Long standing history here but the situation as it stands is that my daughter sees her dad once a week (used to be all weekend but had reduced due to issues with step mother). SM is not nice to my daughter & makes her feelings known depending on what mood she is in each week, it appears to be a jealousy issue. All kicked off a few weeks ago where SM had some sort of breakdown on the one day my daughter sees her dad and along with some other things, she said some extremely horrible things to my DD and also in front of my DD about her dad, SM is suicidal at times (not in front of my child). This has gone on for years up and down and has progressively got worse to the point that I do not trust her around my daughter. If she would threaten to take her own life, what would stop her doing something to my DD! This is part of the reason she doesn’t stay all weekend anymore, partly because she doesn’t feel welcome in many ways and partly because of the way she is made to feel and spoken to by SM when she’s ‘having a bad day’.Dad claims she has poor MH etc but that’s not my problem. SM has a child of her own who has everything but begrudges my daughter to even go to the park with her dad when he has her for a couple of hours once a week or times how long it takes to drop her off home.
what would you do in my situation? I don’t want him to stop seeing his daughter and I also don’t want to be the CF who tells him he has to choose, I understand she has a long history of mental ill health but I honestly don’t trust her with my child. I have now said he can see her but she cannot be around his wife, is this something sustainable long term… I don’t know what to do for the best.