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Please help me find jeans for my lovely 9yr old DD

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dizzydixies · 28/12/2012 19:36

That aren't skinny/super skinny but build for KIDS to wear She is tall, she isn't skinny and she shouldn't have to end up harrassed and upset trying on aged 14yr old jeans which barely go on and are 8inches too long at the bottom Sad

I eventually got her woman's size 10 out of Debenhams.

She had the most beautiful pair of wide legged dark denim ones from ASDA which she has grown out of. Why doesn't anywhere do something like that anymore - the skinny/super skinny/skinnier than thou look just doesn't suit everyone, bless her.

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amck5700 · 28/12/2012 23:32

The problem is that she is the height of an older girl but not yet the shape - still straight up and down - the only measuer I would question is the inside leg as that seems quite short based on her height.

I have boys who are both really tall and have yet to get into teenage shape so it's a bit of a struggle - i have found the fashion for the ribbed waist and ankle jeans ideal as it is still comfy but fits better.

I buy mostly from next but it is a hit or a miss in terms of sizes - I'd maybe try a couple of different styles age 11 or 12 plus fit if available - but if you see anything in the boys then go for it - they do nice skinny fit style chinos in different colours but in a plus fit which would be unisex. - My solid 11 year son has these and finds them comfy (he wears age 13 or sometimes 14 and is 5 foot 3)

amck5700 · 28/12/2012 23:40

What about something like these - but teamed with a more girly top?

www.next.co.uk/x513778s2#794794x51

www.next.co.uk/x512786s2#843631x51

TenPercenter · 28/12/2012 23:41

I have similar problems with dd(9) she is not the standard straight up and down skinny as a rake type, she just lives in leggings, I think trying on jeans that are too small has put her off.

amck5700 · 28/12/2012 23:47

or these:
www.next.co.uk/x51770s3#777935x51

or these are girls, not plus fit but not tight at the waist

www.next.co.uk/x512666s4#148880x51
www.next.co.uk/search?w=rib%20waist&af=gender:oldergirls

amck5700 · 28/12/2012 23:47

or these:
www.next.co.uk/x51770s3#777935x51

or these are girls, not plus fit but not tight at the waist

www.next.co.uk/x512666s4#148880x51
www.next.co.uk/search?w=rib%20waist&af=gender:oldergirls

Startail · 29/12/2012 00:04

OP I know the problem only to well.

From 9-11 DD1 was not the slightest of children and she had one pair of Next plus size jeans and one pair of petite size 8 pineapple black trousers both massively shortened and that was it for things that fitted apart from elastic waisted school trousers.

In summer she had age 14 school dresses.

Drove me stark raving mad, she wasn't skinny, but she wasn't very fat either. Had she been adult stuff might have fitted, but as it was nothing did.

Adult tops are cut assuming tits and teen sizes get longer, but no wider. I ended up being grateful she found padded bras more comfortable because that meant at least some adult tops fitted.

Fortunately, she suddenly shot up and now at almost 15 she is and has been for a couple of years a perfectly proportioned size 12.

This means she's two inches taller and two dress sizes smaller than me.
I also suspect she'll end up one bra cup bigger than my weedy B tooEnvy

Startail · 29/12/2012 00:07

Oh and she has hair that grows to a plait-able length without splitting which I'm really jealous ofGrin

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dizzydixies · 29/12/2012 00:11

Thanks for the links everyone - will get through them all.

Startail - I think what I object to most is the overwhelming arrogance of the shops. How dare they have clothes for children that young labelled as 'skinny' and 'superskinny' as it it's something to aspire to?

I have 3 daughters. I was made, by family members' to feel like I was fat/unattractive my entire formative years because I was a size 14 Angry

My girls will be taught to embrace their health first and their curves second.

If this means I have to trail through every website or every shop to look for clothes that fit and make them feel good about themselves then that's what I'll do.

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TapselteerieO · 29/12/2012 00:15

H&M do a small range, they are hard to find and sell out fast, they are in the age 8+ range. They are a more generous cut with adjustable waistband. I will see if I can find a link.

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dizzydixies · 29/12/2012 00:17

Oh and I take just as much issue with the shops not having clothing for kids with a slighter build too. It's such an important thing in their formatitive years and pressures added through sodding failures in design/marketing are just plain wrong.

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TapselteerieO · 29/12/2012 00:18

H&M one style - they might have more in store (different style/sale), but they are worth a try. I would order 9-10 for your dd, then roll them up if they are too long!

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dizzydixies · 29/12/2012 00:23

Taps she wouldn't fit the 9-10, that's the problem I doubt very much the 14+ would fit her.

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amck5700 · 29/12/2012 00:30

This would look nice with those grey or red chinos

www.next.co.uk/x51674s2#149162x51

amck5700 · 29/12/2012 00:30

This would look nice with those grey or red chinos

www.next.co.uk/x51674s2#149162x51

friendlymum67 · 29/12/2012 00:31

Dizzy your dd is virtually the same as mine! As per my pm, it is so hard for them especially when all they want to do is be the same as their friends!!

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dizzydixies · 29/12/2012 00:37

I'm fortunate enough in that she isn't a 'sheep' in terms of look. She goes into the hairdressers and asks for exactly what she wants after flicking through the books etc In terms of clothing she's only just beginning to tell me what she likes/dislikes where as DD2 and DD3 have very definite ideas of what they will and won't wear. I think that's another reason why when she says she'd like to have a pair of jeans I want her to have them.

Once we try these ones on tomorrow with belt/shoes hopefully we'll have a pair we can keep. If not we've to do battle with the shoes in town anyway so I can have a look in some of the shops you guys have linked to, thanks again.

And I'll be taking the photos down too. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't seeing the wee one through rose tinted glasses. My gorgeous, happy, perfect, healthy oldest girl Smile

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LuluMai · 29/12/2012 00:43

The style is called skinny, it's not the size of the wearer they're referring to! Other styles are slim fit, wide legged etc. They're just descriptive.

TapselteerieO · 29/12/2012 00:45

La Redoute also worth a look. Might be worth ordering a catalogue because they did have jeans for different shapes - it has been a while since I got a catalogue - but they have lots of different brands too & you can get discount/free delivery codes.

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dizzydixies · 29/12/2012 00:47

And if the style was called 'fatty'? LuluMai would that be ok? I don't think of 'skinny' as something my children should aspire to be and right at this moment I have a 9yr old girl who thinks there is something wrong with her because she doesn't fall into this 'skinny' names category Hmm

I'm not going to change or even influence the fashion world, I am however entirles to disapprove of the way they are marketing their clothing lines aimed at CHILDREN.

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exexpat · 29/12/2012 00:47

Dizzy, my DD has just turned 10 and sounds very similar to your DD - big from birth, tallest in the class (I think she's a centimetre or two taller than your DD at the moment) has started hitting puberty so first signs of breastbuds etc but no waist yet. She has also inherited my, ahem, sturdy legs (muscular calves, chunky thighs - no one in my family is ever going to be a supermodel) so it is always a struggle finding jeans/trousers that fit when everywhere just does super-skinny.

She has now had several pairs of jeggings from H&M children's range (she's in age 13-14, I think) - they are very comfy, look like jeans but unfortunately not as sturdy so tend to get ripped when she's climbing things. Apart from that, we recently got her a couple of pairs of stretch cords from M&S's teenage 'angel' range, which are lovely.

We also now look at adult size 8/10 in places like Primark, Top Shop, New Look etc. She has a pair of purple skinny jeans from Dorothy Perkins which fit well because they have a lot of stretch in them. Sadly I think it's just a question of trial and error and trying a lot of things on, because sizing and cut varies massively even within one shop.

exexpat · 29/12/2012 00:50

These are the H&M jeggings DD has.

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dizzydixies · 29/12/2012 00:52

exexpat thank you - they do indeed sound very similar. I've just discovered Angel at M&S online tonight and will be having a look tomorrow in Dot P. I've also ordered some stuff from landsend for her tonight too Smile

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amck5700 · 29/12/2012 00:58

I think what Lula mai is saying is that the name skinny as applied to to the jeans is meant to denote the style not the fit - hence my son has skinny chinos in a plus fit. I know that is not always easy for kids to understand and the label of skinny is a bit misleading but is it trying to refer to the fact that they are tight round the legs - we would have called them drainpipes in my day. The fashion is probably not for everyone but I have seen a lot of non skinny kids in skinny style and it does suit as many of them as it does the overly slim child - who actually can look a bit too "skinny" in them.

amck5700 · 29/12/2012 01:00

Good luck on your shopping trip - take a tape measure with you and measure some before sending her in to try them if you can.

friendlymum67 · 29/12/2012 01:02

Exepat - my dd is the same as yours (& dizzy's). Big from birth etc, she is size 5-6 in shoes already, hitting puberty etc