MN Vogue Vol 6

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All are welcome to chat style and beauty on this thread!

And shop so glad you are wearing the boots and loving them. They deserved to be worn and glad I could pass them on to someone who would appreciate them x

Got it QueenC will update everyone once have replies. Mumsnet - please set up a reply all facility. V frustrating..... Thanks

Anyone with size 3 feet after a bargain pair of lime green Lanvin ballet flats? here

lol Wine love all these lists.

Sleep they look good.

Has anyone ordered anything from Madewell? I don't know anything about the brand.

Ah not sure they deliver to the UK.

Glad you got the Gigi's Winefairy .
I shoehorned my arse into size 30's in the Carly's.
I'm a 31 in Hudsons, so it was my own fault they didn't fit :o

Marsha did you want some MiH Paris?
I've found some in various colours for £70-£80

Ah thanks Anni, I already have the off-white Paris so am ok.

Although I'm so pleased I got them back I feel rather annoyed I paid so much. Especially after all the bargains lately. But better than losing the £120 so trying not to think about it!

But they sound good, if no one fancies them, would love to see the link anyway.

I still don't know how to link on the stupid nexus.

House of Fraser, clearance section.
Loads of nice jeans.

Thanks for all the ebay tips - in the end I didn't get to bid - I had unexpected visitors who just texted an hour before they arrived so cue some frantic tidying and scone baking! Then a minor family drama kicked off in Ireland so spent the afternoon entertaining while taking calls (all a storm in a teacup) so no shopping for me!
Grumpy lovely to 'meet' yet another Voguette from the auld sod - excellent homework assignment!
Decam thanks for mentioning google - I hadn't looked - love it! BTW is the 20% of Me&Em the VIP code you mentioned before or is there one a non VIP could use?

'off' not 'of'

Totally random post.... There are a few of us turning 40 this year and some already 40. Will you be/ did you changing your style because you're 40 or think something isn't appropriate now that you're 40? Genuinely fascinated by the number of threads in S&B that have being 40 as a factor. I kind of feel like I didn't get that memo in my pile of gifts! I am in good company in my family. Dmil (65) was showing me the most foxy pair of red shoes last week and some leopard print flats. Both dm and dmil always look amazing. V different styles but neither are ready to dress like an "old lady" yet. Sorry for rambling

I meant to add have I got this all wrong and I will feel differently when I am 45??! Or it will just hit me at some point?

Nothing changed for me when I hit 40 other than I 'met' you lovely lot and learned to think about my purchases a bit more. I still dress as inappropriately as ever!
But the looming 40s definitely made me assess things more....

Novice great question.

For me turning 40 is a really big deal and it's made me think that I have to do the things I have been putting off in every area including style. For years I have said 'I'll dress better when I lose more weight' and 'someday I'll own amazing bags/shoes/jewellery' and the realisation that now I am almost 40 has made me just think 'when am I going to do these things?'

The penny has dropped. I am probably never going to look better (hormone issues mean menopause is prematurely looming), and all the evidence suggests that I am probably never going to get any thinner so I need to just get the f*%k on with it and be the person I have always aspired to being. And the person I want to be has style! Lots of it!!!

Probably one of the only good things about being chubby in my teens and twenties is that I don't have any nostalgia for 'how I used to be'. I dress better now and with more of an eye to trends than I ever did before.

I turned 40 at the beginning of this year novice - I kind of feel like I've only recently found (or been able to properly realise) my style so I'm certainly not planning on changing it just because I've hit 40! Physically I am in better shape than I have ever been in my life and budget wise I am better off than I have ever been, so I am loving shopping for fabulous things!

Re feeling too old for stuff - I do think there are things that I would avoid...I posted a link to those pics of Kate Moss in her tux and sparkly tights on another thread...whilst I think there are lots of things that could be worn (as in someone's 40(ish) body is more than up to it), that doesn't mean they should be. Sometimes less is more and so much sexier for it. You can end up looking like you are trying too hard. I have never been confident enough in my legs and bum to go for too much exposure but I certainly am much more modest with cleavage now than I would have been ten years ago..also some stuff that you can wear cheekily in your 20's (lots of jewellery/leopard print as an example) can actually add years to someone in their 40's.

I agree that age is definitely no problem for many naturally stylish individuals - my MIL is the same as yours novice - see also Anna Wintour, Julianne Moore, Helen Mirren etc for proof .

And agreed with Sleep I am more financially secure now too so can afford to treat myself a bit and why not just enjoy that?

I should add that another huge factor for me has been having a daughter. My mum has no interest in fashion and style at all but is absolutely obsessed with weight (especially mine!) - I really want to be a role model for my DD. I want her to see me being comfortable with myself, fit and healthy and stylish. And I'd like her to inherit some lovely vintage dresses/bags and pieces of jewellery some day .

I agree liberty - the thought of my DD being bothered about her weight horrifies me. DH and I are probably slightly obsessive about exercise but I regard her growing up seeing it as normal to be fit and active as a good thing. We also love food and cooking so encourage that too. I recently realised I need to stop buying health and fitness magazines because 90% of the time the front page screams something along the lines of "Drop a dress size" or "shrink your shape" - not the reason I buy them but now DD is starting to read everything she glimpses that message will start seeping in [sad[]

Completely agree with all of you and everything you've said sleep
I'm 46 and get so fed up with the , not really ageism, but feeling that things change or suddenly you have to wear jeans suitable for a 40 yr old. For me it wasn't scary at all....I'm still me, I don't bang on about my age, I love to let my hair down and have a good laugh and I really enjoy the company of younger people as well as people my own age.
Style wise I've always been a fairly classic dresser, whilst not being frumpy, and follow trends, but not to an extreme.
My 40s honestly have been the best decade on a personal level. Like sleep I lost weight, cut my hair, went to the gym, and I have more time because my kids are older and have a reasonable amount to spend on me.
There are some clothes that obviously would look ridiculous on me, but I don't discount the younger shops or trends altogether.
There are some wonderful role models out there .......Carine Roitfeld is nearly 60 and bloody chic although looks like she needs a good bath, Gwyneth P, Sharon Stone, Jennifer Anniston , Kirsten Scott Thomas, yes yes to the amazing Juliane Moore, beautiful,chic lady.
My big thing is, though, I'm a bit stuck in a 20s spending mindset.....a wierd thing to explain without sounding frivolous etc, please don't think I'm being flash etc....but sometimes I shop in cheaper shops because I'm still in the mindset I was in in my 20s (no cash) and so I'm still mostly quite frugal, when I could actually go to slightly better quality shops . This is what I'm loving about this thread........I'm trying to invest more in certain items.

Well, since I turned 50 last year, I would say enjoy! Actually, looking at photos, I think I look and dress better now than I did at 40. DCs being so much older definitely helps as I have more time. Despite one being at uni and one due to go next Sept, I have more to spend, which also helps. I'm dreading the empty nest, it was bad enough when one went, but quite excited about being more of a couple, and having more time for me.

The all time worst line my mother had when I was in my teens was 'this must be the only house in Ireland where the mother is a size 10 and the daughter a size 16' I will NEVER do that to my DD and I will happily kill my mother if she ever comments on size around my DD. I have decided that I need to keep magazines away from DD too - and she is only 2! I think it's important that children see you being active, that way it does become normal. My DH is from NZ and his family are really outdoorsy and active. He has great childhood memories of the family doing the milford track during half term breaks.

Good to hear that it keeps getting better Drywhite and Topaz.
Do any of you remember the 'sunscreen song'? Best lines are

^Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not
understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you?ll look back at photos of yourself and
recall in a way you can?t grasp now how much possibility lay before
you and how fabulous you really looked^

I often look at old photos and wish I had then, the confidence I have now.

Oh liberty that's awful with your mum . DD is 4 and already she sometimes prods at her thighs and says they are fat and of course they aren't...I am not convinced she means or understands it, she is sort of saying it because she has heard it somewhere but I have no idea where it comes from, I certainly never make comments about my own (or other people's) bodies like that .

Me too liberty. I spent my 20s stressing about my bum, I don't think I've ever worn a bikini.....and I've never been bigger than a size12!!!!!!! I look back at photos and see a slim me when I thought I was huge. Bloody wasted time. And now I've got wrinkles laughter lines.
I tell my dd everyday how beautiful she is....instead of telling her, as my mother did to me, that I had a big bum ( not surprisingly my mother also had issues with her French derrière which was never that big either!) complicated isn't it? I can't stand it when I hear women commenting on their figures negatively in front of their children........I completely agree that showing them an active lifestyle and good food ( not completely banning treats or junk from time to time) is the best example.