Is this too bridesmaid-y for a wedding guest?

[AmazeGosh]

www.coast-stores.com/fashion/coast/fcp-product/2224747620

I am size 18 and live in black, but that is no good for a wedding, so navy is my compromise.

It has detachable straps, which i will be wearing. Will also be wearing a shrug at ALL times.

long is good for me, so is empire line.

wedding is all day into evening.

I don't want to look like a wannabee bridesmaid - is it ok, or a bit OTT?

I think its a really love dress and if you were going to wear in high summer with flat sandals and a small clutch with no shrug - I think it would work as just a lovely maxi dress.

But with shrug and in winter - I do think its a tad too bridesmaidy.

Have you looked at anglomania?

I'm wearing this to a wedding in two weeks
www.reissonline.com/shop/womens/dresses/janna/night_sky/

It's a day wedding though, so it's not long

Yes, too bridesmaidy if you're going to my wedding in a month where the bridesmaid might be wearing this dress in navy

I think it is lovely and sounds just right for that type of wedding. What happened to people having bridesmaid dresses and saying "but you'll get lots of wear out of it at other events"?

My friend is wearing that dress this month to a wedding and she is the bridesmaid

I would check colour of bridesmaid dresses and style if poss. If they are in knee length raspberry pink you'll be fine.

ah, fuck it, I'm not going. Too fat to go to a wedding anyway.

don't say that AmazeGosh

I'd never leave the house if I thought like that.

Buy that dress, try it on, and in the meantime find out about bridesmaid colours etc and take it from there.

If your weight bothers you address that separately, but don't let it stop you going out and enjoying yourself. That way madness lies.

its vile. youll look like a ship in full sail. get a dress with sleeves

agree with weight fgs if we all waited to be a size8 wed never leve the house

just something more fitting would be better

tell us your best bits

Why are you not going?

I mean, have you decided not to go or has it been cancelled or something?

would you hate me if I said as an 18 you could find far more flattering things to wear than that which would only look good on a super skinny girl? Spaghetti straps are only for the very thin and very young IMHO.

yup i agree
bet she has ace pins nice hair etc

COME BACK fgs or ill have to go and tidy up

Oh, god, i haven't really got any. Even boobs are 'fat' big, not 'nice' big.

need long, dark, dress. empire line good. Sleeves don't matter, as Shrug is my friend.

prints a possibility.

when is it?
id say 1. stop eating. 2 set traget date for dress reassesment.
eating isnt making oyu happy - we need to ZAZOOM you up. it will be So worth it.

( if boobs bad why empire line?)

yy, no empire line- the most unflattering cut IMO

Did you hate the dress with sleeves I linked to upthread?

fraid so, tethers.

empire line good as stomach appalling.

Does it have to be long? I am size 14 ish, but girl in shop was much bigger in teal and looked fab. I tried the black and purple. Think you can wear black to a wedding as long as accessories are brighter.

Please try this on, it's so flattering and you could wear with a shrug.
www.coast-stores.com/NIKITA-RUCHED-DRESS-/fcp-product/2224756070

Sorry, I meant she had the teal on!

"Too fat to go to a wedding" - NO ONE is too fat to go to a wedding. Seriously, no-one is going to be thinking about what you're wearing, they will be looking at the bride. I can't remember what anyone has ever worn at any wedding I've ever been to ever, except the bride.

I'm not sure about that dress. Looks too dark for a wedding and I don't agree that dark is necessarily slimming.

Why not go for something more like this

actually, that's nice , yellow. I'm 5'7, so can't wear petit, but that sort of thing, yeah.

I don't think I could wear the ruched one, choos, I need a 'fullish' king if skirt that falls away from my stomach, but thanks.

kind

Right. How about changing your expectation of what you want to wear. I agree empire line is not as flattering as people think.

What about gorgeous tunic with great jewellery and smart slim fitting trousers?

Or pencil skirt with lovely top, heels and fab bag?

Or if you're desperate for a dress, a wrap dress will look much better than Empire line.

Any of those sound like 'you'? What are your good bits?