Oh my goodness - you last thread - its like a Swiss cheese.
He targeted you and is grooming you by mirroring your values.
But if you stop and think for a moment he doesnt demonstrate any of your values in actions through his history - only in the words he says to you.
You are a high achiever, hard working, financially independent with a solid career ahead of you and wishes for a stable relationsip and family.
He is a failure and a loser financially, in relationships and in family life. He has no track record of building a sustainable career path, financially he is a mess, with a string of failed relationships, and a broken family unit.
If he was so family focused why didnt he do everything to keep the family of his child together? I also dont believe his timelines for the marraige failing and the divorce coming through. What is are all the little things that are so outing and personal that you cant say what they were? If they were so little why were they not the priority to resolve rather than let the family of his wonderful DC collapse?
Why do you think that you need to say to him that if you find out that any of these details are inaccurate you will leave? That's very odd - it tells me you know he is minimising and talking horse shit. You dont trust him already.
The other women in their 30s clocked this sooner rather than later and knew he was a bullshitter and a poor bet given his track record - so rejected him.
So he has changed tack and has targeted a naive young woman - who has excellent financial set up and fantastic prospects.
He is mesmerising you with the carrot of wedding bells and babies. This might well happen - but you will soon find yourself in the same position as his ex - that you are the only one keeping the show on the road. Then you might well end up a single parent as well.
Or it might not and he strings you along swandering your cash, twenties and your fertile years.
Is he living at his parents and doing 50/50 childcare to avoid paying maintenance - but roping in his parents to do it.
He is a very poor prospect.
Listen to the women on this forum who have seen these types of characters over and over.
Dont let him ruin you financially, wreck your vision, hopes and dreams for a balanced partnership and family, fuck you over emotionally so that you struggle and fuck up you hard earned career.
He does not bring you anything to postively bolster you life. All I can see is how he is going to strip away what you have already achieved and sour your dreams.
Your gut knows this - thats why you are posting - but there is cognative dissonance because he is being highly manipulative with the mirroring, love bombing and future faking - messing with your head and heart.
Look at his track record - thats what you are going to get. Ignore his fluffy words and pathetic lovebombing gestures.