Should dh come on holiday when dsc holidaying with their mum?

[Stillnosummer]

My dsc are going on an amazing holiday with their mum next summer. My dp has suggested that I take my dc during that time to see some of my family who live overseas. Iv asked if he could come with me but he feel as his dc won’t be there then he doesn’t want to come as might leave them feeling left out.

I can go without him as my dc are fine to travel with as teenagers but I would prefer him there for a number of reasons.

My DC don’t have a dad around so it’s not as if it would happen the other way around so I’m not sure if what I’m feeling is right

I do feel sad that we never get a family holiday together in the same room as with his dsd we need separate rooms as there are 6 of us So can’t fit in 1. Plus our dc are opposite sexes so can never go to an all inclusive hotel type holiday and share a room. The dc are all aged 10-14

Yeah DH is being ridiculous. He just doesn't want to go, and is making up stupid excuses. He wants a nice holiday at home on his own with no kids. He will be living the dream.

I wouldn’t use my leave from work if my DC weren’t around, so I see his point of view.

I wouldn’t want t to go away with my stepkids to stay at my in-laws if I had the opportunity to stay at home and have some space for a bit.

I don’t think it’s anything nefarious like some people have commented. He just doesn’t want to, but doesn’t know how to say it without coming across as hurtful.

We have 7 in my family. It can be a bit harder to find hotel rooms that fit 6, but they are available. Some hotels even have suites with separate bedrooms, and these type of rooms are not much more than double queen with pullout couch and still cheaper than reserving two rooms. But for extended stays, we usually go the Airbnb route. Price is generally comparable or better than staying in a hotel for a family our size, and we get multiple rooms and bathrooms (a major bonus for our load of teenaged girls), and having a kitchen is nice to save on vacation food costs. If you really want to vacation all together, you can make it work.

Also, I don’t think your feelings about wanting your husband with you when you visit family are unreasonable, nor are his reasons invalid for wanting to stay behind, BUT if you’re not going to figure out how use his vacation time to take the whole blended family somewhere, then I do feel like he should at least spend some of his vacation being with you on your adventures with or without your kids, even if his own children can’t be there.

Im sure he would just rather not come and see your family with your kids with out his own children there.
Tbh, me and my husband often take our children(younger than yours but all shared, none step) to see our respective parents alone. It is the only time the other gets a break and we both look forward to it. This summer I took them away for a week to see my family and my husband was so excited, arranging to see lots of friends etc. This doesn't upset me at all.
I can see why he wouldn't want to come and would be relishing the opportunity of a quiet few days.

This sounds about right.