hi, getting married soon and my dress has a corset back and is fairly structured. In the shop they also put a proper boned basque on me and the combination of the two was fairly uncomfortable and inflexible. I have a two toddlers so want to be able to bend down and move at my wedding (and eat!). Do I really need the basque type thing or will ordinary stretchy shapewear be ok? (no bra straps as dress is strapless). Advice please! Many thanks x