MrsCB, bloss pinned a really nice sweaty Betty fleece. May be worth a look.

I apologise for using th B word. Obviously I meant stripey top.

kerstina · 29/04/2013 18:52

ASOS denim biker jacket in pigment wash. Can anyone link please. I just tried. I think its a bargain got 10% off too. Love to know your opinions!

MrsCampbellBlack · 29/04/2013 18:58

Yes wash your mouth out Amber.

Off to look at fleece.

cocolepew · 29/04/2013 19:01

Found it! Its very nice.

MrsCampbellBlack · 29/04/2013 19:08

Oh I love that fleece - will go and try on tomorrow. - thanks Amber and Bloss

OrangeMabel · 29/04/2013 19:40

Amber how do you know you look stylish? It could just be wishful thinking and you actually look downright mumsy to someone else? Are baggy jeans stylish if they are called daft names like "boyfriend"?

dexter73 · 29/04/2013 19:50

I don't think it really matters if someone else thinks you look mumsy. For a start how would you know? If you feel stylish and think that you look nice that is the important thing.

OrangeMabel · 29/04/2013 19:51

Oh it took me so long to type the above post, the discussion moved on!

Never mind, I always kill S&B threads - MNHQ should pay me for it ...

Sheila · 29/04/2013 19:58

I think it must be rather blissful to not care what you look like - what freedom!

I suspect that the majority of women DO care, but that many don't have the budget/figure/skills to put a good look together.

MrsCampbellBlack · 29/04/2013 19:58

I agree Dexter - style is so subjective. God some days - I look at myself and wonder what the actual . . .

DH told me I looked like I was a cushion last week - I reckon mumsy is better than that.

AmberNectarine · 29/04/2013 20:00

Well I have a reasonably successful blog Mabel, so someone thinks I'm doing it right!

dexter73 · 29/04/2013 20:01

Yes Mrs CB it is subjective. I really like what I am wearing today and it is very 'me'. However it is totally made up of items that have been mentioned on here as being mumsy. I don't think it is so that's all that matters to me!

YoniOno · 29/04/2013 20:01

This discussion has moved on somewhat... but I just wanted to address woozle's comment that it's all one-sided sneering at people who dress mumsily. I wrote a little anecdote from my morning upthread where a mumsy mum at toddler group was sneering at me for being a bit dressed up - the implication is definitely 'oh I'm such a committed mother I don't make time for myself to put on makeup etc' rather than just 'you like wearing makeup, I don't - fine'. I didn't get dressed up for anyone else, just me cos I enjoy it - I feel a bit sad knowing people judge for it and think I'm ignoring DS whilst tarting up. It takes very little time - it's a little hobby and makes me feel like myself rather than a martyr.

And yy to looking stylish not being incompatible with comfort - stretchy skinnies, ballet flats and a cross body bag and I walked the two miles to the toddler group and back. With my spf50 on of course Wink

People who self-identify as mumsy - do you internally sneer at women who are dressed fashionably and are wearing full makeup at baby type things?

Catlike · 29/04/2013 20:17

Unless you are young enough to look good in Primark clothes, you need to be able to keep up with whatever is fashionable, and that requires a reasonable level of disposable income.

That is so true. Even if you're not slavishly following every trend, your wardrobe will inevitably look slightly passé if you don't update it fairly frequently and many of us just don't have the money to keep doing that every few months (or the figure to get away with the primark versions!).

And, as I said before, simply the fact of particular styles becoming popular with women who are mums is enough to render them tired and outdated because mothers are somehow seen as intrinsically frumpy. It's unfair but it's true.

This article by Jess Cartner-Morley sums that sneery attitude up quite well:
The trouble is, these days, every mum at every school gate in the western world is working that look, only with less-than-perfect jeans, the high-street version of her Antonio Berardi jacket and a growing-out bob.

There was a time, a year or so ago, when school-run chic was having a moment, but the shine has worn off.Thirtysomething mothers loved the fact that they were wearing the same clothes as off-duty models ? but funnily enough, the off-duty models didn't feel the same way

santamarianovella · 29/04/2013 20:20

thank you yoniono,thats what i wanted to say since the beginning of this thread,but was scared that i get misunderstood.
it seems that if you dont mind or care what you wear or look like and think of clothes as garments that cover your body and keep you warm along with great love for the outdoors then you are the perfect mum.

but god forbid if you look after yourself,and dress nicely and do hair and make up.cause that means wasting precious time. therefore it means that you are neglecting your home and kids.poor babies!
thats just very superficial and can only be described as an act of pure jealousy.

dexter73 · 29/04/2013 20:20

I'm definitely working the off-duty model look!!! HmmWink

MrsCampbellBlack · 29/04/2013 20:30

Well Dexter you is wicked cool so I'd expect nothing less.

miffybun73 · 29/04/2013 20:30

Short hair, pale blue boot cut jeans that are a bit too short with black boots and baggy fleece. I'm guilty of some of these, but never the short hair. I'll be a mad old lady with long grey hair in a bun rather than short hair ;)

dexter73 · 29/04/2013 20:30

Bat t-shirt and crocs!

Fishandjam · 29/04/2013 20:39

Well, ce soir I am working several mumsy looks all at once:

  • Mothercare feeding vest with no bra underneath (pregnancy clothes when not pregnant + lactating sagging tits = tick)
  • Red Molotov slogan T shirt (deluded attempt to be amusing = tick)
  • bootcut jeans from Fat Face (double tick, though lose points for their length being sufficient)
  • purple waterfall cardigan (tick, with extra points cos I bought it at a garden centre)
  • black ankle boots which look like Cornish pasties (tick)
  • Craghoppers fleece, also bought from garden centre (double tick)

I am Ubermumsy, hear me roar!!

Fishandjam · 29/04/2013 20:41

Oh yes, and my short hair is a bit all over the place after a day outside in the wind.

I'm too mumsy for this board

MrsCampbellBlack · 29/04/2013 20:42

Grin at Fishandjam

OneLittleLady · 29/04/2013 20:45

Wait, how do boots look like Cornish pasties?!?!

Fishandjam · 29/04/2013 20:48

Ooh, ooh, and the only makeup I wore was a bit of foundation and a bit of kohl pencil. Vaseline on lips.

So ner.

Fishandjam · 29/04/2013 20:50

Like this onelittlelady.