DH needs a good slap. I think he is probably depressed, but as he won't go and see a doctor (he admits he probably is depressed) there's not much I can do about his being an arse.
I will just make appointments with the schools and book me and DD on Eurostar.
I guess the schools are posh-ish - they are boarding schools, so the main criteria is ability to pay for a start (and hopefully, as far as DD2 is concerned, not so hot on the entrance exam). I have asked him to find us a school to look at that falls into his criteria of "not posh" but he hasn't. My main criteria is a) that they have a place and b) that they will take DD2 to fill it. To be frank, these places are businesses, and my guess is that they would rather have a child in, paying to fill it, even if said child is not Oxbridge A * material, than to leave it empty and deprive themselves of the fees.
Yes, the school fees will take a substantial chunk of our savings, but this is what we saved for. DH is now wittering about university fees, but I will cross that bridge when I come to it (like most other people, I would imagine).