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Crepeys/Hagsnet - the moonlight beckons!

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MrsSchadenfreude · 19/08/2011 23:47

Grin

Because moonlight gives you a nice glow and doesn't show up your wrinkles or grey hair.

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motherinferior · 26/08/2011 18:01

There is some concern that things might kick off somewhere over this weekend. But it's just a general concern, as I understand it.

MrsS: shoot her. You know it makes sense.

wilbur · 26/08/2011 18:19

MrsS - perhaps your mum would like to spend Christmas with my sister? She specialises in identifying areas of weakness or sadness and bringing them up at every opportunity, occasionally accusing those close to her of mental health issues (Borderline Personality Disorder is her latest diagnosis for me) and regularly cutting people out of her life for massive transgressions such as making a thoughtless remark or forgetting to phone her. Oh, and she also won't be in the same room as my in-laws, who are tremendously nice.

motherinferior · 26/08/2011 18:32

MrsS: what did she actually say to your ILs at the wedding???

bigTillyMint · 26/08/2011 21:38

MI, how desperately sad for his family and friends. I taught a lovely boy whose lovely older brother was killed on a night out to see a band Sad

On the subject of Christmas, DH and I decided that when DD was born we would stay at home for Christmas. Initially my mum and his mum, dad and brother took turns coming, but now the DC are older, they are not bothered, so we're able to have a great time doing exactly what we want with friends Grin Decide what you want for your little family, and if necessary, be assertive and stand up for what YOU want.

And tell them August is way too soon to be worrying about Christmas!

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MrsSchadenfreude · 27/08/2011 07:04

MI - she told them that they were ill mannered and common and that she didn't want to have anything else to do with them. What provoked this outburst? Apparently they left the reception without thanking her for a lovely day (she "caught" them downstairs while they were waiting for their taxi back to their hotel - MIL wasn't feeling great and they wanted to get away promptly. MIL ended up in hospital the following week). I wasn't entirely clear why she thought they should have thanked her - they had contributed as much financially as she and my father had.

Oh, and just in case her message wasn't crystal clear, she called them the following week to repeat it and reinforce her views. I pointed out (when I found out - she told me, very smugly, what she had done, some weeks later) that this was a little short sighted of her, as it meant that we would never be able to have family gatherings, such as christenings. As has indeed been the case. (She told me the other week when I was in UK that she hadn't forgiven me for not inviting her to the DC's christening, which took place in Romania - no family came. She could have come, but chose not to.)

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motherinferior · 27/08/2011 09:56

I have Slight Hangover. This is impeding my need to write part of a chapter of the textbook I'm co-writing...and I really need to get this chapter done before starting new job.

herbaceous · 27/08/2011 13:15

I have a Big Hangover. I got to bed after 3.30am! I had such a brilliant night, dancing to gems by ELO, S Express, Kate Bush, Pulp... Such a brilliant atmosphere, too, with people dressed up as everything from yuppies to the Queen (complete with plate of cupcakes). And so civilised - people mopped the dance floor constantly.

Such a good night, by bra had a tide mark of sweat.

Paying for it today, however. I was allowed a lie-in, but only until 9.30. About to go back to bed for a snooze while DS naps.

Re xmas, pleasing ourselves is of course what we should do, BTM, but the problem is my brother. He would have nowhere to go. In an ideal world I'd start xmas negotiations about 20th December, but BiL started it this year, inviting my parents but not us, in JULY, in order to establish control over the situation. It's backfired, rather.

motherinferior · 27/08/2011 18:00

Oh herbs Grin you animal Envy.

bigTillyMint · 27/08/2011 18:48

Herbs, you can dance to ELO? I am impressedGrin

herbaceous · 27/08/2011 19:34

Maybe 'dance' was exaggeration. Waggled about exuberantly, while singing along at the top of my voice. I tried doing a minuet to 'Pretty Vacant', but that was tricky.

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MrsSchadenfreude · 27/08/2011 20:19

I want to come next time, Herbs! I spent this afternoon drinking Champagne with my GBF in his suite at one of the smartest hotels in Paris. He got a taxi to his Michelin starred restaurant and I got the bus home to cook dinner. Grin Am making chicken and blue cheese casserole but am a bit pissed. GrinGrinGrin DH definitely not impressed.

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Blackduck · 28/08/2011 06:48

Everyone appears to be having fun! Ds and I are home, Dp back today, and I am bloody freezing. Talking of sad got taxi home with man who went to school with young guy run down in Birmingham when we were having our version of the 'riots'. Sad
Dp and I had Christmas chat whilst away- well I told him I wasn't going to either home- did that last year and the one before, and can't afford to go away. They can come to us - although really mine and dp's parents are fine. MrsS I second MI - shoot her, you'd be doing a favour!

CointreauVersial · 28/08/2011 14:38

Herbs, you old raver, you, that sounds like a fab night out.

We are having a very dull quiet relaxing weekend - I only left the house once yesterday, and that was only as far as the back garden. DS1 has gone to France with a mate; as ever, when we are a child down it is always incredibly peaceful and harmonious here, leaving us eternally wondering why the hell we went for three.

Talking of families, my mum and brother have had another of their regular bust-ups. My DDs, and DB's two DDs are very similar ages and stayed with my mum for a few days last week. DB has since taken mum to task about her handling of various occurrences during the stay (too trivial to list), mum has taken it all the wrong way and has launched into the "burning martyr" routine and the e-mails are pinging back and forth.....I'm just keeping my head down.

motherinferior · 28/08/2011 16:46

CV, that is what DP and I call the Goat Syndrome, after that Jewish story about the crowded family who ask the rabbi how to make their cottage/flat less crowded and he says Take The Goat In For A Week, and a week later they are saying Oh Rabbi How Spacious We Are. I can assure you that a permanent installation of two, however, is Somewhat Crowded.

motherinferior · 28/08/2011 19:26

Right. What do we think of these or these? DP is tying himself in knots trying to avoid saying (I think) that I'm too fat for them...

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MrsSchadenfreude · 28/08/2011 19:43

Like them. They would look like jodhpurs on me with my rugby player's legs, but will look great on you. Go for it. The sort of thing that you can dress up or down - you will get loads of wear out of them.

I have been cooking after my little zizz - we are 8 for dinner tomorrow night (MI - I am cooking toad in the hole with mash and peas for the Fussies) and 12 on Tuesday for a curry. Have made the paneer (for the saag paneer), kheema in the slow cooker, phall in the oven, and now cooking the Goan chicken. Will do chickpeas and groundnut stew on Tuesday.

Have had no urge for any alcohol today...

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motherinferior · 28/08/2011 19:51

Or these look nice too.

Also I need to cut and colour my hair. DP has shown no restraint in pointing this out.

herbaceous · 28/08/2011 19:52

V nice, MI. I bought some mock Houlihans from, guess where, Sainsburys yesterday, which fulfil much the same purpose.

Just said good bye to lunch guests. Did a roast chicken, plus harrissa roast spuds, but erroneously gave far too much to the guests before serving myself, so am starvers. Considering going to the chippy. Also, a bit pissed. As not enough food to soak up alcohol. May have to start carrying liver around in a carrier bag.

ALSO. Friend update. Friend who went to Sydney, and friend who went to Jamaica, are BOTH coming home! This is ultra marv, as they are both v good fun and on my wavelength. They'd dance to ELO.

motherinferior · 28/08/2011 20:07

Herbs, you are having a good week, aren't you. Apart from not enough harissa potatoes.

herbaceous · 28/08/2011 20:33

And not putting enough harissa on the potatoes. If anyone's following Hugh FW's recipes in yesterday's Grauniad, treble the amount of harissa he recommends.

MI - a good week, yes. But I'm v jealous/admiring of your headhunted work position.

CointreauVersial · 28/08/2011 23:21

MI - I like the Goat Syndrome idea. DS1's bedroom does smell as if a goat has been living there, so maybe that story wasn't far off the mark.....

Trousers are nice too, except for the side-zip ones, which always seem to give me camel-toe or baggy-crotch nightmares. Someone in another S&B thread linked to some M&S ones with a slight sheen which looked quite wearable on the model with pencils for legs. I'll see if I can find a link.

CointreauVersial · 28/08/2011 23:24

Here

With a long top, obv.

motherinferior · 29/08/2011 11:00

Ah. Yes. Those look surprisingly wearable.

motherinferior · 29/08/2011 11:04

Also I have this problem with sidezip trousers involving, ahem, negotiating the bosoms Blush. I have to kind of shunt them sideways to get to the zip.

Blackduck · 29/08/2011 11:24

Just logged into my work email (sad I know, but thought I could delete any obvious crap ahead of return to work on Wednesday) and I have been made permanent Grin guess that is job decision resolved.....