would you tell your teen dd that they should wax upper lip

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or not

No, I wouldn't. DSD's mother wanted to buy her a ladyshave for Christmas, she (DSD) was mortified.

how old is your teen? young 13 or older 19?

Yes and I have, if you, her own mother, can't say something, then who can? Not in a 'you need to remove your facial hair way', we had a chat about getting hair there like you do under your arms, pubic region etc as you get older, and just like under your arms, a lot of women shave it off, so did she think that might be a good idea too? If it's visible to you, then it is to other people and I didn't want my DDs to be laughed at for having a moustache. Teenage girls can be cruel enough without being given an extra reason.

But I wouldn't suggest waxing, OUCH! My DDs used my little shaving thing.

19
she already gets it sugared ,but not bearly enough imo
I'm erring on the 'good for her for being confident enough not to care about it'
and 'can she not see it ffs"

I wouldn't. If she's happy with it, it's not for me to impose my beauty hangups on her.

It's different if she asks.

My dd gets her upper lip waxed. She doesn't find it too painful. Doesn't shaving make it stubbly?

not neaarly enough
she leaves too long between appt

I don't use an ordinary razor dexter, that probably would make it stubbly. I have a kind of mini electric shaver which is really gentle, works wonders!

I wouldn;t want her to be teased for it so would possibly make sure she saw me waxing my Tom Selleck as an opener to a conversation

As a therapist I would strongly advise against lip waxing or even worse shaving. The nature of the hair there means it will grow back thicker unlike the effect on waxing of other areas of the body.

A friend with PCOS had devastatingly bad upper lip hair by the time she was in her 30's after starting waxing and shaving at 16.

I would advise shelling out for laser, it is relatively cheap now, you can usually get a lip area done for £100 ish.

In the meantime bleach with Jolen.

how about 'oh, babe, i saw these wax strips in boots and thought we cd try them rather than that sugaring you do?'

No, good on her for not being all that bothered. She's 19, she knows what she's doing.

well i shave my upper lip with a bic every now and then

absolutely no stubble and does not grow back thicker-

how on earth could it?

No I wouldn't ..shes 19, old enough to make her own decisions about her own body

Yes - make an appointment at the beautician's for her to be waxed wherever necessary!

yep i'd say something...my mother never did and i hadn't really noticed, too busy worrying about spots.....i quickly shaved it after a girl at school loudly told me i had a tash.

I still quickly run a razor over it once a week and its not stubbly, doesn't grow back thicker either...if she bleaches it she'll have a blond tash just as bad.

Have you clocked that this girl is 19 Bonsoir?

Do you really think it reasonable for a 19 year old to have their mum make appointments at the beauty salon for them?

Blardy hell! I'd been living 50 miles away from my mother for a year by the time I was 19.

Yes, of course mothers can pay for a daughter's beautician/hairdresser/shopping trip etc.

I don't find it such a big deal to mention the possibility of getting it done. I wouldn't say she should do it but not finding it really awful to bring it up

Perhaps you could suggest threading?

You didn't say pay for

You said make an appointment for - what if she doesn't want to be waxed "wherever necessary"?

Um, if my mum had suggested that to me at 19 I would have been horrified and really upset! How could you possibly think it's ok?

She's 19, I'm assuming she's capable of reading magazines, right? So she'll know that some women remove hair from their upper lips and she herself doesn't. She doesn't need her mum making her feel ugly.

totally agree with BelieveInLife - was a beauty therapist years ago and saw the results of waxing, shaving and plucking.

GOD yes

I would also go for laser.