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DSD’s mum bullying her

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Tomorrowornot · 20/02/2025 14:47

A year ago DSD showed us some really horrible message requests she was getting from someone on instagram.
The account was private and had a random name and photo so we didn’t know who it was but they were personal and threatening things so assumed someone from her school and they were told. The account was blocked and she didn’t receive any other messages so nothing else was done.

I was looking through who I was following this morning and realised I was following the same account still with no photos and a random name but as I had been accepted at some point could see the whole account and there is an old tagged photo of DSD’s mum suggesting it was an old account of hers that she made anonymous to send DSD the messages.

What the hell do I do?
It’s been a year and as far as I’m aware they get on well enough when it’s her time but why would an adult send those messages to her own daughter. And what if I’m wrong?

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lunar1 · 20/02/2025 17:38

You need to start by showing here dad and go from there, how old is she?

TameSacha · 20/02/2025 17:40

Screenshot everything, ideally make a video on another device.

Get SD to send screenshots of the messages (when she’s next with you).

Tell her dad.

How old is she and what’s the contact pattern?

KittenPause · 20/02/2025 17:41

This is a police matter

Take your evidence to the police

Rattai · 20/02/2025 17:43

If her mum was tagged in a photo would that not mean it wasn't her account but someone that she knew well?

Tomorrowornot · 20/02/2025 19:41

Dp is a work and will be till late. He will be absolutely furious.
I wanted to see if anyone had any other explanation or if anyone thought I should keep quiet or contact her first.
i don’t have the original messages on DSD’s phone as they were removed at the time.

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pollypocket90 · 20/02/2025 22:31

Is it possible she sent the msgs to herself? Just a thought...

YipYapYop · 09/03/2025 08:35

pollypocket90 · 20/02/2025 22:31

Is it possible she sent the msgs to herself? Just a thought...

Yeah I suppose that's the other possibility. Is her phone an old phone of her mum's that might have the old insta on it?

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