I’m finding myself getting angry and upset over assumptions and changes which seem small and ‘innocent’ but have an impact on our life. They are nothing but at the same time provoke strong feelings in me.
Wise step mothers - Am I making a big deal of nothing? Is this just something I have to get over? How do I manage it when I feel angry and irritated. Someone here said you have to have holes in your tongue - how do you do that?
An example, mum asked DP to have SD Sunday night on her weekend, evening collection - all fine. On confirmation, the time was given as mid morning. When queried as a change, she said a relative is on standby (not arranged), no explanation. So we don’t have to change our plans but the assumption is there that a whole Sunday will be changed with no polite request. The only reason we confirmed the time was to ensure our plans were in line.
Am I getting mad over nothing? There was no obligation (although DP agreed straight away) and there is back if we had plans. It’s more the assumption that DP will just do as told (not asked)
The coparenting situation is good, I realise this is minor out of what is written here. It just makes my blood boil when we are so polite and check everything and she tells not asks