On a more positive note

[WildistheWind]

This morning in my kitchen-

DSD(10) opens up to me about her friendship a school and talks about issues she has with other people, asks, what would you do in this situation ?

I, then, ask a few questions and explain my views and says you can either do this or that, it's up to how you feel and how you want to resolve this.

Very calm and friendly conversation.

DSD then decides she'll do that; gives me a big hug and says thank you, you're the best!

Made my day.

It was such a nice moment and these are worth all the trouble we have to put out with when being a SM

put up...not put out!

I totally agree! Well done you. That's what is wonderful about being a stepmother - often the child sees you as being a great "independent" advisor who they can trust and it's a completely different kind of dynamic and relationship. Fantastic.

WELL DONE so nice to hear something positive on this board!

My stepdaughter seems to do the same, confide in me and she's only 4. She seems to come to me, tell me things about what happens at home and gives me a hug and then holds my hand and says we can tell daddy now.

It is a nice feeling isnt it. Well Done to you !!

It is ! and it is nice to get to a point when your SC finally accept you and trust you.

Thing is, it is and can be so hard at times, but in the long run, things do improve!

A breath of fresh air, I would like to say thank you so much for your support.

I think my thread before got a little heated.

What a lovely moment.

Hey Freedom nice to see you on here.

Yes , heated alright, I left it at that as it stopped being constructive.