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HotTiredDog · 22/12/2025 02:04

On benefits too I suppose?
Personally I blame the parents…
🤔

OP, who are you talking about & why?

PrawnAgain · 23/12/2025 00:14

Butterfly1728 · 21/12/2025 17:53

Must be lovely to pay minimal rent at home, afford takeaways daily and no chores when you’re 30! How lovely.

sounds lovely, where do I sign up?

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Butterfly1728 · 23/12/2025 12:00

HotTiredDog · 22/12/2025 02:04

On benefits too I suppose?
Personally I blame the parents…
🤔

OP, who are you talking about & why?

Not on benefits, working full time and earning very good money…so move out 🤭

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Arlanymor · 23/12/2025 12:01

Are you talking about a stepchild?

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Butterfly1728 · 26/12/2025 17:06

Arlanymor · 23/12/2025 12:01

Are you talking about a stepchild?

Yep

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HarrietSchulenberg · 26/12/2025 17:29

This is one for the "child's" parents to deal with, but it's not easy. I have a 25 yo of my own that is very similar but claims to be unable to afford market rent. He could afford it if he cut down on takeaways, frequent holidays and beer.

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Butterfly1728 · 26/12/2025 17:37

HarrietSchulenberg · 26/12/2025 17:29

This is one for the "child's" parents to deal with, but it's not easy. I have a 25 yo of my own that is very similar but claims to be unable to afford market rent. He could afford it if he cut down on takeaways, frequent holidays and beer.

This.

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Butterfly1728 · 26/12/2025 17:44

HarrietSchulenberg · 26/12/2025 17:29

This is one for the "child's" parents to deal with, but it's not easy. I have a 25 yo of my own that is very similar but claims to be unable to afford market rent. He could afford it if he cut down on takeaways, frequent holidays and beer.

Yeah I get a little frustrated, one is 30 and the other is 27, able to live the life of Riley really.

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Tryingatleast · 26/12/2025 17:48

housing crisis and cost of living means it’s a bit more difficult now for young people. Yes they can forgo actual living for years and years but actually that might not even get them there. I get it must be annoying though

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Butterfly1728 · 26/12/2025 17:49

Tryingatleast · 26/12/2025 17:48

housing crisis and cost of living means it’s a bit more difficult now for young people. Yes they can forgo actual living for years and years but actually that might not even get them there. I get it must be annoying though

I get that it’s hard but there’s not much sign of even wanting to leave, let alone not being able to. Happy to have their money for themselves.

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Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 13:21

Bet you wouldn't feel that way if it was your own child/children

2chocolateoranges · 27/12/2025 13:25

Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 13:21

Bet you wouldn't feel that way if it was your own child/children

Was just about to ask the same.

i have a 24 year old living at home, earning good money, he has savings to move out but I certainly won’t be rushing him out, this is his home.

he will move out when the time is right.

Mrsclausemunchingonamincepie · 27/12/2025 13:28

Surely the blame goes to the sap who is funding this?

Whosthetabbynow · 27/12/2025 13:34

Snowyowl99 · 27/12/2025 13:21

Bet you wouldn't feel that way if it was your own child/children

No of course not. My youngest son earns well. Still lives with us and I’m happy for him to. Has a great job in central London and a great life. Even if he was gifted a million pound house he couldn’t afford to service it on his own. My oldest son found it very hard. Things aren’t like they were 30 years ago. The youngsters need two incomes to maintain a property and have a life in these current times.

Allthesnowallthetime · 27/12/2025 13:41

I have a relative like this. He's 60.

AuntieDolly · 27/12/2025 13:51

Did you move into their home? As long as you’re not expected to subsidise them you may need to suck it up

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Butterfly1728 · 27/12/2025 13:53

AuntieDolly · 27/12/2025 13:51

Did you move into their home? As long as you’re not expected to subsidise them you may need to suck it up

I did move into the family home and I’m not expected to subsidise them to be fai.

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Butterfly1728 · 27/12/2025 13:56

2chocolateoranges · 27/12/2025 13:25

Was just about to ask the same.

i have a 24 year old living at home, earning good money, he has savings to move out but I certainly won’t be rushing him out, this is his home.

he will move out when the time is right.

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That’s a little hard for me to comment on as I don’t have children.

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ohyesido · 27/12/2025 13:57

You should text this to them

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Butterfly1728 · 27/12/2025 13:59

ohyesido · 27/12/2025 13:57

You should text this to them

Yeah, I get it, I sound horrible. What is your situation?

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DownThePubWithStevieNicks · 27/12/2025 13:59

If you’ve moved into their home, presumably knowing the set up, you can’t really get yourself too annoyed about it!

Did you buy half the house/do you pay half the rent and bills? If so, you’re a mug. If not, you’re also getting a good deal here.

I’m going to guess that you are closer in age to the step-child than the parent…

kenadams5 · 27/12/2025 14:00

Bit of contact wouldn’t have gone amiss…

arethereanyleftatall · 27/12/2025 14:01

Butterfly1728 · 27/12/2025 13:53

I did move into the family home and I’m not expected to subsidise them to be fai.

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Why on earth would you do that?!? No way on earth would I choose to live with someone else’s adult kids who I didn’t like whatsoever, which you don’t seem to. Bizarre choice.

ohyesido · 27/12/2025 14:01

Butterfly1728 · 27/12/2025 13:59

Yeah, I get it, I sound horrible. What is your situation?

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it was meant lightly. Sorry

EmpressaurusKitty · 27/12/2025 14:01

Is this the pregnant stepdaughter you mentioned on your other thread?