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Butterfly1728 · 2025-12-21T17:53:55+00:00

Must be lovely to pay minimal rent at home, afford takeaways daily and no chores when you’re 30! How lovely.

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

arethereanyleftatall · 27/12/2025 14:02

DownThePubWithStevieNicks · 27/12/2025 13:59

If you’ve moved into their home, presumably knowing the set up, you can’t really get yourself too annoyed about it!

Did you buy half the house/do you pay half the rent and bills? If so, you’re a mug. If not, you’re also getting a good deal here.

I’m going to guess that you are closer in age to the step-child than the parent…

lol, if she doesn’t pay half, and is also sponging off their dad, that would be mildly amusing.

BruFord · 27/12/2025 14:06

Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 13:21

Bet you wouldn't feel that way if it was your own child/children

Hmm, I wouldn’t. By 30, I’d like my two to have their own places tbh.

Purelambswool · 27/12/2025 14:06

Butterfly1728 · 26/12/2025 17:44

Yeah I get a little frustrated, one is 30 and the other is 27, able to live the life of Riley really.

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If you would like to 'encourage' them to move out, don't allow partners or dates to stay over. They will soon be moving on of their own accord.

Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 14:39

Butterfly1728 · 27/12/2025 13:53

I did move into the family home and I’m not expected to subsidise them to be fai.

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Well you are being totally unreasonable and you sound a bit bitter

Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 14:43

Butterfly1728 · 27/12/2025 13:59

Yeah, I get it, I sound horrible. What is your situation?

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Yes you do sound horrible

iamnotalemon · 27/12/2025 14:45

You sound awful!! Why get together or marry someone with kids if you don’t want them to be a part of your life.

Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 14:45

Butterfly1728 · 27/12/2025 13:56

That’s a little hard for me to comment on as I don’t have children.

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I d hate my children to have a step mum like you

Sanasaaa · 27/12/2025 14:52

Are you married to the parent? If not, you could get your own property for your financial security and peace, and meet up for dates.
You'd have the bliss of your own home, and none of the drudgery of living with three unrelated adults.

UneAnneeSansLumiere · 27/12/2025 14:54

You chose to get with someone with children, so I have no sympathy. If you want to be childfree, be so.

Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 14:56

Purelambswool · 27/12/2025 14:06

If you would like to 'encourage' them to move out, don't allow partners or dates to stay over. They will soon be moving on of their own accord.

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It's the family home...the childrens home...that she has moved into. How awful for the fathers partner to move in and make life awkward so they move out. Don't take on someone with children if you don't want to embrace famy life

curious79 · 27/12/2025 14:57

I don’t want to be living with any of my kids by that point, unless they are genuinely desperate or for some reason still in education (eg medical masters etc). They’ll be paying rent

Howarewealldoing · 27/12/2025 15:01

But you moved in to their house?

HelloIcetime · 27/12/2025 15:01

Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 13:21

Bet you wouldn't feel that way if it was your own child/children

Yes, the same for all children.

Part of being a parent is to support children to be independent adults, who can problem solve and fly!

One of mine moved to a much cheaper area for work and a house, another house shares with other similar young adults.

Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 15:02

HelloIcetime · 27/12/2025 15:01

Yes, the same for all children.

Part of being a parent is to support children to be independent adults, who can problem solve and fly!

One of mine moved to a much cheaper area for work and a house, another house shares with other similar young adults.

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But maybe the father is quite happy with the situation

Lightuptheroom · 27/12/2025 15:13

27 and 30 aren't really 'children'. You have my empathy. My 30 year old step son has in the last few weeks moved into a flat share. I've been married to his dad for 8 years. He cited me as the problem, apparently me being upset because my dad died is very unreasonable. He hasn't worked in the whole 8 years we've been married and has caused endless friction by refusing to do even basic tidying etc . I've got a feeling his dad is now paying his rent (which is apparently less than I charged him - funny that as we provided absolutely everything whereas this is literally a room) The problem comes when their dad is happy for them to continue living with him at whatever age, as another poster has said it's failure to take flight and causes you problems as you didn't sign up to live with additional adults.

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Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 15:17

Lightuptheroom · 27/12/2025 15:13

27 and 30 aren't really 'children'. You have my empathy. My 30 year old step son has in the last few weeks moved into a flat share. I've been married to his dad for 8 years. He cited me as the problem, apparently me being upset because my dad died is very unreasonable. He hasn't worked in the whole 8 years we've been married and has caused endless friction by refusing to do even basic tidying etc . I've got a feeling his dad is now paying his rent (which is apparently less than I charged him - funny that as we provided absolutely everything whereas this is literally a room) The problem comes when their dad is happy for them to continue living with him at whatever age, as another poster has said it's failure to take flight and causes you problems as you didn't sign up to live with additional adults.

You sign up to a family...if you don't want that don't marry the father. Feel sorry for your stepson with a step mother like you...he's clearly an inconvenience to you. You want the father but not all that comes with him. You cannot cherry pick what suits you

Lightuptheroom · 27/12/2025 15:26

I beg your pardon? How do you decide that ?? He lived in my home for 8 years and did absolutely nothing. I agree that you don't get to cherry pick what happens when you marry someone with adult children, but you're also not in a parenting role with this age range, so it has to go both ways.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 27/12/2025 15:27

Butterfly1728 · 26/12/2025 17:49

I get that it’s hard but there’s not much sign of even wanting to leave, let alone not being able to. Happy to have their money for themselves.

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Mine was at home until 29 as he was saving for a deposit.

I loved having him around

Elmspringwater · 27/12/2025 15:32

PrawnAgain · 23/12/2025 00:14

sounds lovely, where do I sign up?

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Sign me up aswell.
I need a break from life.

HelloIcetime · 27/12/2025 15:38

Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 15:02

But maybe the father is quite happy with the situation

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And that could be the same in any family, biological parents or step parents.

My post was about bringing up young adults, regardless of parentage.

Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 15:38

Lightuptheroom · 27/12/2025 15:26

I beg your pardon? How do you decide that ?? He lived in my home for 8 years and did absolutely nothing. I agree that you don't get to cherry pick what happens when you marry someone with adult children, but you're also not in a parenting role with this age range, so it has to go both ways.

No need to beg for pardon....willingly granted. You don't sound a very warm person at all. Poor stepson

Maddy70 · 27/12/2025 15:42

My children will never pay rent under my roof as long as I live. And if anyone told me they had to I would be livid.
As long as they contributed in other ways

Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 15:43

HelloIcetime · 27/12/2025 15:38

And that could be the same in any family, biological parents or step parents.

My post was about bringing up young adults, regardless of parentage.

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But it's a very different situation for some people if it's not their biological child...so you cannot equate the two

bottleofflop · 27/12/2025 15:47

I don’t think it matters if it’s a step parent, I gave my son a push at 24 because he was comfortable at home and I didn’t want him at home forever, it’s done him the world of good and we get on better now I’m not on his case all day to clean up after himself and stop annoying his younger sisters.
Some adults are harder to live with than others especially when they’re naturally defiant and reach an age where they can apparently do whatever they want because they’re an adult and they contribute.