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How do I persuade my friend out of one dress and into another?

58 replies

FoundWanting · 20/05/2011 19:48

BF is getting married and wants this dress. honeypieboutique.co.uk/ourshop/prod_651001-Audrey.html

She is a size 18/20, busty and with big arms (she also has that red, bumpy skin people moan about). She doesn't have much of a waist.

I think she looks best with a v-neck or sweetheart neckline, and something fitted under the bust rather than to the waist.

Can anyone help me find something wonderful for her that will make her look and feel her best? Budget is up to £1,000 (lucky her), she is about 5'8", dark blonde hair and enviably dark-blue eyes. Wedding is in October at a country-house hotel.

Equally, if you think I am being a right cow feel free to point it out. Smile

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geordieminx · 20/05/2011 19:57

If it's what she wants........

FoundWanting · 20/05/2011 20:04

I know, I know...

She is a very attractive woman, but she is not Audrey Hepburn. I don't think many people could look their very best in that style.

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ggirl · 20/05/2011 20:06

yup agree with you
that dress is flattering to someone small on top

BluddyMoFo · 20/05/2011 20:07

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latrucha · 20/05/2011 20:09

Take a picture nest time she trie sit on. [nasty emoticon]

I'm big busted, underconfident about my arms and wouldn't do it.

Lovely dress though.

latrucha · 20/05/2011 20:09

sorry for typos

Lipstickgal · 20/05/2011 20:09

Perhaps she will have a steel bone corset on to carry it off and so look fabulous.

willybreeder · 20/05/2011 20:12

You have to think of ways of putting her off that dress, I don't think that's being bitchy if it's done the right way. Erm, [desperatly trying to think of ways] Have you tried a simple "I just don't think that style is for you" Pick your moment when you have gauged her mood is good of course. Then suggest your ideas above.

Suggesting a vintage style shrug is a thought, not sure where to shop for dresses but hopefully you'll get some suggestions from here.
Good luck Smile

ggirl · 20/05/2011 20:15

i think she's right in not wanting the strapless style that is bloody everywhere

very hard to find styles with a sleeve or cap sleeve

this style would suit despite the lack of arm coverage

ClaireDeLoon · 20/05/2011 20:16

How about suggesting how great the Sophia is on that site and how that will show off her great curves better? I do agree with you that is the neckline for a willowy type not for a gusty type.

ClaireDeLoon · 20/05/2011 20:17

Or the Marilyn halter neck if it is corseted enough?

moragbellingham · 20/05/2011 20:19

No, you're not being a cow, you just want your friend to look her best on her wedding day.

ggirl · 20/05/2011 20:19

grace kelly ??? bit much for me but maybe

FoundWanting · 20/05/2011 20:20

BluddyMoFo it really isn't about me wanting her to have the dress I want. It's about wanting her to look as fantastic as she can on her big day.

She dresses really well, as a rule, and when I said I thought she should go with the shapes she normally wears because they suit her, she told me that was why she wanted something completely different for her wedding. Hmm

I thought that if you clever internet bods could make some suggestions, I could try to get her to at least look at other options.

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Pictish · 20/05/2011 20:21

I would just tell her 'that style isn't all that flattering on you....sorry to be blunt'

I agree that dress belongs on someone with a petite frame, and slender arms.

In other words....I wouldn't touch it. But I'd want to.

FoundWanting · 20/05/2011 20:22

ggirl that first one is lovely but she doesn't want full-length.

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ManicAnnie · 20/05/2011 20:24

if she feels fabulous in it, let her wear it!

Tanyaaah · 20/05/2011 20:25

Has she actually tried it on? If not, maybe she will be able to see for herself it doesn't suit her.

Pictish · 20/05/2011 20:25

And will look a right heiffer....

The woman's mate is trying to save her from looking like a fridge - we must help her!

FoundWanting · 20/05/2011 20:26

Ha! No she hasn't tried it on.

She is on a diet and is going to wait until the last minute before she orders.

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ggirl · 20/05/2011 20:26

you are being good friend imo

FoundWanting · 20/05/2011 20:27

Pictish You understand! Grin

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ggirl · 20/05/2011 20:28

how about this sort of style