Oh no LTEC I didn't, I really appreciate what you have said and what others have said before, because I know you are right, and if I keep reading it over and over again I might start to actually do something about it. I'm just avoiding conflict and disasters at the moment and hoping he'll just go away (yes, I know that sounds awful, but really I cannot stand him!) when I should probably be making things change myself.
bloss that's what I've been invited to.. sounds a bit grim doesn't it, I was invited last year and didn't go, esp as was hugely pregnant and thought I might stick out like a sore thumb and this year I was invited in person and I kind of feel like maybe I should go now, but I'm not sure, not exactly a laugh, but I figure it might be nice to have an hour for DD somewhere in the run up to Christmas because nobody else (RL!) will understand what it's like and that I still need some time to think about her. Where I've been invited to has it every year and apparently it's always packed with hundreds of people (sadly) so not the kind of locatio n where you have to talk or mingle too much. On second thought sequins might be a bit wrong for that kind of event, but you know me.. never knowingly underdressed!!
actually maybe non-black would be best, something bright? eek
dunno
give up